Do you know that children learn ambition from their fathers? Perhaps it is because the father role is traditionally one of working parent. Bread-winner. The need to be the provider is inherent in many men. It drives them to do extraordinary things. It makes a difference if a father is absent from a family. It just does. A single mother can try as hard as she likes, she cannot role-model as dad and mom. For one thing, she is not a man. There are a lot of children without fathers. There are a lot of children whose mothers lie to them about their parentage. This is a sad state of affairs. Each child deserves to know who its mother is and who its father is. How else will they ever establish a concrete sense of identity? We are of our forebears. You cannot escape that reality.
There are a lot of children being bred that will not stand out as remarkable because they have not been taught about competition, ambition. If you do not stand out as remarkable in this world you will find that your career options are few. There are too many of us on this planet. Competition is fierce. Ambition is important. So is competition. Both will take you far on the path towards realising your full potential. If you are not striving for something, you are not going to learn just how magical you are as a human being. You need to push yourself to get the best from yourself. There are too many people sitting down wondering what is going wrong in this world. It is time people stood up and gave the best of themselves to benefit the rest of humankind. By giving your best to the world – in your unique way – you are nurturing yourself and growing your soul. That is the best news about giving of yourself. It is an investment in your future. To do that, though, you need first to find the best in yourself. That is not a one-minute job. You will spend your entire life finding your best if you are bothered to look properly.
It is irresponsible to cultivate children who do not understand competitive sports, for example. It is short-sighted to ask children to learn that it’s okay to be part of the majority. If they blend in with the rest of their peers then who is going to be doing the independent thinking for these children? Competition stimulates children. It encourages them to achieve. To feel pride. It is the mismanagement of pride that serves as a problem in so many lives. If you take pride in context – and have the understanding that it is a formidable part of the ego – it is useful. Just take pride in the right things. You know what the right things are.
Love never fails. That is what to take from the lesson on the left. In an ideal world, love would guide everyone. It doesn’t. Also, it would be everywhere. It isn’t. This world is far from ideal. However. There are those who have it, and those who do not. It is clear to see those who have it. They walk around like the Dalai Lama with a heart open, oozing pure love. Feeding the environments – both physical and mental – with positivity, like prayer flags feeding the breeze. To be able to do that takes a lot of practice, and it takes an extraordinary amount of personal work. You don’t get to be the Dalai Lama by accident. To him, love comes naturally. Love is breathing. Alive.
To understand that we are a reflection of this love is to achieve perfection with your life. Unfortunately there are a great many obstacles between realising perfection and achieving it. But obstacles are just that. They are in the way, they are not insurmountable. They are sent our way to challenge our complacent ideal, our idea of life. We are all affected by our externals, those naturally-occurring factors that shape our realities. Realise that reality is pretty reactionary. It responds to you. It is a pity we cannot control every one of our externals. Nature has the element of surprise on her side. She is never complacent. She is in her same cycle of hot, cold, hot, cold. At the moment she is heating up again. Her path is prescribed. She rolls around as does spring, summer, autumn, winter. Each time, the same. Nature knows what to do. What she did not anticipate was the rush of humans on the face of her earth. There are too many of us. That fact is not worth panicking about, but it is a reality worth waking up to. Who are you to have more than a handful of children? A handful is enough in any culture.
Be aware, too, that you do not need to keep children as contingencies. You do not need your genes out in the world over and over again. These days be prudent. A reasonable number of children should satisfy family needs. How hard must some parents try to get it right? Or is it that a breed of women just do not care that they are breeding creatures rather than people? For that is what they are doing. There is a breed of women with five children by five different men who are not around. What does that say about society? It says society is failing. What can a teenager teach a child? Life experience is what you share with a child. I have seen these mothers swearing at their kids so many times it becomes unremarkable. I do not believe that it is productive for a child to grow up being sworn at. That is like being spoken at. It is rude. From the other side – would you want to be trapped as a dad (and keep in mind a dad is different to a father) as a teenager? Not a chance. These teenage mothers are a problem. The solution? Girls should keep their legs together when they drink or learn to use contraception. They should stop the rush to motherhood. It is not an escape.