Before you swear at the next refugee, or spit on the shadows of heartbroken immigrants, or victimise displaced persons – consider this:
There will come a time when you – yourselves – might require asylum. When that time comes you will understand how it feels to be at the mercy of a system you are unable to control. It is a frightening feeling, having something other than yourself decide your fate – based on what it thinks it knows of your situation. Systems are systems for a reason. People are human for a reason. Letting a system decide your fate is not what humans do. Or at least – they shouldn’t. You decide your own fate – and in doing so, you can change the fates of many people who currently cannot make that choice for themselves.
The next time you find it wisest to sit on the side-lines and watch human atrocities atrophying the human mind, remember that that paralysis is ultimately going to be yours. Each boat-load of hopeless humans is a weight around our collective necks. Every exile, ourselves. Please. Let’s find solutions. Enough children have died for causes that were never theirs’ to fight. More than enough. It is time that adults began seeing eye to eye and teaching their children that in this world – there are alternatives to war.
Your natural state is your natural state. It cannot be the state of another, no matter how hard they might try. That is the first piece of good news. The fact that there is a piece of good news is reason for celebration because it means on some levels the bad news is over. On those levels they choose to receive the negatives first and save the positives – the best – for last. I am not sure what news is coming for the levels that chose to take the best first.
Your natural state of being cannot be manipulated. It is perhaps malleable, in some aspects, but it cannot be ‘shaped’. In fact, the more you attempt to bend a natural state into itself in order to use it to open doors that are not yours, the more likely you are to get struck by lightning. That would make coercion, manipulation, pointless. Of course doors will open for the ‘adjusted natural state’ but they will not be doors that I would choose to go through.
Fear is a natural state of being for some. Happiness is a natural state for others. Again – these are choices, made. Like the choice to be aware of your every gesture, word – and patterns of thinking. There is not only one state of being. There are many. The ability to move seamlessly from one state to another is an art worth learning. Any art worth learning does not take one minute. It takes virtually forever.
Childhood is for children. That means it is a time of innocence. Every child has innocence. Should you be responsible for taking the innocent wonder out of the life-experience of a child, you will have a lot to answer for when that child becomes an adult. It is not easy to ensure that a childhood is untainted in this day and age, but it is possible.
Childhood is short for most children these days, that is why it is important to cherish the idea of it. Again I will say it, if you cannot offer a child a happy childhood, why have one? That kind of a betrayal is sacrilege. Children are all born with hope. Love, and innocence too. If you choose to damage these faculties in a child, you can safely consider yourself a cruel person.
There are those parents that will live vicariously through their children, and this, too, tampers with the early experience that children should be having. Children need guidance, they do not need their parents to make their choices for them. Childhood is a time for exploration, for children to learn how to make sense of the world they have been born into. An adult is not able to make up a child’s mind.
When are you most productive? When you are doing something you like, or when a whip is at your back. Both methods work. For some, deadlines motivate. The chase to the end, motivates. For others, the push is in an obligation, a feeling of being responsible. Why is it that some people feel the need to do something about the state of this planet and others will not be bothered? It is time to kick these sleeping people out of their beds. I am tired of hearing the old story that it is no one’s job to bring the humans along, kicking and screaming. That it is no one’s job to force them to wake up and take stock of where they are so they can decide where they want to be. Who made up that story? The same people who sit on the sidelines and watch this world implode? Too bad for the silent fence-sitters. The story has changed.
You are productive when you are driven, inspired. If you lack inspiration, what can you do? You can search for new experiences. If you are averse to new experiences you must ask yourself why. What is this need to live a traditional life? Why are there not more pioneers? Life is a construct. Construct a model that works. Why are there inflexible missionaries striding around making noise about choices? Just because another’s choice is not yours, you cannot condemn it. Do not hide behind God and shout about what is not right in his eyes when you have no idea what he likes and what he doesn’t. When last did he pass comment on the way humans behave? Does he even care? The problem is that people are still whispering the same Hail Mary the priests were prescribing last century. It works no better now than it did then.
Be productive in your thinking. There is no point dreaming up doom and gloom for yourself. Take your thoughts and modify them to include new possibilities that will improve your life. Know that a productive life is a life well-lived. However you choose to live well, is up to you.
