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29 Jan 2016 · 09:17

Let’s clarify something about Love – Blog No. 7

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I think there is some confusion when it comes to the term:  in Love.  For instance, you can have a deep Love for your family members but it is not appropriate to be ‘in Love’ with them.  That then bends Love’s trajectory towards incestuous and incest is not fine no matter what planet you are on.  The point is, though, it is not okay to hide that kind of shit if it exists and is an issue.  The point is to treat the cause of the problem, not the symptoms.  Ask why a father would impregnate his daughter, why he would find her sexually attractive in the first place?  Why would a possessive mother seduce her son?  I mean that sort of sexual attraction is alarming to me and it really does need addressing.  Basically – incest kills true intimacy.  It breaks sacred bonds.  That confuses children and it causes inexplicable pain that dominoes down the generations.  Therefore – incest is not acceptable and that is not a negotiable point if the healthy concept of family is to survive its deconstruction.

If you are the parents of a child, or children, it makes sense to remember that you chose each other with whom to ‘breed’, as such.  Surely you choose to have a baby with someone you are in Love with?  If you didn’t, then I question why you are parents.  Children are not a ‘by-product’ of sex – make sure you get that straight.  They are a choice.  If you do not make the choice, then do not have kids.  It’s simple, really.  Children who watch their mothers and fathers hate each other for a living learn nothing about Love, about choices.  They learn hate and blame, about bondage and obligation.  They are also torn, often, between taking sides with their mother or their father and that is not the sort of choice a child should ever have to make.  I suspect that there are a great many bullies in relationships – male and female – who enjoy the convenience of a resident punch-bag, as such.  That may be how things are for a lot of people, but it is important to understand that that kind of ‘relationship’ is not of Love – not in ANY shape or form.

In Love.  Again – it may be helpful to understand that ‘in Love’ is not a destination.  It is a privilege:  the beginning of a journey into the heart of what really matters.  Love is not a commodity, despite what some humans might think.  What some humans think matters not, however, and Love knows that.  It is when Love falls in Love that it is liable to lose its own control.  Maybe that is no bad thing.  Perhaps ‘out of control’ Love is exactly what this wounded planet needs?

 

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30 Oct 2015 · 11:59

Insults – Blog No. 30

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It is not difficult to become offended by what we hear – or imagine – are insults directed at our person, particularly because as humans our diversity means that different things piss off different people.  Words and gestures in one culture may mean something positive, encouraging.  In other customs the same words could be curses.  It pays in delicate situations to know which words not to use – to hold your tongue when you are unsure of how your words will be interpreted – as much as it is helpful to speak openly when you know that certain words must be heard.

There are those who find swearing insulting to their ears.  There are those that find piety to be a violation.  Others cannot abide defiant women, advocating a woman’s submission because it demonstrates ‘respect’.  It is interesting that some people find insulting the idea of outspoken women, as if a woman’s word cannot be taken as seriously as a man’s in a man’s world.  Rudeness, on the other hand, is insulting to everyone, on every level.  Usually, rudeness is not necessary – it is a choice, a kind of thoughtlessness.  Like it is a choice not to respond to it.

The way it usually goes is that this one insults that one, and that one retaliates.  Anger is generated.  Then this one spits more insults and that one impacts them.  Anger intensifies.  That one then vents again with a poisonous diatribe in an attempt to annihilate this one.  Tempers flare, faces rage.  And then with a concerted effort one side – either this one or that one – decides not to respond to the provocation.  In a moment, the conflict is over.  No matter your own anger, your fury, your hatred – you cannot force a disciplined mind to fight.

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24 Jun 2015 · 09:58

Stealing – Blog No. 30

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If stealing is something you rely on for a living, you need to realise that the system has its hands around your throat.  When a person is forced – or chooses – to steal from another, no matter how much or how little the other has, it is a devastating sign that the world of ‘haves’ and ‘have nots’ is going to implode.  A situation that exists which entices people of all descriptions to believe that they are better off in life – and the after-life – for their stealing from another, is not a situation I would choose to venture into.  I just wouldn’t.  Call it morals.  Call it values.  Call it whatever the fuck you like.  Labels matter to some people.

Shop-lifting is not a word many of us are unfamiliar with.  It is part of the capitalist system’s development.  Why shops that sell products that few can afford wonder when their shrinkage is annually fairly substantial is beyond comprehension.  That people should not steal is a commandment that has been around for a very long time.  That shops should be prohibitively expensive for most of the populace is not a commandment.  It should be.  Temptation is a dangerous pastime to foster.  As is envy.

Taking is not stealing.  As long as you take what is given.  When you take what is forbidden that is called stealing.  You don’t have, of course, to take a given – but at least in that situation you are given a choice.  It is when people are never given the choice that problems arise.  And problems that arise – particularly those that have been hidden beneath the carpet – are guaranteed to trip up the idiots.

