Jealousy is a pest. However, it should never be ignored. It should be dealt with each and every time it stings your life. Jealousy’s root is Love, which is extremely positive. Love with a capital L because when you understand the very powerful force that Love is, as opposed to the distant whisper of ‘a’ love with a little l, you will understand that the capital is as deserved as that of Nature’s capital N. Your human nature is small, the force of Nature is omnipresent, and omnipotent.
If you can realise that jealousy is in fact Love upside-down then you will be able to accept it, because you will know that it comes from pure motivation, despite its effects on a person being negative. Pure motivation can be trusted, so trust your feelings, but do not allow them to dominate your behaviours. This is in your power. You have to control a jealous surge if it rises inside you – bring your mind to heel. The jealousy is just your mind playing games with your insecurities.
Jealousy is not the same as envy. Be sure you know the difference. Jealousy is not possessiveness, either, although the two are often entwined. Please know that you cannot possess another person. That will kill their spirit. If it can be accepted that nothing is ‘yours’ to hold on to in this life, then jealousy becomes unnecessary. You realise that you cannot allow your mind to dominate you with its hints, suggestions, and you move on from feelings of jealousy with a determination. You hold mind firmly in its place – it knows well where that place is – and you stand back and watch your jealousy happen, and then let it go. It is essential to let it go.
C.J. Birch
C.J. Birch 