You learn very young what makes you happy, and what does not. That distinction lays the groundwork for the kind of human being each child is going to turn out to be. It is important that children learn to assert themselves whenever they find themselves in a situation that makes them uncomfortable. That discomfort could be the pain visited upon those who are close to them, it could be an older person trying to teach them something other than the truth. Children are intuitive. All of them. They understand the truth.
Your happiness should be a thing that you nurture. It is precious. It is also important – once you have discovered what makes you feel happy – that you understand whether your kind of happy is a healthy happy or not. There are many unhealthy happies out there and they can be destructive, but they each have their reason for being. When we can see their cause(s) then we can decide whether or not we wish to keep them, whether or not they are necessary to carry as baggage. Sometimes the unhealthy happies are simply happy happies trying to explain an inexplicable pain. For some things there are no words.
When you love truly, unconditionally, the happiness of the other is as important as your own. When you understand that happiness feeds off itself, then you will understand that putting the other’s happiness ahead of your own is not only the supreme act of self-sacrifice, it is the natural thing to do when you find yourself at cross-purposes. It’s like finally getting for yourself something you have dreamed of your entire life and then giving it away for no good reason. Who on this planet would do that?
Contentment comes from deep within. That fact cannot be disputed. It comes, too, from how well you handle the projections you send into your future for yourself. When you are contented, the frequency at which you resonate becomes consistent with the rhythm of the greater universe. In that instance – in those cases – you need do nothing but experience the bliss that comes with understanding that we really are in charge – in control – of our own happiness. Trusting is a vital component of happiness and happiness is a vital component of contentment.
Contentment does not arrive on your doorstep unannounced. It has quite rigorous conditions for its existence and is not one of those things that happens without warning. The warnings are the hardships faced along the way to contentment. When you look at your difficulties in that light, you can feel relieved because the challenges you face daily become affirmations of better times to come. They assert that the future we require, the one in which we all have a say, is on its way. There is no happier thought than that, no better outcome. That is why we work towards contentment.
Contentment has quite a few components that contribute to its achievement. Peace, naturally, is one such aspect. Happiness, is another. There are methods for getting contented. You cannot simply step into its space, it is not a one-size-fits-all feature readily available. It requires the near-perfect balance of your person, and that level of accuracy requires a plan. You cannot reach near-balance without one. And you cannot reach contentment without a plan-ful of balanced aspects.
Your natural state is your natural state. It cannot be the state of another, no matter how hard they might try. That is the first piece of good news. The fact that there is a piece of good news is reason for celebration because it means on some levels the bad news is over. On those levels they choose to receive the negatives first and save the positives – the best – for last. I am not sure what news is coming for the levels that chose to take the best first.
Your natural state of being cannot be manipulated. It is perhaps malleable, in some aspects, but it cannot be ‘shaped’. In fact, the more you attempt to bend a natural state into itself in order to use it to open doors that are not yours, the more likely you are to get struck by lightning. That would make coercion, manipulation, pointless. Of course doors will open for the ‘adjusted natural state’ but they will not be doors that I would choose to go through.
Fear is a natural state of being for some. Happiness is a natural state for others. Again – these are choices, made. Like the choice to be aware of your every gesture, word – and patterns of thinking. There is not only one state of being. There are many. The ability to move seamlessly from one state to another is an art worth learning. Any art worth learning does not take one minute. It takes virtually forever.
Liberty is a sketchy ideal. It works in principle, but plain principle is not good enough. In fact, it never was. That is why we prefer to use the word ‘freedom’ when describing a state of feeling liberated. Liberty is a label for an illusory intangible – and what is the point of that? There is none. I find these days that there is no point in most things, but that is no reason to neglect them. It would be irresponsible to the future to leave any karma undone.
I believe each person has their own understanding of liberation. For some, being free from bitterness and hatred – irrespective of the reasons for which those two particular diseases have been fostered – is absolutely everything. For others, having found freedom from the excesses of unjustified oppression will be the be-all and end-all in their days. Yet others will experience freedom to simply be, although it would seem that that is some way from being a reality on this planet. There are still too many people lying to themselves about what they are to know that kind of independence.
The most sought after liberation – in my opinion – is that of absolute acceptance. That seems to be, asides from happiness, what the majority of humans need. When did it become a blasphemous pastime to tell someone they’re perfect as they are – no matter who they are? And who – in this age – dares call ANY other person ‘imperfect’? In 2015, perfect is imperfect. Refusing to accept that which has been presented to you without guile or guise and then attempting to subvert that truth makes you a prisoner of your own prejudice. That is a dangerous place to be.
Winter. Spring. Summer. Autumn. Each has its value. Spring is the season I am most interested in. I would go as far as to say it is my favourite season. It is all about growth. Regeneration. A surge of Natural energy unlike at any other time of the year. That growth energy is essential for the well-being of the planet. For those who live in concrete jungles, it is not enough to have a pot plant on your coffee table that you might look at twice a day. You need more of Nature than that. The chain reaction that takes place when a human experiences a surge of happiness out in Nature is beneficial to humankind, to the collective soul. Those vibes are pure and they resonate an innocence. There is no sweeter ecstasy than being swept away by Nature’s majesty. If you do not feel deeply touched by natural beauty then perhaps you should donate your eyes to someone who cannot see, but would like to.
There are autumnal personalities. Summer personalities. Take time to learn which type of person you are being, when. You will show yourself in stages – each age of you – to be of a season. Your behaviours and preferences at certain times in your life will demonstrate to you – and others – your type. When you understand yourself as a reflection of Nature you become more open to – and tolerant of – your changeability, and that of others. Your personality can go through phases, as can your feelings. You might be completely in love with a person on Tuesday and on Wednesday you watch them across the room and wonder who they truly are. These swings in feelings, behaviours, are not to be side-lined, evaded. They can be extreme on occasion, but even so they are to be looked at and they are to be accepted as part of your make-up. If you refuse to accept who you honestly are – how can you possibly expect anybody else to want to bother? If you spend your days hiding your true self from sight, avoiding your repressions, suppressions and insecurities, you are wasting everyone’s time. Be who you are, when you are. No-one wants to spend time getting to know a liar.
Seasonal flow is how to go about your life. Let your days come to you and then let them go. Take them at face-value. Each one has something to teach you. Know that sometimes you will feel like hibernating. At other times you will feel like you have the fire of midsummer sun in your heart. It depends. That seasons are always in flux should give you a clue as to the nature of the run of your race. Don’t push or shove yourself around. Let the seasons guide you. Each one has raw beauty. Let the beauty seduce you.