Moderate worry – if only because worrying makes little difference to any outcome. Be aware that a preoccupation with trying to control a situation by anticipating its worst is counter-productive to its actual outcome. You worry that tomorrow will come with some vengeance, for instance. And tomorrow probably will, but how does your fretting – your restless toing and indecisive froing – affect its manifestation? It simply doesn’t. The first thing to realise when you are allocating to yourself any kind of panic is that you are wasting your energy and adversely impacting your thinking facility. You are powerless – using worry – to effect any life changes of a positive kind.
It makes sense to worry a little. It maintains your presence of mind and it keeps reality real. It is only in an ideal world that there are no worries to worry about and it would be fair to say that the people inhabiting this planet certainly do not embody an ideal world. Worry implies care. It demonstrates a selflessness – unless your concerns are purely self-serving. We cannot but worry about our children and about the state of the planet, the nature of our changing environment. The plight of humankind. The key is not to become consumed by concerns that do not concern you. Worry about what you can influence. Let those that can influence what you cannot do what they can do and in the interim spend some time and energy building a future about which no-one has to worry.
If you do not monitor the door open to your worries you will find yourself inundated daily with a succession of sudden crises that you cannot handle. You need to manage your happenings in such a way that you become adept at discerning when to let a worry into your consciousness and when to deflect it. Worries are known to grow uncontrollably when they are over-indulged and it is therefore vital to address them with the correct amount of relevant attention. If you will waste your days dwelling on what is not important you must realise that what is of importance has a way of deciding the future outcome for itself.
C.J. Birch
C.J. Birch 