When you hear the words ‘at a loss’ tossed around, remember that the phrase need not be interpreted negatively. The statement indicates that in order for whomever it is to ‘be at a loss’ they have come to realise that prior to their now they had something of great value that they no longer have – and will not get again. At least these people have the good grace to recognise their catastrophic failure to hold on to whatever that ‘thing’ of value was. This is helpful because by facing that failure they are opening their own minds to the actuality of their loss and they are accepting that there is no alternative but to move on without it, wherever that ‘on’ might be. That moving on – in itself – will hopefully bring them to a place of healing, a place where they can begin making amends to their discarded hearts. When you have something of value and you deliberately trash it because of your deluded stupidity, please remember that you are destroying only your own peace of mind – not that of any other. Understanding that actuality is where the word ‘accountability’ steps in. And those ‘at a loss’ will be held accountable – every single one of them.
‘At a loss’ is at times a distinctly fiscal description. For those shackled by the big bad world of finance, greed and ill-gotten gains – being ‘at a loss’ is terrifying news. In the lives of those types, the prospect of watching the numbers that gave them ‘status’ and defined their very existence whittle themselves from billions down to nothing can cause immeasurable stress, coupled with a debilitating fear – and those diseases combined can have disastrous effects. Usually – after hiding denial behind numerous lies, those ‘at a loss’ will start immediately their relentless search for ‘The Perpetrator of Their Misfortunes’ with a ‘no holds barred’ sort of blame-game. Unable to accept that they are ultimately responsible for their own drastic ‘losses’ they will flail around trying to find a fall-guy on whom to pin their fall-out, a scapegoat on which to strap their parachutes. Thereafter, when their fall-guy flies and their parachutes fail to open, they will descend into a state of chaotic desperation. In that state, those types are dangerous. They have sold their souls, i.e. their futures, and will attempt anything in order to restore the balance they imagine they had. It is best to leave them to it. Their wasted efforts expose them further and once totally exposed they will know to refrain from bitching and whining – which is a relief to us all.
Being ‘at a loss’ for words is not synonymous with being speechless. It depends upon what your intentions are. I choose to think that being wordless means that you in fact have a great deal to say, but in certain situations elect to stay silent because the people to whom you should direct certain words are a waste of the energy it would take to utter them. Direct your energy wisely. Those ‘at a loss’ will suffer, too, those protracted silences. Like they will suffer the ‘speechlessness’ that comes with the realisation that the words they never heard cannot ever be respoken – no matter how often they try to read them out loud. It’s all in the timing – and that is not the first time I have said that. Incidentally – those self-same words will not be heard, now, either – no matter which ears the speechless think their ‘right’ words might reach. It’s all in the tone of the say-so and the nature of the hearing ears. The say-so of the speechless, sadly, has no resonance and resonance – like Love – is not a commodity, no matter what your fiscal description.
It makes sense to turn your dreams into your reality, otherwise what is the point in having them? It is not easy to realise your dreams – you need first of all to have had some, and the word ‘had’ infers that your dreaming for your future should have started the day your first breath was taken, and second of all you need the stamina to maintain those dreams in their pure form for the duration of their development. That development can take decades, centuries. Lifetimes. Especially when your dreams are for the betterment of everything. It is empowering when you see your dreams begin to manifest your actuality. It is proof – if you should require such from yourself – that your path is right on track and your efforts have been worth every depredation. It is proof, too, that those self-same efforts have been greater than every single one of the disappointments encountered along the way.
When dreaming, remember that it is not helpful to dream up shit that can never be realised. Dreaming up and believing in bullshit is the most efficient way to destroy the striving of your soul. A soulful sense of worth is nurtured by the setting of achievable goals. The size of the dreams you have depends on the capacity you have to see them through. If you give up after five minutes then you must understand your dreams will be pea-sized. If you equip yourself to stay the distance, your dreams will have no ceiling. It is difficult to explain this concept to small-minded idiots, but try anyway. They may still fold after five minutes because they are weak-minded, or simply not equipped with what it takes to build sky castles – or climb them – but at the end of the road when they are faced with their failures they will know not to bitch and whine. Blame for their failures can be ignored entirely – they own their weaknesses and are wholly responsible for their defeat.
Warp and weft. This way, and that. How you weave your dreams is obviously vital to you and your particular environment – and to those close to you. With this in mind, it is essential to ensure that what you dream has broad-spectrum benefits. That way, should any of your dreams get waylaid or ‘led astray’, you can be sure that their far-reaching effects will still reach you, no matter where you happen to be. Dreams are personal. They resonate with your destiny. That means stolen dreams – hijacked lives – will, by their very nature of being, still be delivered to the right recipient when the time is right. In the meanwhile – until the thefts and thieves are exposed – dreams that belong to another may well wreak havoc on the lives of those thieves, and the lives of those close to them. Remember that. And don’t bitch and whine when you get what you deserve. In this world – we all do. Eventually.
Contentment comes from deep within. That fact cannot be disputed. It comes, too, from how well you handle the projections you send into your future for yourself. When you are contented, the frequency at which you resonate becomes consistent with the rhythm of the greater universe. In that instance – in those cases – you need do nothing but experience the bliss that comes with understanding that we really are in charge – in control – of our own happiness. Trusting is a vital component of happiness and happiness is a vital component of contentment.
