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Depression – Blog No. 43

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I suspect that three-quarters of this planet is currently suffering from one kind of a depression or another. Historically, depression has been either ignored or stigmatised. Its prevalence was grossly underestimated and its shattering effects widely misunderstood. Fortunately, that was then. This is now. It is clearer than ever in this day and age that depression is real – it decimates individuals and families. It is an indiscriminate killer.

 

Depression is excruciating to experience and soul-destroying to witness firsthand. It does not lend itself to explanation – the reasons for entering into a depression are too numerous to document even if there was all the time in the world. Each depressive has a reason for their pain that is literally inexplicable to the outside world. You need to feel it for yourself to know it. And when you do know it, you will then understand its power.

 

There are few depressives that would choose to be in the position they find themselves. If you cannot empathise with a depressed person, then at least show compassion for their circumstance. It is quite likely that there are truths and wars raging within them that you know nothing about. It is quite likely that there are moments in each of their days – possibly their everyday – when they think that death would be preferable to life. That does not mean every depressive is a suicide risk, but it does mean that there are plenty of deathwishers contributing to the collective mindset. Remember – thinking makes it so.

 

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Heroes – Blog No. 26

heroesHeroes are not heroes for no reason.  They are that kind of person.  They are heroic.  Heroes in stories often die.  Sometimes, they have to.  That is the way of heroism.  Since you, too, have to die at some point in the future, why not a die a hero?  It is an honourable death.  It takes some doing to get your actions registered as heroic.  That means it is not a walk in the park being a hero.  It is a very serious calling and those that decide to become heroes in life – or death – should be acknowledged with our gratitude.  A hero has focus, vision, to see a mission through and deliver reached goals with maximum efficiency.

There are many heroes walking the face of the Earth.  Theirs’ is a legacy that speaks for itself.  When you save something or put your life on the line for a cause in which you believe and you do so with a fierce passion for what you represent, you begin to understand what heroes did historically – what they still do – and why they do it.  A hero is a person who helps others, a person that understands loyalty.  That is why their value.  They are resourceful, enterprising.  They are very good at what they do.  Heroes are still required and it is just as well that they do exist.  This world has not been saved yet.

It is time to stop avenging the deaths of former ‘heroes’.  There are too many men chasing each other around brandishing death because of dead heroes.  What is the point of that?  You do not teach your son that he must kill his neighbour because the boy’s grandfather killed yours.  That is stupid thinking.  The business of vendettas is a big business, understandably, there is a firm principle behind an eye for an eye, but there are ways to do the things you must do to balance the scales of justice without compromising your soul.  It is important to know this.

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Good news – Blog No. 8

goodThe good news is that the world of humans is not changing too fast for Nature to evolve alongside it.  Nature is way ahead of the humans.  The humans are merely speeding up the rate of extinction on this planet – their own, included.  For Nature – that is very good news.  As soon as the humans are gone, this world will be at peace with itself.  It will exist without labelling, without cruelty, without greed, without division, without hatred.  Nature will go back to its vast drawing board, as it always does, and in due course it will come up with something even more spectacular than human beings.  It is a pity that there will be no humans left to appreciate the display.  But humans do not appreciate what they have already and theirs’ is the destructive ignorance.  The stupidity.  That there will be no back-slapping on Earth in the coming ages is perhaps something to look forward to.  The humans have always been too busy claiming accolades that are not theirs’ to claim and undoubtedly should Nature deliver another round of ‘miracles’ or ‘universal magic’ or whatever you want to call it, if they were around, the humans would somehow imagine themselves responsible for the majestic feat.  They are that arrogant.

Humans are incidental.  They are dispensable.  All of them.  They are not necessary for the survival of this planet.  What is valuable about a human being, interesting, is its intelligence – preferably when it is being used.  Intelligence does not die.  It lives on, in itself.  It has its very own ecosystem, if you like.  Intelligence transcends death, its reach is beyond the grave.  Like a great many other things that are going to start causing problems for the humans on this planet.  Know that it is possible to be intelligent without an education, but an education does help a great many people access their intelligence.

The good news is that about 5% of the population of this planet can save the environment with their cash.  They could extend the planet’s longevity this way, greatly improve their standing.  They have no standing simply because of their wealth, understand that.  It is what you do with your money when you have it that speaks for who you are, and who you are – in this world – is what is measured.  These people have to want to use their money to benefit something or someone other than themselves, though, and sadly not many of them seem to want to do that.  They are short-sighted.  Selfish.  They exist in a colossal vacuum, which is ultimately to their huge detriment.  Did no one hear that the only honourable pursuit for a thinking person is the lifting of mankind from the gutter?  Raise mankind above man.  There is nothing honourable about sitting in an ivory tower watching mankind flailing around on the ground like a fish out of water.

 

 

 

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Surprise! – Blog No. 2

surpriseelement2013 came with a number of surprises.  I suspect 2014 is going to produce more of the same.  Surprises are excellent things.  You should give yourself surprises all the time, just to keep yourself from getting complacent.  It is not difficult to give yourself surprises.  You just need to be aware of what comes into your days.  Whatever you find on your path is meant to be on it.  Take note, is all.  What you do with each ‘ever’  you find along your way, is your business.  A trip to the seaside can be a surprise for yourself.  A day immersed in Nature.  An ice-cream when you are on a diet.  A day off work when you should really be working.  Sometimes these things are what you need.

