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Transgression – Blog No. 35

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For one thing, transgression is better than either regression or aggression.  It suggests a daring.  Courage.  A questioning.  Transgressors are those who will ask questions and receive answers until they come to a clear understanding of why and how this life is like it is.  Transgression does not suggest to me evil intent.  Evil intent is not mischievous, it is sinister and vicious.  Transgressing is basically stepping out of your bounds.  You cannot half-transgress.  You either do or you don’t.  It is like parachuting.  Your ‘chute either opens or it doesn’t.  You find that out when it happens.

Transgression tends to cause stress.  Not only for those who are prepared to buck the system, but also for those who are obliged to witness said bucking.  If your transgression should involve an other, or others, you can be sure that there will be an implicit trust between said members.  They will be well-attuned to one another, to their environment.  They communicate – demonstrate – an actuality – a firm standing for sound principles and a refusal to be subjugated by corruption.

Transgressions happen.  That is not to say that they are acceptable, accepted.  Transgressing will often result in frowns, lectures.  Tut-tutting and the big one – complete disapproval.  An attempt at tightening the head-screws, if you like.  Luckily when there is a reason for transgressing, transgressors do not pay attention to head-screws – or fuckheads, even.  There is no time left in mind to listen to a bigot’s one-sided opinion, or the whining denials in an idiot’s lies.

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Confidence, and No Confidence – Blog No. 8

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An important initial distinction to make is the difference between confidence and esteem. They are not the same thing. ‘No confidence’ suggests that there is a courage lacking in a person’s actions, a lack of belief in what a person is capable of doing – and by rights – should do, but doesn’t. Confidence – understandably – is the currency of politics, of scam-artists and esteemed liars. Also, it is the medium used by those who are certain about what what they want, and know that they can achieve it. Confidence is not arrogance, that is another story in itself.

Esteem is more personal, perhaps more fragile than confidence itself, is. Esteem is what affords an individual success, real success. This is because it is authentic – it cannot be manufactured or conjured up at will. In other words, it is a purely natural state of being. Esteem exists where a person is familiar with themselves and their purpose, and both the knowledge thereof – and the understanding – fills them with peace. That peace cannot be bought at any cost. Confidence is at times no more than a means to an end. Esteem has more integrity.

No confidence usually stems from a dented ego. Or damaged pride. This can be repaired in due course with the correct ministrations. Low self-esteem happens to persons who are failing in their focus, their purpose. It is not possible to have high self-esteem when you are not in a position to fulfil your reason(s) for being. If you consider that three quarters of this planet’s populace cannot currently fulfil their true reason(s) for being, you will understand why this earth is in the dire straights that it is.

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Phenomena – Blog No. 48

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What counts as a phenomenon? Should we count ourselves as phenomena? There is the phenomenal in humankind. It is – like many other things – just a matter of finding it. How hard you look depends on what you wish to find. When seeking phenomena, ask yourself what you are hoping to demonstrate through your discovery. That way – looking at the message you are intending to send – you will be sure to succeed in your search.

Allow phenomenal to happen to you. It is a matter of giving permission. Once granted, that particular permission cannot be revoked. You open a lock, as such, and set yourself upon a path that is guaranteed to bring you out into the sunshine. That is where you want to be, it does not matter when you get there. If you would prefer to find yourself brought out into a blizzard, then that is your indaba.

Think of phenomenal as a methodology. What to aspire to. There is a lot to be said for aspirations. There is a lot to be said for the courage to chase them. A cynic will say there is no point in chasing anything. A coward will say there is no way to chase. A defeatist will say there is no chance of succeeding, no matter what you do.

There is a point. There is a way. There is a chance. Take it.

 

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Protection – Blog No. 17

av-protectionDo we all have the same psychology when it comes to seeking protection?  Is the drive of an asylum-seeker the same as the tendency a child has to hide behind its parents’ legs?  Are women entering into marriages sold in catalogues because the prospect of a new life – a better life with a man that’s buying – outweighs the thought of having to sell yourself to get there?  Perhaps the illusion of safety is what causes many women to marry men they really should not be marrying.  Men, after all, are the protectors.  They have always been the protectors.  Some men are cut out for this kind of work.  Others are not.  Choose wisely what you need in a partner – both men and women should choose carefully – and remember that you do not need to marry the first person you become involved with or become familiar with.  You cannot even begin to appreciate a person until you have learned who it is that they are.  That learning does not take three minutes.

You cannot find a mould that men ‘ought’ to fit in this day and age, their role is varied.  There are providers and protectors, there are hands-on dads and house-husbands.  There are workaholics and sugar-daddies.  There are a lot of men dealing with women who have daddy issues.  Perhaps the women with daddy issues were deprived of that ‘protected’ feeling as children.  Perhaps theirs’ were absent fathers.  Shy fathers.  Scared fathers.  Aggressive fathers.  The balance in society is out.  There are too many females seeking protection in a world whose hard currency is women.  If ever there was a catch 22, that is it.  That means women need to become stronger still, work smarter.  This world is in flux and those who do not change with it stand to lose their futures.

Women are entitled to protect themselves from every kind of abuse.  How they do that is their enterprise.  Men are as entitled as women are, to protect themselves.  It is vital to know that you cannot make vulnerable a person who stands for themselves.  Standing for yourself is like suiting up in armour.  It is an act of courage.  A wise idea.  When you get to a place where you expect ultimate protection from none other than yourself and the tools made available to you, you are stronger than any abuser, any violator’s tactics.  Do not allow yourself to be belittled, no matter who you are.  Protect yourself from others’ bitterness and protect yourself from becoming a mere number here on Earth.  There is more to life than being a number.

