26 Oct 2015 · 09:36
As a child, when I discovered that Timbuktu was a real place – that it actually existed – I was delighted. For me, that put paid to the fallacy of urban myths and legends. I grew inclined to listen to them all because in part each one tells a truth. There is always comfort in the truth, no matter what the cost. The truth IS what brings inner peace – eventually. Before peace comes the inevitable facing of facts and figures, the empirical equation-solving. If you are an empiricist, yippee for you. I, fortunately, am not one of those. My truths come hard, and fast, and I assimilate them quickly. You can do that when you trust yourself implicitly.
If you should find yourself in a predicament, not knowing which way to head except Timbuktu, it is helpful to remember that Timbuktu is absolutely the arse end of nowhere. It may take the longest time to get there but when you do, you will understand why it takes such a long time to arrive. Timbuktu is home to a great many wayward pilgrims. It is the resting place of the brave. And ‘resting’ in my world is not synonymous with ‘dead’. It means repose. Reflection. Ultimately, contentment.
I think the houses in Timbuktu are probably invisible. Like its people. That is why Timbuktu became an urban legend – because no one ever got there before, or saw it. It decided it would one day become real, like a town on a map.
And that – is actualisation.
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22 Dec 2013 · 09:42
Growth – when it comes to you – is not something that you should try to shrug off. It is persistent and it will stick with you, beside you, until you allow it in and you invite it to change your circumstances. Without growth you go nowhere. The most common reaction to growth – initially – is resistance. Who wants pain? Not one among us, I am sure. However, pain is an inevitable part of growth in most instances. In order to stretch and reach higher, further, than you have ever reached before, you need to invite yourself to grow. You must meet your boundaries, exceed them.
There are countless ways to grow yourself. You can start by facing your fears. That is usually a very effective way to develop your character and grow your human being. Facing fears starts with acknowledging that you have them, firstly. If you should have no fears at all, then consider yourself extremely fortunate. Yours is the ideal space to be in. We are all driven to that space, the place where fears are merely a considered reaction to a situation. If you can stand outside your fears and watch them going on you will find that you are in a much better position to deal with them, to let them go.
Growing means you will need more room to keep yourself. That can mean literally a larger space in which to confine your physical form, or more headspace to accommodate your ‘larger’ mind. Your ‘opened’ mind. An opened mind takes up a lot of space, it has mazes of doors that you will need to open, each of them so you can grow. You have to be brave enough to open the doors, to walk through them. You will change every time you do. That is a frightening concept for some people. It really shouldn’t be. The more you change, the more you grow and since growth is what we are all aiming at on planet Earth – for it is through growth that we will achieve every one of our end goals – the braver you must become each time you discover that it is your turn to grow.
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21 Oct 2013 · 16:08
What are the components of a perfect love relationship? You both get what you need. You do not judge one another for being who you are – which means you do not piss each other off, or disappoint each other. You want the best for your other half – which means you want them to be happy, whatever that takes. If you are not interested in a perfect relationship then why are you in one? Of course these components are ideals. Subscribe to them. We live in an idealistic society. In case you did not yet notice there are a lot of people in this world who expect perfection and so they should. Nature is perfect. Perfect in her execution, her delivery. If you need an example, follow hers.
If you are not in a relationship with someone you love you are not developing as a human being. You cannot develop your connections, your social skills on your own. Your relationships – all of them – mould your person. Be brave in relationships, you will learn a lot. If you do not have or care about having social skills, then that is another matter altogether. Relationships are usually challenging – it is not often you find a perfect love relationship. Know they do exist. If you wish to have one you must expect to search for it. You do not just happen upon perfection. You need to want it, and you have to know how you are going to get it.
You should get to make choices in your relationships. In this day and age you should not be forced to be with someone because another person says you must. That is ridiculous. Arranged situations are no longer necessary, they went out with the ark. Know that if you believe in match-making because you will somehow gain from the association, you must change your thinking. That kind of strategic breeding has had its day. It is no longer the best way forwards. You need to let go of your old ideas. You may not dictate who another might – or might not – love. That never works. Love decides who is best for who. Not you.
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