Contentment does not arrive on your doorstep unannounced. It has quite rigorous conditions for its existence and is not one of those things that happens without warning. The warnings are the hardships faced along the way to contentment. When you look at your difficulties in that light, you can feel relieved because the challenges you face daily become affirmations of better times to come. They assert that the future we require, the one in which we all have a say, is on its way. There is no happier thought than that, no better outcome. That is why we work towards contentment.
Contentment has quite a few components that contribute to its achievement. Peace, naturally, is one such aspect. Happiness, is another. There are methods for getting contented. You cannot simply step into its space, it is not a one-size-fits-all feature readily available. It requires the near-perfect balance of your person, and that level of accuracy requires a plan. You cannot reach near-balance without one. And you cannot reach contentment without a plan-ful of balanced aspects.
Critics are important. When they are required. When they are not required they are nothing short of a pain in the arse. Critics are the reason there are censors, and censors – where necessary – can be valuable. For instance: censors are needed when it comes to the matters of children. Adolescents should be guided, too, by sensible censors and adults in their own capacity should be quite capable of choosing what they would like to expose themselves to. When critics are selected – and I am not talking about the idiot critics who elect themselves experts on subjects they know nothing about – there are vital criteria that must be met. One of those is the selector’s ability to recognise in a critic his/her inherent intent when criticising.
Fortunately constructive criticism exists. It is still possible to find those who delight in the success of others in this dog-eat-dog world. It would seem that the predominant desire in this world – perhaps because there are billions of ‘have-nots’ on this planet – is to see your neighbour fail once he/she has achieved a degree of success deemed by you to be ‘above their station in life’. Resentments abound. Those that ‘have’ at first become their own clan, thinking that by pulling together they will somehow preserve their imagined pre-eminence and protect their investments. In the manic dash to close ranks in their capitalist panic they do not realise that the welfare of their fellow humans is their investment.
Once upon a time I said that there were some things I needed, and some that I didn’t. It would seem that some idiot decided that they knew better than me what I required and in an act of perhaps misdirected goodwill delivered me to the kangaroo court, the Spanish Inquisition’s firing squad and the Doors of Hell. It was not expected that I would benefit from the experiences, but I ensured that I did. I discovered on my lengthy journey that kangaroos were in fact dogs dressed in sheep’s clothing, that Spanish is a beautiful language to listen to and I learned that my private Hell was nothing to fear. Quite the contrary. It is the scars that are housed in my private Hell that held the keys to the foreseeable future. We all have a private Hell. A personal place we send ourselves at various stages to make amends. The point in being sent there is to fix things, to heal our ravaged souls. There is no point in going there with the intention of inflicting further damage upon yourself for the same old sins committed. You are there to face and accept old fears, to process your allocated pain. You are there to understand your sadness and to let it go. You are not there to assassinate your own character – so do not become your own worst critic.
If you need to scale down what is happening on this planet at this exact time – in order to get it into better perspective – then I would suggest you watch a clip of the moon landing in 1969. It would not hurt either to take a look at the footage of Apollo 13’s return. These things – amongst others – tell the story of what is possible when you believe in what seems to be impossible or you dare to dream that impossible dream. Either way, when it comes down to what counts in your life you will find out that what is seen as impossible, is not.
Another way to measure the actuality of happenings is to fill your scales of justice with everything you have. All your positives to the right and all your negatives to the left. You need not sort through them. No matter where you think they belong – on whichever side – neither will end up in the wrong place. They know where to go when balance is called for. When your scales are hanging heavier on one side – on, say, the left – at the nanosecond during which your exact balance is captured, you will not be required to explain any discrepancy that is evident. Your measure tells your truth and the nature of the future you inherit will depend on that evidence.
Fish have scales. As do dragons. It is best to remove the scales from either creature before eating it.
Moderate worry – if only because worrying makes little difference to any outcome. Be aware that a preoccupation with trying to control a situation by anticipating its worst is counter-productive to its actual outcome. You worry that tomorrow will come with some vengeance, for instance. And tomorrow probably will, but how does your fretting – your restless toing and indecisive froing – affect its manifestation? It simply doesn’t. The first thing to realise when you are allocating to yourself any kind of panic is that you are wasting your energy and adversely impacting your thinking facility. You are powerless – using worry – to effect any life changes of a positive kind.
It makes sense to worry a little. It maintains your presence of mind and it keeps reality real. It is only in an ideal world that there are no worries to worry about and it would be fair to say that the people inhabiting this planet certainly do not embody an ideal world. Worry implies care. It demonstrates a selflessness – unless your concerns are purely self-serving. We cannot but worry about our children and about the state of the planet, the nature of our changing environment. The plight of humankind. The key is not to become consumed by concerns that do not concern you. Worry about what you can influence. Let those that can influence what you cannot do what they can do and in the interim spend some time and energy building a future about which no-one has to worry.
If you do not monitor the door open to your worries you will find yourself inundated daily with a succession of sudden crises that you cannot handle. You need to manage your happenings in such a way that you become adept at discerning when to let a worry into your consciousness and when to deflect it. Worries are known to grow uncontrollably when they are over-indulged and it is therefore vital to address them with the correct amount of relevant attention. If you will waste your days dwelling on what is not important you must realise that what is of importance has a way of deciding the future outcome for itself.