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Growth – Blog No. 96

growth-aheadGrowth – when it comes to you – is not something that you should try to shrug off.  It is persistent and it will stick with you, beside you, until you allow it in and you invite it to change your circumstances.  Without growth you go nowhere.  The most common reaction to growth – initially – is resistance.  Who wants pain?  Not one among us, I am sure.  However, pain is an inevitable part of growth in most instances.  In order to stretch and reach higher, further, than you have ever reached before, you need to invite yourself to grow.  You must meet your boundaries, exceed them.

There are countless ways to grow yourself.  You can start by facing your fears.  That is usually a very effective way to develop your character and grow your human being.  Facing fears starts with acknowledging that you have them, firstly.  If you should have no fears at all, then consider yourself extremely fortunate.  Yours is the ideal space to be in.  We are all driven to that space, the place where fears are merely a considered reaction to a situation.  If you can stand outside your fears and watch them going on you will find that you are in a much better position to deal with them, to let them go.

Growing means you will need more room to keep yourself.  That can mean literally a larger space in which to confine your physical form, or more headspace to accommodate your ‘larger’ mind.  Your ‘opened’ mind.  An opened mind takes up a lot of space, it has mazes of doors that you will need to open, each of them so you can grow.  You have to be brave enough to open the doors, to walk through them.  You will change every time you do.  That is a frightening concept for some people.  It really shouldn’t be.  The more you change, the more you grow and since growth is what we are all aiming at on planet Earth – for it is through growth that we will achieve every one of our end goals – the braver you must become each time you discover that it is your turn to grow.

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Transition – Blog No. 94

TransitionLogoSmllTransition is an interesting phase.  It is closure on one level, and the opening up of a brand new vista on another.  Transitions in life – and you will have a few – may cause you to lose the reference points with which you have become familiar.  You will need to establish new reference points and you will need to be pragmatic about the process of saying goodbye to the old ones.  Reference points only serve you for the duration of their lifespan, there is no need to be sentimental about starting afresh.

Transition is about changing.  Again – respect that change is life.  That is the one reality you cannot escape.  The more precious we are about holding on to our personal ‘history’, the more difficult it is to embrace change.  Be selective about what you are precious about.  Transitions do not come without warning, but they do happen without your permission.  They come at exactly the right time.  It is wise to accept their arrival.

Transition is about growing, too.  This can be a seamless process, you can expand your capacity without it being painful.  Often, it is painful.  You are pushing yourself to capacity, and beyond – which hurts.  There is always the beyond.  There is always something extra where you expect to be empty.  You just have to find the courage to go there.  You become what you are meant to be through transition.  Each transition, a success.  No matter how you respond to the transition that is sent to change you, change you will.  So that is success.

Death is one of life’s transitions.  Viva la vista.

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Awareness – Blog No. 42

Johari-Window-Model_JK-Web_RevisedStart by asking yourself how much you know about this planet you inhabit.  Its people.  Its animals.  Its problems.  How much do you know about yourself?  It is easy to assume that you know everything there is to know about who you are, since you are the one who has lived with you since birth, but in each of us there remains the unknown.  There are aspects of ourselves that lie dormant, waiting patiently for the push it will take to wake them up.  That push comes from facing adversity.  From loving with everything you have.  From procreating.  From creating.  We are all creators.  Take pleasure – and pride – in your creation:  your life.  If you cannot feel pride about your life then you understand you are on the wrong path, wasting your potential.  If you cannot feel positive about your days and the place you find yourself in them, then you realise you need to adjust your thinking.  You cannot avoid having to modify your thoughts when you want to take yourself out of a mediocre situation.  There is not one of us who should accept mediocrity.  If your life is mediocre, fix it.  It has the potential for excellence.  You should want to find the best in yourself.  If you do not feel that need, you should perhaps question your purpose on this planet.  If you cannot define your purpose, you need to find one.  You cannot go from dawn until dusk each day without true purpose.

Others are helpful when it comes to making us aware.  Be willing to take another’s opinion on board, sometimes it will be your saving grace.  If a person is brave enough to tell you what you don’t want to hear, respect their courage and do your best to impact the assessment.  If you do not trust the person who is giving you their opinion, then do not bother taking their words to heart.  Use them as exercise, emotional exercise.  It is easy.  You will know if someone is criticising you, or giving you feedback.  You cannot mistake the feeling of being criticised.  Be grateful for feedback when it is objective, honest.  Do not accept insults, accept the truth.

In your awareness, make space for further awareness.  Expand your capacity.  Know that your mind is eager to stretch itself to accommodate the new.  Be curious about who you are in relation to other people.  We are not all the same, but we are a collective.  Your differences are your distinction.  Similarities are sweet, comfortable, routine.  They make us feel safe.  A difference makes a difference.  Find your best in your distinction.  You will not find your best when you sit in the ditch with the rest of humanity whining about the world owing you a living.  The world owes you nothing.  You owe you.  It is important to realise that giving in this world is what is required right now.  Giving is vital for a person’s well-being.  Until every single person on this planet is in a position to give (something back), we have a problem – an imbalance.  When you give nothing, you get nothing.  When you have nothing, you cannot give.  It’s a vicious circle.

The thing to know is that the world does not pick up man’s mess.  The world moves along at a pace unchanged.  Time ticks as fast as it always did, we only have twenty-four hours in each day.  Make sure you use your hours for the betterment of yourself, of others.  Be aware of your wants, your needs.  Be aware of what you say, to whom.  What you have to say for yourself, tells.

 

 

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