Trust that it is necessary to have your heart broken at least once in this life. It need not be a relationship breakdown that brings it on, it could be your cat getting squashed by a car. A death in the family. It could be that you feel brokenhearted because the world is in the state it is. It depends how deep your feelings go. When your heart is broken, you are forced into a confrontation with yourself. You are wounded and you are not happy. The conversations you will have with yourself will be filled with self-pity and usually you respond to the call of victim for a time. Be sure that it is only for a time.
The broken heart heals if you allow it to. When it is permitted to thrash around in agony it works its pain out the way it knows how. Let it. This is the best way. Your emotions will take the hit, but that can be managed. A broken heart hurts. It is a physical ache, a mental torture. A spiritual strengthening. A broken heart does not forget how to love. Ever. It just struggles to adjust to the idea that its sharing is going to have to be with somebody new. It is hard to let go of the old to make space for the new. In fact that is one of this life’s biggest challenges. Falling out of love with someone is not the end of the world. Recognising the truth of the matter, is. A love lost breaks a heart, every time. A broken heart comes with sadness. Sadness is heavy and it decimates your being, but it has to be felt and it has to be worked through. You cannot ignore it. Remember that sadness will stay with you as long as it can. It is up to you to decide when the time is over for its punishment.
The healed heart will carry scars. This is not serious. Each scar, a love. How can that be bad news? Celebrate the loves you have had in your life. You will know which have been loves and which have not. Try not to hate people you once loved. That is not productive. It is your responsibility to remind yourself why you loved them once upon a time. That reason – those reasons – must be enough to prevent you from regretting your choices. If you cannot bring yourself to a place where you can at least appreciate the learning you have received through loving and losing love, you have a lot of work to do. Each love in your life has been sent to you for a reason. You are a reason in someone else’s life. Assess yourself. Your relationships. Are you getting what you need? Are you learning? If you are not, you must ask yourself what you are doing.
Imagine these two entities – hate and love – crashing into each other. In this world, which would wield greater power? Considering that hate vibes are resonating out there in the astonishing numbers that they are, I think love would take quite a hit should they converge. Like a kick in the solar plexus. I choose to believe that there is more love in our world than hate. I think the love will overwhelm the hate in due course and equilibrium will be restored. Before that happens, there is a lot of work to do. There is a lot of giving to do. Start giving to the world today if you do not already contribute to its wellbeing. It is easy. Tidy your thoughts. Clean up your mind, get the hate you have simmering inside of you OUT. The way to do that is to purge yourself of its negative energy. Pull it into view and look at it, assess the energy you allocate to hating. Would that energy not be better spent elsewhere? You have to ask yourself why you want to hate. Why do you choose to be negative when positive is a choice you can make?
Hating circumstance is not the end of the world, hating a certain food is not a problem. Hating people is a problem. People-hating people are a problem. It is sometimes hard not to hate. I hate idiots. It has to be said. But each time I encounter an idiot I try to remind myself that they are probably ignorant and/or emotionally immature. That does not make me much more tolerant of them, but it does stop me from wasting too much thought-time on their stupidity. Hating personally is a dangerous game to play. When you will assassinate another’s character you need to take yourself in hand. What do you achieve when you spend time judging other people for the way they choose to live their lives? Their lives are nothing to do with you. When this world conquers its tendency to try and manage others’ affairs through manipulation or criticism we will all be better off. Since when was it your business to make another’s life a misery by imposing your judgement on their days? Observe what is going on in your environment instead of judging it. Do not attach values to happenings. Allow happenings to happen and allow people to be. A lot of people are doing the best they can. Watch people and try to understand what motivates them. With some people it is easy – nothing motivates them. Do not waste your time on these people. Spend your time on and with people who are motivated for change. Those who do not want to hear of change – of improvement – will be left behind in the rush to the future. Should you wish to be left behind then you know exactly what you must do.
Love always wins. You can take comfort in that thought if you have no other thoughts in which to take comfort. If you have only got negative thoughts you need to change your life by changing the way you think about things. Instead of thinking about what you hate in someone, think about how it must be for them to live with themselves. When you are a shitty person your life is not easy. Keep your bad vibes to yourself where possible. Nobody else wants them and just keep in mind that when you send them out, they return to slap you on the back of the head. Guaranteed. So. Don’t act like an idiot. Don’t think like an idiot. Leave people to their stories. We all have them.