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24 Oct 2014 · 13:27

Birthright – Blog No. 59

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As a citizen of planet Earth you have a birthright. Human rights, too. You should value both. They afford you a status loftier than a rock, for example. Your birthright is involved with your karma. If you do not believe in karma, that is perhaps foolish. Karma is an energy. A living force. It resonates at the same frequency that you do, hence your karma is always able to locate you.

Birthright – as a title – should include the following words in its explanation: safety, love, truth, understanding, choice. These are needs. I am not sure enough people on this planet have access to all of the above when they are born. Today’s birthright seems confused between wants and needs. A birthright is about needs. Only.

A person’s birthright makes itself manifest in a fairly forthright manner. It is the measure of your life thus far. What you have been doing since the day you were born is what determines your reward in the form of your birthright. If you are familiar with yourself, you will know who you are the minute you open your eyes. If you aren’t, you won’t.

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11 Oct 2014 · 11:02

Family – Blog No. 55

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Family is what you make of it. It can be anything you like. It is said that you cannot choose your family but you can choose your friends. I am not sure that is entirely true. I suspect that there are instances where it is possible to choose your family. It depends who you are and where you choose to call home.

Every single person on this planet has at one time or another been a part of a family. Whether that family proved to be dysfunctional or not is immaterial. Whether the dynamics were skewed, or the values lacking, a family at base-level inception wants the best for all its members and this means it will pass on its greatest strengths in addition to its weaknesses. It is what a person makes of weakness that determines their future.

Family is a social concept. It works. It is not something that is determined by a name, or a label. It is a feeling. An understanding. Family members get each other. That is how you know you are family. A family celebrates its members. It is not intolerant of them, nor does it try to repress its lessons, if it is wise. What are lessons for, unless to learn from?

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16 Jun 2014 · 12:35

Youth – Blog No. 36

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It is not easy being young.  Ever.  It is harder today, however, than ever before.  The primary reason for this is an innate awareness that the planet we are on is in a critical state.  There is a pervading sense of doom hovering over the long-term future of the humans on Earth, i.e. the youth understand that because of the way this world currently chooses to work, there won’t be any humans in the future.  It is challenging finding the motivation to repair a damaged world when you have the knowledge that you are speeding towards your own extinction, because people prioritise living their lives – having their ‘moment’ – and that takes time and focus away from fixing the problems they can fix.  It is important to live life and fix it as you go.

Perhaps the biggest challenge facing today’s youth is the choice of what to do with their lives.  There is the ever-pressing concern about earning enough to be able to live the life you are promised in every advert, every magazine.  Without money, we are taught, what are we?  This fact of reality discourages people from daring to follow their hearts and occupy their lives with what they love to do.  Because a person in this society needs to earn to live a reasonable life, a ‘safe’ life, people are choosing careers that will make them rich and safe, rather than fulfilled and pushing at their highest potential.  One is fulfilled when one does work with its own intrinsic value and gets paid to do so.  One pushes at one’s highest potential when one is challenged in one’s field of expertise.  I am sure more of the youth need to be shown that the careers that currently exist are not the only careers there can ever be.  The youth must create their own career options.  They can do that by each developing their unique strengths and dreaming of a healed world.

I would hazard a guess that the youth of 2014 are not impressed with the state of the planet.  Whatever they are not told by the media, whatever propaganda is shoved in their faces, whichever lies they grow up with, they know the truth of the matter.  They feel the planet’s plight.  Their childhoods are short and from day one, they are generally bent to conforming to a deformed social ideal.  Therein lies the problem that if resolved effectively, will change the entire outlook for this planet’s future.

 

 

 

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24 Apr 2014 · 11:13

Understanding – Blog No. 22

understandingIt is an interesting thought.  How do you convey an understanding?  That is some skill, when you can do that effectively.  It is a skill we are all learning, all the time.  It is about being skilled in communication.  However you choose to do that.  Understanding is visceral.  You can feel it.  How do you confer a feeling?  First you must understand the feeling before you can attempt to share it.  When you hear a truth, remember that you do not need to remind yourself to remember it for the future, when you hear a truth it sinks right in.  You have to do nothing more than hear it.  Hearing is not the same as listening.  Also, it is best if you do not start trying to fight the truth with reason – man’s reason ought not be valued as much as it is in this world.  It tries with its noise to out-shout others whose opinions are more valuable.

It is said that love means understanding a person’s position when they wrong you, treat you badly.  Instead of lashing out, you stand back and you consider what pain the person must be in.  Pain governs a great deal of bad behaviour and oftentimes deserves empathy.  This can be challenging.  Of course, should the person treating you badly simply be an arsehole, then take yourself out of their equation.  In life there is really little point in surrounding yourself with arseholes, do not allow yourself to become one, either.  It is a choice.

To share an understanding with another is a beautiful thing indeed.  Your understandings will guide you in life.  They guide very effectively when you have them accessible, your understandings lead you to ever-new perceptions about people, times, places.  Fresh perceptions are necessary in life.  They inspire you.  When you understand something new, or you understand a thing differently to the way you understood it before, you give yourself tools with which to work your life around you.  It is worth taking time to understand a thing, things.  Tools come in a variety of shapes, and sizes.

