It is challenging to prevent yourself from practicing transference. In your every exchange with another there will be energy expended in the direction of the other and there will be energy from the other that will find its way to you. It is necessary to be selective with your energies. It is wise in this life to interact with energies that bring out your best. In this regard it is helpful to be of a positive mindset – optimists tend towards energies that lend themselves to development rather than destruction. An important learning is which energies you are willing to accept and which energies you need to deflect. Under no circumstances is it necessary to accept every energy that comes your way.
Solitude for many people is a plateau. A place of repose. It is not to say that solitude does not lend itself to development, but the nature of the progress made with yourself on your own is perhaps slower than the advances that can be made in relationships. Naturally, it does depend on the status of the relationship you find yourself in. If there is unnecessary stress in the relationships through which you choose to learn, it is better to take yourself out of those particular relationship equations.
Whether it can be said that solitude is preferable is a matter of personal opinion. It depends on what kind of a relationship you have with yourself. At times it is far more pleasant to be alone than it is to be with idiots. That is not insulting to people in general, it is just how it is. How you get ‘alone’ is your business. Some can take themselves to that place and some cannot. For those that cannot, it is a pity.