When you hear the words ‘at a loss’ tossed around, remember that the phrase need not be interpreted negatively. The statement indicates that in order for whomever it is to ‘be at a loss’ they have come to realise that prior to their now they had something of great value that they no longer have – and will not get again. At least these people have the good grace to recognise their catastrophic failure to hold on to whatever that ‘thing’ of value was. This is helpful because by facing that failure they are opening their own minds to the actuality of their loss and they are accepting that there is no alternative but to move on without it, wherever that ‘on’ might be. That moving on – in itself – will hopefully bring them to a place of healing, a place where they can begin making amends to their discarded hearts. When you have something of value and you deliberately trash it because of your deluded stupidity, please remember that you are destroying only your own peace of mind – not that of any other. Understanding that actuality is where the word ‘accountability’ steps in. And those ‘at a loss’ will be held accountable – every single one of them.
‘At a loss’ is at times a distinctly fiscal description. For those shackled by the big bad world of finance, greed and ill-gotten gains – being ‘at a loss’ is terrifying news. In the lives of those types, the prospect of watching the numbers that gave them ‘status’ and defined their very existence whittle themselves from billions down to nothing can cause immeasurable stress, coupled with a debilitating fear – and those diseases combined can have disastrous effects. Usually – after hiding denial behind numerous lies, those ‘at a loss’ will start immediately their relentless search for ‘The Perpetrator of Their Misfortunes’ with a ‘no holds barred’ sort of blame-game. Unable to accept that they are ultimately responsible for their own drastic ‘losses’ they will flail around trying to find a fall-guy on whom to pin their fall-out, a scapegoat on which to strap their parachutes. Thereafter, when their fall-guy flies and their parachutes fail to open, they will descend into a state of chaotic desperation. In that state, those types are dangerous. They have sold their souls, i.e. their futures, and will attempt anything in order to restore the balance they imagine they had. It is best to leave them to it. Their wasted efforts expose them further and once totally exposed they will know to refrain from bitching and whining – which is a relief to us all.
Being ‘at a loss’ for words is not synonymous with being speechless. It depends upon what your intentions are. I choose to think that being wordless means that you in fact have a great deal to say, but in certain situations elect to stay silent because the people to whom you should direct certain words are a waste of the energy it would take to utter them. Direct your energy wisely. Those ‘at a loss’ will suffer, too, those protracted silences. Like they will suffer the ‘speechlessness’ that comes with the realisation that the words they never heard cannot ever be respoken – no matter how often they try to read them out loud. It’s all in the timing – and that is not the first time I have said that. Incidentally – those self-same words will not be heard, now, either – no matter which ears the speechless think their ‘right’ words might reach. It’s all in the tone of the say-so and the nature of the hearing ears. The say-so of the speechless, sadly, has no resonance and resonance – like Love – is not a commodity, no matter what your fiscal description.
It is wise – when told in no uncertain terms not to call someone’s bluff – not to call it. Like it is wise not to cry wolf when there are none. That is called stupidity. I am not a fan of labelling, in general, however there are occasions when labels can be made to be effective. Be sure, however, that if you are going to give labels to things that they are the right labels. No one likes to be called something that they are not – especially by a bunch of stupid idiots who know not even themselves what or who they are. Tolerance in this regard has proved extremely useful, as has the cultivation of an unprecedented patience, but there comes a time in some of our lives when enough really is enough. Leave the idiots to themselves, let them wallow in their shallows and die of their denial. There is a great distance to travel to that place where our wonders never cease and with that in mind we cannot – or more to the point, will not – carry carrion. We travel light. Ours is a protracted journey and it is not one we will make carrying shit on our backs. We are well within our rights to assert such a statement of fact.
If you have never read Aesop’s Fables, I suggest you do so. It is likely you will learn something that you will never forget. Not forgetting is the very first stage of remembering – and remembering is a very big word. It is essentially one that should not be forgotten. The reason for this is that your remembrances are what you are – hence they are what you become in your future. If you choose to recall all the shit that has hit your Life fan and remain bitter about it until your dying day (and on this planet we will all have one of those) then you will morph into a twisted shithead. That is a given. Given a choice, I certainly would not elect to embody myself in memories built of shit. Like I would not select to live in a house made of cards. That is not to say that shit is best avoided – it isn’t. It is best to hit it head-on. Personally, I work storms before I do the calm. That is my MO and it is not set to change in this infinity.