 

 

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21 Oct 2013 · 16:08

Relationships – Blog No. 81

Family-Relationships-bingoWhat are the components of a perfect love relationship?  You both get what you need.  You do not judge one another for being who you are – which means you do not piss each other off, or disappoint each other.  You want the best for your other half – which means you want them to be happy, whatever that takes.  If you are not interested in a perfect relationship then why are you in one?  Of course these components are ideals.  Subscribe to them.  We live in an idealistic society.  In case you did not yet notice there are a lot of people in this world who expect perfection and so they should.  Nature is perfect.  Perfect in her execution, her delivery.  If you need an example, follow hers.

If you are not in a relationship with someone you love you are not developing as a human being.  You cannot develop your connections, your social skills on your own.  Your relationships – all of them – mould your person.  Be brave in relationships, you will learn a lot.  If you do not have or care about having social skills, then that is another matter altogether.   Relationships are usually challenging – it is not often you find a perfect love relationship.  Know they do exist.  If you wish to have one you must expect to search for it.  You do not just happen upon perfection.  You need to want it, and you have to know how you are going to get it.

You should get to make choices in your relationships.  In this day and age you should not be forced to be with someone because another person says you must.  That is ridiculous.  Arranged situations are no longer necessary, they went out with the ark.  Know that if you believe in match-making because you will somehow gain from the association, you must change your thinking.  That kind of strategic breeding has had its day.  It is no longer the best way forwards.  You need to let go of your old ideas.  You may not dictate who another might – or might not – love.  That never works.  Love decides who is best for who.  Not you.

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28 Jun 2013 · 08:46

Money – Blog No. 51

gun_moneyI hate the way money governs minds the way it does.  It has a power that should inspire awe, and wariness.  We should never be complacent around money.  It is an integral part of an everyday for every single person on this planet.  Whether you have it, or whether you don’t.  Money affords us choices.  As human beings, we are kept happy with choices.  When you have no money, you have no choice but to survive.  That makes for a person who will behave badly in order to get by.  You do what you must do.  When you have no money to fund your addictions and you choose to hurt people in order to support your imbalance, those crimes are of a different nature.  If you are hungry, you will steal or dig in dustbins.  If you are a junkie, you will rob and/or hurt people to fund your hobby.  Hurting others is frowned upon.

There are too many capable people sitting on their backsides, not earning money for themselves.  Earning money is empowering.  A lot of these people have a choice, they can work – they are just lazy and have become totally dependent on state support.  It is not good to be wholly dependent on anything.  There are too many people stealing from the failing benefit system in the UK, there are too many yob parasites and too many disillusioned children of the Empire in that country for the infrastructure to hope to cope.  It cannot cope.  The UK government cannot afford to keep its people in the manner to which they have grown accustomed.  Their’s is a dangerous, rocky road.  What does money mean in the UK?  What does money mean in the United States?  And very relevant – what does money mean in Africa?  In most places, it means status.  In some places, it means safety, security, too.  It would be good if everywhere money meant safety and security, for everyone.  I do not accept that there are people who survive on one US dollar a day.  I do accept that it is not for the rich to pay for the poor.  However, it is for the rich to make every effort to change the way this world works.  They have the platform and they have the resources.  They are somewhat educated, usually, and theirs’ should be a collective social conscience – it just should.  You don’t get rich by accident.  You either work hard and earn or you steal, extort, con.  Stealing is not advisable – did you not hear that the easy way in life is not the trap to fall into?  In anycase, you will pay back whatever you steal.  That is a given.

If you do get rich, make sure your methods are honourable, ethical.  For your own peace of mind.  And give something back.  Make sure you give something back – to the environment, if you cannot be moved to feel charitable towards people, or animals.  Be a visionary.  Be an entrepeneur.  Be the best at what you do.  Command remuneration for your services rendered, make sure it is fair exchange and make sure you do not underestimate your worth.  If you are rich – do not be greedy.  Greedy is rude and a money-grabbing rude person is not a person anyone wants to spend time with.  If your ways to acquiring wealth are not kosher, you can be sure that in your lifetime you will suffer your same treatment, you will be taken advantage of the way you have taken advantage of others.  The best thing about this world is that there is always, always, karma – and there is always, always, consequence.

Money makes most things move.  Most things.  Anyone who imagines that money does not manipulate every class in society, every caste – for there are still the ‘untouchables’ – is deluded.  Unfortunately, money is necessary in our world.  You cannot live without it.  We have made it this way.  It would make sense, then, that we take responsibility for our attitude towards money and instead of using it to demonstrate our successes in life, use it to make a success of this planet.  We only have the one.  We really should use every resource available to make it the kind of planet we all feel comfortable living on.  If someone next door to you is starving, you do not just sit there and watch unless you, yourself, are starving.  You start thinking about what you can do to make this world a better place and you give what you can to those who need something from you.

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