09 Nov 2015 · 13:06
You learn very young what makes you happy, and what does not. That distinction lays the groundwork for the kind of human being each child is going to turn out to be. It is important that children learn to assert themselves whenever they find themselves in a situation that makes them uncomfortable. That discomfort could be the pain visited upon those who are close to them, it could be an older person trying to teach them something other than the truth. Children are intuitive. All of them. They understand the truth.
Your happiness should be a thing that you nurture. It is precious. It is also important – once you have discovered what makes you feel happy – that you understand whether your kind of happy is a healthy happy or not. There are many unhealthy happies out there and they can be destructive, but they each have their reason for being. When we can see their cause(s) then we can decide whether or not we wish to keep them, whether or not they are necessary to carry as baggage. Sometimes the unhealthy happies are simply happy happies trying to explain an inexplicable pain. For some things there are no words.
When you love truly, unconditionally, the happiness of the other is as important as your own. When you understand that happiness feeds off itself, then you will understand that putting the other’s happiness ahead of your own is not only the supreme act of self-sacrifice, it is the natural thing to do when you find yourself at cross-purposes. It’s like finally getting for yourself something you have dreamed of your entire life and then giving it away for no good reason. Who on this planet would do that?
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29 Jun 2015 · 08:43
Culture is important to those that have one. A culture develops through the centuries and is dependent on its people living, its ancestors. We all have ancestors. Some are just better remembered than others. There is little that is interesting about those people lacking a fundamental history about which they can feel personally proud, no matter what that history entailed. We have all experienced exploitation and violence in our times. We have all had to swallow our pride at one time or another. Should your culture be dull and empty of resonance, that can be considered a problem of sorts. There are ways to remedy this deficiency, but they are few and far between.
A good way to begin the remedying of a dying culture is to give it a place in your future. Find out what you are, who is in you. The coding of your DNA can give you this information. Once you know the scope of your coding then you need to contemplate how much of your person has evolved through nurture – and what percentage of you is a given from Nature. These kinds of names and numbers are important if you wish to survive a cultural extinction.
There is an absolute strength and a deep humility in an established culture. It is the balance of these factors – amidst others – that determines the success and reach of a culture’s influence. A beautiful people generally have a beautiful culture. If you can recognise beautiful people you will intuitively understand that. Those with beautiful cultures live with the knowledge that the connection they have with their past is what will carry them into the future. We can all learn from those people.
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22 Jul 2013 · 16:34
Transgressing is appealing to a lot of people. Going against the rules, the regulations. In a society as permissive as ours, anything goes. In the worlds of white supremacists – yes, they still exist – where conservative thinking keeps dreams in a very small box, perhaps this is not good news. It is probably not good news for the church, either. Both tend towards puritanism, and misconduct – for that is what transgression is – is not allowed. That is the first reason transgression is attractive. It is defiant and it shows a lack of respect for the opinion of the establishment. The problem is that transgression affects you the same way as an addiction affects you. Once you find your way into its labyrinth, it is hard to find your way out. Transgressing is good for your conscience. You must exercise your conscience now and again to be sure that you still have one. If you should lose your conscience you are in trouble. It is a rudder, a stabliser in a unstable world. Our world is unstable. There are too many conscienceless people. Where do they find inspiration to be as heartless as they are, the ones that rape and murder and torture? How arrogant their disregard for their afterlife. The positive news is that they must live their deaths and their afterlives. They will know how that feels when it happens. Do not take all your guidance from your external reality, hear how you govern your internal reality and take guidance from that, too. Your still mind has answers for all your questions. Some, you must just be brave enough to ask.
Transgression is a sign. Your human is smaller than your subconscious. When the desire to do something you should not do is able to overwhelm your conscience, your moral code, then you must know how powerful desire. I think men should desire women more. These days they don’t get the chance – it’s all out there and it’s available in their faces. There’s no chase. Where has the point gone of being together? Should a man not present his best to a woman he is trying to impress? He should. She should make him be his best, so he should always be trying to impress her. His best should be who he truly is. She will either like it or she won’t. A woman should present the best of herself when she is on the man-path. That is respectful to one another. It is important to know that your best can be found hiding beneath the masks of make-up and designer gear. That is not who you are. That is the illusion you present to the world. How big is your illusion? I suppose it depends on how much money you have and how you choose to spend it.
It is most unfortunate that in this world, you do get what you pay for. That consistency is what keeps reputable brands in big business. It should be noted that there is a lot of crap for sale in this world. I think we have China to thank for that. The Chinese like to transgress. They know what the rules are in this world and they choose to go against them, time and again. Those that can do something about their transgressions, don’t. Therein lies a problem. Keep in mind how disciplined China’s past. They have stamina, as an aggressor in any world. Their mind-power is legendary.
I would be surprised if teenagers did not transgress as often as possible. Expect it in this society. In fact, the adults that transgressed as teenagers are still transgressing – are we surprised that the next generation followed their example? Kids watch adults behave, they learn behaviours. It is simple. Even if you should wave your bible at your children and threaten their sins with eternal damnation, they will behave according to their needs, eventually. You can only suppress a nature for so long. If you will suppress your child, then know that its inner reality is going to be huge. It will be enthralling, addictive – preferable to the one you are controlling and the child will choose to spend time in there, away from the world you have chosen to show it. Realise that the reality inside a child is a reality in which you are not welcome as a trespasser. Children need privacy of being. You should not be telling a child who to be in life. You let it become. You give it mind-space, too. You have to let your children breathe, mentally. Do not force-feed them with your attentions. Let them learn how to empower themselves. They must learn naturally how to handle their abilities and capabilities. If you push your child in any particular direction be careful how hard you push. You cannot live out your dreams through your child. Do not try. Let them become who they are without your interference. Guidance, yes. Interference, no. It is encouraging how adept the today-children are at understanding life, and each other. Communication is at an all-time high and emotional intelligence is being fostered in many homes and hearts. Thank god for the families who have nurtured their children. This world owes them a debt of gratitude because those children will know – and practice – compassion. The children who have been hurt, will hurt others. It is a given. As adults their trend will continue – they will hurt other adults. We need to stop hurting children. That is the quickest way to set this world straight.
Transgression has consequences. Keep that in mind when you are next tempted.
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