2013 came with a number of surprises. I suspect 2014 is going to produce more of the same. Surprises are excellent things. You should give yourself surprises all the time, just to keep yourself from getting complacent. It is not difficult to give yourself surprises. You just need to be aware of what comes into your days. Whatever you find on your path is meant to be on it. Take note, is all. What you do with each ‘ever’ you find along your way, is your business. A trip to the seaside can be a surprise for yourself. A day immersed in Nature. An ice-cream when you are on a diet. A day off work when you should really be working. Sometimes these things are what you need.
Surprises are good things to give. If you have money spare, buy an unbirthday present for someone you are close to. An unbirthday present is honestly the best present to receive, it never fails to bring a smile to the face of the recipient. Buy flowers. For others, yourself. Remember that a lot of men like flowers, too. There is a legitimate business in cut flowers. It is honest, and it is sustainable. Support it – they are grown for their beauty – their ability to transform a living space. Invest in your senses. If you cannot afford to buy flowers, then pick flowers in Nature. She does not mind. It is important to know that flowers do not cry when they get cut. They don’t feel a thing.
Keep in mind that there are two kinds of surprises. Those that we like – and those that we don’t. We do not like being surprised by the sudden injury to – or death of – a loved one, for instance. That is always a big surprise to swallow. We do not like the surprise news of two young suicide-bombers being used in the past two weeks. Used. Who is busy bending those young heads? They must watch themselves. In fact, why don’t we just dispel the big fat urban myth right here, right now: you blow up other people and you do not get rewarded on your ‘other’ side. There are no rewards for your ‘allegiance’ to a flawed cause. Is it true that the pushers of these exploding people reward the family that is left behind for their relative’s ‘bravery’? That is untidy if it is the case. Blood money.
Some of us are bred to embrace change. Others are afraid. Change is a remarkable leveller and it should be employed by all of us to prevent our getting complacent. Complacency is not something to aspire to. There is a point at which change becomes destructive, however, and so we need to know how to manage its happening. Try not to make dramatic changes too often. Rather go at the process slowly, taking time to adjust to whatever it is that is new to you before you take on another set of circumstances. The same applies to your thinking. In order to change your thinking – and this is advisable for 2013, the year of new beginnings – you need to go at it slowly. Expect resistance from your old ideals and thought processes. Getting your mind to tidy itself up is a challenging task, but one that is worth doing. If you have help in the shape of a good listener who can assist you with the exorcism of bad memories, make use of their facility. Open your heart for a moment to someone you can trust with its vulnerabilities. Bad memories take up a lot of mind space. They waste a lot of mind space. Take them out and look at them, then decide how best to dispose of them. You will never be rid of them entirely, but you can put them into storage once you have worked out their pain. Do not be afraid to change your mind. Never be afraid to change your mind. If it is acceptable for women to be changeable, then it is acceptable for men to be changeable. This is a world in which we work towards the ideal of equality, is it not?
Imagine changing from a backward-thinker to a forward-planner. Stranger things have happened. They say the future belongs to the dreamers. They are not far wrong. The dreamers each have a guarantee. Their futures will happen as they imagine them. It is the easiest concept to grasp. Where you put your headspace is where you will find yourself. You are what you think. And since you are always becoming – you are always changing. You cannot escape it.
Let life change you. The safest way to go forwards (and forwards is a good way to be going) is to be adaptable. When you can watch life unfolding in front of your eyes and negotiate its rapids as smoothly as you can manage its meanderings, then you know you are being adaptable. Adaptable is flexible. When you resist change you block your feng shui. Any blockage in Nature is a problem. You must not restrict your own flow. Let life come to you and take its deliveries with grace, humility. Then let them go. Nothing is yours to hold on to. Feel that you are a part of the flow and know then that you have surrendered to the way of things. Surrender is good when it lessens stress. It is not defeat. Be sure that what you surrender to – if you are able to give yourself up – is worthy of your burdens. I think Jesus is tired of carrying the load and besides, I do not see that piling your sins on the shoulders of a dead man is in any way helpful to you in the long run. All the Jesus-believers need to give the guy a break and take accountability for themselves. That will be hard at first, when you are used to delegating responsibility for your behaviour to God or Jesus. I wonder what will happen when the bottom falls out of the church? It will fall. It is just a matter of time. I wonder then whether the myriad believers will turn on their priests the way the Jews turned on Jesus? I think there will be too many questions without answers. That is the church’s problem now – they have a book of songs to explain life to their children. How helpful is it in this day and age to be taught from the bible? It is not helpful. There are many more reliable sources to use when training the minds of our today-children.