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Obedience – Blog No. 4

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It would be incorrect to say that I do not believe that obedience has its place.  It does.  However, it depends upon who it is that is demanding from you your acquiescence.  It also depends what their intentions are.  As is said – the road to Hell is paved with good intentions.  Pure motivation relies on one’s intuition – when to do what one has been told, and when not to.  Unless you trust implicitly those that give you instructions, do not ever act on an imperative without thinking it through for yourself.  When you can feel that an instruction has your best interests at heart you can act freely, according to your betters’ suggestions, without questioning your integrity.  That is a luxurious position in which to be.  As is understanding that the word ‘welfare’ is not synonymous with the word ‘charity’.

Children are motivated by the tone in your voice, not by the words you use.  They can hear when you honestly mean something and when you don’t, so when you don’t mean something don’t say it unless for some reason it becomes necessary for your child to hear you lie.  That may happen purely so they can discern a lie from the truth.  Like if you have nothing to compare something to you cannot state categorically whether a thing is one way or another.   It is best to be able to state any truth categorically.  I do not see the point in illuminating a truth with grey areas?  The reason for this is to ensure that the ‘cycle of Life’ with which we are familiar now becomes a framework – a firm foundation – upon which we can all build without the mistrust that has thwarted every successive attempt at transcendence.

I suspect the Catholics had a very serious reason for their ubiquitous statement:  ‘thou shalt obey’.  Unfortunately, for some, the mere mention of the word ‘obey’ rankles – and deeply.  Those are usually people who have once trusted – and obeyed – those giving them instructions only to discover on the other side that ‘obedience’ was used for the purposes of oppression, or abuse.  I understand and would accept an imperative, for example, like:  Do this or you could die (and let’s not split hairs).  I would not accept an order which translates into:  Do this because if you don’t I will keep kicking you in the head until you are dead.  That is not the way to motivate obedience.  In fact, that is probably one of the fastest ways to incite defiance.  But then, perhaps defiance is a new-age obedience?  I guess it depends on who it is that is saying what, and to whom it is that they are speaking.

 

 

 

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Insults – Blog No. 30

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It is not difficult to become offended by what we hear – or imagine – are insults directed at our person, particularly because as humans our diversity means that different things piss off different people.  Words and gestures in one culture may mean something positive, encouraging.  In other customs the same words could be curses.  It pays in delicate situations to know which words not to use – to hold your tongue when you are unsure of how your words will be interpreted – as much as it is helpful to speak openly when you know that certain words must be heard.

There are those who find swearing insulting to their ears.  There are those that find piety to be a violation.  Others cannot abide defiant women, advocating a woman’s submission because it demonstrates ‘respect’.  It is interesting that some people find insulting the idea of outspoken women, as if a woman’s word cannot be taken as seriously as a man’s in a man’s world.  Rudeness, on the other hand, is insulting to everyone, on every level.  Usually, rudeness is not necessary – it is a choice, a kind of thoughtlessness.  Like it is a choice not to respond to it.

The way it usually goes is that this one insults that one, and that one retaliates.  Anger is generated.  Then this one spits more insults and that one impacts them.  Anger intensifies.  That one then vents again with a poisonous diatribe in an attempt to annihilate this one.  Tempers flare, faces rage.  And then with a concerted effort one side – either this one or that one – decides not to respond to the provocation.  In a moment, the conflict is over.  No matter your own anger, your fury, your hatred – you cannot force a disciplined mind to fight.

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Transgression – Blog No. 57

what-is-sin_472_326_80Transgressing is appealing to a lot of people.  Going against the rules, the regulations.  In a society as permissive as ours, anything goes.  In the worlds of white supremacists – yes, they still exist – where conservative thinking keeps dreams in a very small box, perhaps this is not good news.  It is probably not good news for the church, either.  Both tend towards puritanism, and misconduct – for that is what transgression is –  is not allowed.  That is the first reason transgression is attractive.  It is defiant and it shows a lack of respect for the opinion of the establishment.  The problem is that transgression affects you the same way as an addiction affects you.  Once you find your way into its labyrinth, it is hard to find your way out.  Transgressing is good for your conscience.  You must exercise your conscience now and again to be sure that you still have one.  If you should lose your conscience you are in trouble.  It is a rudder, a stabliser in a unstable world.  Our world is unstable.  There are too many conscienceless people.  Where do they find inspiration to be as heartless as they are, the ones that rape and murder and torture?  How arrogant their disregard for their afterlife.  The positive news is that they must live their deaths and their afterlives.  They will know how that feels when it happens.  Do not take all your guidance from your external reality, hear how you govern your internal reality and take guidance from that, too.  Your still mind has answers for all your questions.  Some, you must just be brave enough to ask.

Transgression is a sign.  Your human is smaller than your subconscious.  When the desire to do something you should not do is able to overwhelm your conscience, your moral code, then you must know how powerful desire.  I think men should desire women more.  These days they don’t get the chance – it’s all out there and it’s available in their faces.  There’s no chase.  Where has the point gone of being together?  Should a man not present his best to a woman he is trying to impress?  He should.  She should make him be his best, so he should always be trying to impress her.  His best should be who he truly is.  She will either like it or she won’t.  A woman should present the best of herself when she is on the man-path.  That is respectful to one another.    It is important to know that your best can be found hiding beneath the masks of make-up and designer gear.  That is not who you are.  That is the illusion you present to the world.  How big is your illusion?  I suppose it depends on how much money you have and how you choose to spend it.

It is most unfortunate that in this world, you do get what you pay for.  That consistency is what keeps reputable brands in big business.  It should be noted that there is a lot of crap for sale in this world.  I think we have China to thank for that.  The Chinese like to transgress.  They know what the rules are in this world and they choose to go against them, time and again.  Those that can do something about their transgressions, don’t.  Therein lies a problem.  Keep in mind how disciplined China’s past.  They have stamina, as an aggressor in any world.  Their mind-power is legendary.

I would be surprised if teenagers did not transgress as often as possible.  Expect it in this society.  In fact, the adults that transgressed as teenagers are still transgressing – are we surprised that the next generation followed their example?  Kids watch adults behave, they learn behaviours.  It is simple.  Even if you should wave your bible at your children and threaten their sins with eternal damnation, they will behave according to their needs, eventually.  You can only suppress a nature for so long.  If you will suppress your child, then know that its inner reality is going to be huge.  It will be enthralling, addictive – preferable to the one you are controlling and the child will choose to spend time in there, away from the world you have chosen to show it.   Realise that the reality inside a child is a reality in which you are not welcome as a trespasser.  Children need  privacy of being.  You should not be telling a child who to be in life.  You let it become.  You give it mind-space, too.  You have to let your children breathe, mentally.  Do not force-feed them with your attentions.  Let them learn how to empower themselves.  They must learn naturally how to handle their abilities and capabilities.  If you push your child in any particular direction be careful how hard you push.  You cannot live out your dreams through your child.  Do not try.  Let them become who they are without your interference.  Guidance, yes.  Interference, no.  It is encouraging how adept the today-children are at understanding life, and each other.  Communication is at an all-time high and emotional intelligence is being fostered in many homes and hearts.  Thank god for the families who have nurtured their children.  This world owes them a  debt of gratitude because those children will know – and practice – compassion.  The children who have been hurt, will hurt others.  It is a given.  As adults their trend will continue – they will hurt other adults.  We need to stop hurting children.  That is the quickest way to set this world straight.

Transgression has consequences.  Keep that in mind when you are next tempted.

 

 

 

 

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