When you cry wolf – remember that wolves will usually travel in packs. That is what wolves do, which is why it is not wise to run with them if you cannot speak wolf. Another thing – when said wolves reach you and your projected dilemma, they will be hungry to save you from your attacker(s). That hunger is not easily assuaged. If – upon arrival – they should discover that your dilemma – your ‘life-threatening’ situation – is a lie, then they will simply eat you. That is how it works with wolves. They are not fussy about the nature of their meals, they are fussy about wasting their energy. They will ensure that they are fed for their efforts and they will not hesitate to start with your head. The reason for this is to prevent another call-out by those they have proven to be liars. Theirs’ is a natural wisdom, an unflinching instinct. Do not pretend with a wolf, it can see straight through you.
Moderate worry – if only because worrying makes little difference to any outcome. Be aware that a preoccupation with trying to control a situation by anticipating its worst is counter-productive to its actual outcome. You worry that tomorrow will come with some vengeance, for instance. And tomorrow probably will, but how does your fretting – your restless toing and indecisive froing – affect its manifestation? It simply doesn’t. The first thing to realise when you are allocating to yourself any kind of panic is that you are wasting your energy and adversely impacting your thinking facility. You are powerless – using worry – to effect any life changes of a positive kind.
It makes sense to worry a little. It maintains your presence of mind and it keeps reality real. It is only in an ideal world that there are no worries to worry about and it would be fair to say that the people inhabiting this planet certainly do not embody an ideal world. Worry implies care. It demonstrates a selflessness – unless your concerns are purely self-serving. We cannot but worry about our children and about the state of the planet, the nature of our changing environment. The plight of humankind. The key is not to become consumed by concerns that do not concern you. Worry about what you can influence. Let those that can influence what you cannot do what they can do and in the interim spend some time and energy building a future about which no-one has to worry.
If you do not monitor the door open to your worries you will find yourself inundated daily with a succession of sudden crises that you cannot handle. You need to manage your happenings in such a way that you become adept at discerning when to let a worry into your consciousness and when to deflect it. Worries are known to grow uncontrollably when they are over-indulged and it is therefore vital to address them with the correct amount of relevant attention. If you will waste your days dwelling on what is not important you must realise that what is of importance has a way of deciding the future outcome for itself.
That is why it is vital to know what your purpose on this planet, is. Then you will understand why you have been built the way you have. It is important not to identify too closely with your ‘build’ – it does not necessarily define you. It can, of course, but again that depends on what your particular purpose is. It also has something to do with how you come to realise what that purpose – your destiny – is. When you can come to terms with, and accept, your destiny – you will find that who you are is absolutely perfect for the job you need to do. That is why yes is a word you should use with yourself. Should you be purpose built and deny yourself your destiny by lying when you are identifying yourself then it is fair to say that you will probably end up living the wrong life.
If you are as yet unsure about the nature of your purpose, its role in your life, there are ways to establish how to find out. That does not take three minutes, it takes a great deal of time and selfless devotion. If you cannot be bothered to show yourself your true reason(s) for being you are consigning yourself to the giant void that is a pointless existence. There is nothing worse than living on this planet for a reason you are not able to give yourself.
There are those that are built – like elements are the building blocks of the universe – a certain way for a certain reason. When we discover the value in our diversity we will be more inclined to celebrate who exactly it is that we are. Whilst that truth eludes you, you will see difference in a fearful light and you will be inclined to fight it. The point is that when the starter pistol began the race of time we crossed the line with a view to finishing. Others crossed the line with the intention of winning. Others still, crossed that line and collapsed after travelling three feeble metres. The reason that happened is because from the beginning, they were running on empty – and the initial surge at the start reversed them.
The luckiest is the one whose gun works. Whether it is sunrise or dawn, or somewhere therebetween, a working gun will always be handier than a sword – or a gun that backfires, for instance. You cannot be sure at the moment of firing whether the gun will work, or whether it won’t. That is half the reason for using a gun in the first place – an accurate shot has at least a 50% chance of hitting its target. Those are particularly good odds, given the windage, etc. An inaccurate shot can also hit bull’s eye. It depends on the bend of the trajectory.