Surprises are good things to give.  If you have money spare, buy an unbirthday present for someone you are close to.  An unbirthday present is honestly the best present to receive, it never fails to bring a smile to the face of the recipient.  Buy flowers.  For others, yourself.  Remember that a lot of men like flowers, too.  There is a legitimate business in cut flowers.  It is honest, and it is sustainable.  Support it – they are grown for their beauty – their ability to transform a living space.  Invest in your senses.  If you cannot afford to buy flowers, then pick flowers in Nature.  She does not mind.  It is important to know that flowers do not cry when they get cut.  They don’t feel a thing.

Keep in mind that there are two kinds of surprises.  Those that we like – and those that we don’t.  We do not like being surprised by the sudden injury to – or death of – a loved one, for instance.  That is always a big surprise to swallow.  We do not like the surprise news of two young suicide-bombers being used in the past two weeks.  Used.  Who is busy bending those young heads?  They must watch themselves.  In fact, why don’t we just dispel the big fat urban myth right here, right now:  you blow up other people and you do not get rewarded on your ‘other’ side.  There are no rewards for your ‘allegiance’ to a flawed cause.  Is it true that the pushers of these exploding people reward the family that is left behind for their relative’s ‘bravery’?  That is untidy if it is the case.  Blood money.

 

 

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Closure – Blog No. 1

VWNoUSPlease understand that without closure you cannot move forwards.  Closure is the first step towards repair.  If you do not care to repair the damages done to you then I guess yours is a pretty pointless existence.  It is vital to recognise damages done, and it is vital to assimilate those damages so that you can get yourself into a position where you can work your future without the drag of your past.  You are not in the past, stop living there.  You are in the now.  Your future is waiting patiently for you to wake up and claim it.

Should you be struggling to find closure after the death of a loved one, remember that their death has opened doors for you.  A death always does.  I would suggest viewing the body of the departed, if such is possible, before you say your farewells.  Seeing the lifeless corpse is not something to be afraid of.  It can do nothing to you.  It is dead.  The death is easier to accept when you are faced with its reality.  Should you be unable to find closure after the death of a love relationship, remember that its demise came for a reason.  You cannot hold on to a dead love.  Funny, you cannot hold on to a live love, either.  Love will not be held down.  It has its prescribed work to do and it is not sentimental about your inability as humans to treasure its actuality.  It is alive, and it moves.  Head to head, heart to heart.  You fail to appreciate its gift to this world and it leaves.  There is nothing static about Love.  Nothing.

Teach children about closure.  Encourage them to speak about their feelings.  Be interested in what they find hurtful, stressful.  Listen to a child’s heartbreak, should such happen to your child and it is able to explain it to you.  To find closure you need to do personal work.  It doesn’t just happen.  You have to be brave enough to distress yourself with memories, feelings, disappointments.  Really.  It is time to be realistic about the state of your internal affairs.  2014 is for progress.  Tidy up.

 

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Transition – Blog No. 94

TransitionLogoSmllTransition is an interesting phase.  It is closure on one level, and the opening up of a brand new vista on another.  Transitions in life – and you will have a few – may cause you to lose the reference points with which you have become familiar.  You will need to establish new reference points and you will need to be pragmatic about the process of saying goodbye to the old ones.  Reference points only serve you for the duration of their lifespan, there is no need to be sentimental about starting afresh.

Transition is about changing.  Again – respect that change is life.  That is the one reality you cannot escape.  The more precious we are about holding on to our personal ‘history’, the more difficult it is to embrace change.  Be selective about what you are precious about.  Transitions do not come without warning, but they do happen without your permission.  They come at exactly the right time.  It is wise to accept their arrival.

Transition is about growing, too.  This can be a seamless process, you can expand your capacity without it being painful.  Often, it is painful.  You are pushing yourself to capacity, and beyond – which hurts.  There is always the beyond.  There is always something extra where you expect to be empty.  You just have to find the courage to go there.  You become what you are meant to be through transition.  Each transition, a success.  No matter how you respond to the transition that is sent to change you, change you will.  So that is success.

Death is one of life’s transitions.  Viva la vista.

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Solitude – Blog No. 93

100-Years-of-SolitudeSolitude is essential.  If you cannot be on your own with yourself for more than a few minutes at a time, you have to address what it is in you that keeps you from peace.  To be at one with yourself, is peace.  If your head is non-compliant when it comes to solitude, i.e. negative thoughts penetrate the space that you create by being alone, you need to ask the bully in you why it waits until no one else is around before it starts its assault.  The wise thing to do when you find yourself trashing your own solitude is to ask yourself what you are doing.  You will be interested to hear the answer.  If you ask the question and there is no answer, then perhaps you need to spend more time listening to your motivations in life.

Solitude should be an aspiration for every single day.  You really should find a place to be by yourself for half an hour, at the very least.  That means nothing talking to you, demanding of you, distracting you.  If you cannot stand being alone – and there are a great many people like that – then you have to train yourself.  Little by little.  Let the time you spend by yourself climb in increments.  You cannot escape the fact that when you die you will be alone in your mind.  Completely and totally alone.  Who and what you have chosen to furnish your head with will determine how pleasant your afterlife experience is.  Please remember that your ‘afterlife’ is not what happens to you immediately after your death experience, it is the rebirth that comes after the mandatory period of solitude during which you will have space to assess your past life and plan your next.

That solitude should scare so many people is a strange phenomenon.  What can you possibly do to yourself, with your thoughts, even when you are on your own?  I mean they are thoughts – under your control.  That they should get louder the quieter you become should not be something that frightens you.  That is so you can assess their message, their frequency.  If there is an urgency in your thinking your thoughts will be loud.  That does not mean that you increase your white noise to drown out their sound.  You listen, you hear.  It is time.  The fact that leaders are so adept at ignoring the planet’s problems is now everyone’s problem.  We are each a reflection of our environment.  The larger, global environment.  It’s demise, is ours.  One, by one, by one.

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