If you choose your numbers with intent, your outcome will be one thing. Lucky for some, not for others. In that way luck of the draw means selecting the correct numbers that come up. How you do that is up to you. If you should choose rather with presence of mind, your end result will be better than predicted. Remember that better is where to be, before you get to best. When you can improve upon what was projected, predicted, without undue concern for the outed repressions that attempt to get in the way of said betterment, then it becomes clear that life – as it should be – is on track.
Should you be choosing a card from a deck, I would suggest deciding to be lucky before you take your pick. That way, you can feel your way into the divide that will guide you either forwards or backwards to the card that needs reading. Then luck of the draw is in the number that presents itself to you. You need to realise that the energy expended in the direction of selection is returned twice-fold when the selection is correct. That is how. The why? Why not.
It is challenging to prevent yourself from practicing transference. In your every exchange with another there will be energy expended in the direction of the other and there will be energy from the other that will find its way to you. It is necessary to be selective with your energies. It is wise in this life to interact with energies that bring out your best. In this regard it is helpful to be of a positive mindset – optimists tend towards energies that lend themselves to development rather than destruction. An important learning is which energies you are willing to accept and which energies you need to deflect. Under no circumstances is it necessary to accept every energy that comes your way.
Solitude for many people is a plateau. A place of repose. It is not to say that solitude does not lend itself to development, but the nature of the progress made with yourself on your own is perhaps slower than the advances that can be made in relationships. Naturally, it does depend on the status of the relationship you find yourself in. If there is unnecessary stress in the relationships through which you choose to learn, it is better to take yourself out of those particular relationship equations.
Whether it can be said that solitude is preferable is a matter of personal opinion. It depends on what kind of a relationship you have with yourself. At times it is far more pleasant to be alone than it is to be with idiots. That is not insulting to people in general, it is just how it is. How you get ‘alone’ is your business. Some can take themselves to that place and some cannot. For those that cannot, it is a pity.
Any religious practice or philosophy that discredits the power, the potency, indeed the necessity of tears, is one that makes me not only suspicious, but downright skeptical. When your religion teaches you that tears are a weakness, an indulgence – or even an attention-seeking activity – your need to question the integrity of that religion intensifies exponentially. If you are so highly spiritually evolved that you find no value in the physical expression of sadness then I would have to say your years of spiritual training leave me disappointed and more than a little distressed that there are so few people with a true understanding of pure compassion.
It does not matter who you are – your job on this planet is to raise mankind to the heights they are capable of achieving. NOT simply glorifying yourself and leaving the rest of mankind to ‘save themselves’. If you attain your nirvana, your zenith, you are obliged – in order to demonstrate gratitude for your attainment – to use every piece of knowledge, wisdom and awareness that you have gained in your life to assist others. If you do not – will not – do that, then you have failed at life, by and large, no matter what rung of the ladder you think you are on. The ‘elevation’ of oneself is essential in part, naturally, but the bigger picture is the ‘lifting up’ of every single person, too. And everyone means everyone. This means judgementalism serves no purpose other than indicating your own particular frailties as a human being and your selfish determination to be part of an ‘elite’ group that stands head and shoulders above the multitude of others. That is not acceptable.
We would not have evolved to 2015 with tear ducts and emotions as intense as they are for many people if they did not serve an urgent purpose. If you cannot cry – you cannot claim to feel authentically the plight of this planet and that in itself is cause for my greatest concern. We need to share the sad load. Where do you think the daily agonies and sufferings of the millions of animals – and people – go? Into some giant incinerator somewhere in the sky? They don’t. That pain is a living energy – a force in motion – and for those who think tears are a waste of time, think again. You are not wise if you relegate to ‘another’ that pain by avoidance or the conviction that tears are pointless if you truly understand ‘God’. They are not. That tends towards self-righteousness and self-righteousness is dangerous – inadvisable – for any person wishing a life of consequence.
Tears are an instant stress-release. That is a good thing. An essential in the restoration of balance. They are proof, too, that there are a few people on this planet who do care enough for the wonder of ALL life to cry for the demise of every sentient being. And that – in itself – is a wonderful thing. A reason for hope.