Transgressing is appealing to a lot of people. Going against the rules, the regulations. In a society as permissive as ours, anything goes. In the worlds of white supremacists – yes, they still exist – where conservative thinking keeps dreams in a very small box, perhaps this is not good news. It is probably not good news for the church, either. Both tend towards puritanism, and misconduct – for that is what transgression is – is not allowed. That is the first reason transgression is attractive. It is defiant and it shows a lack of respect for the opinion of the establishment. The problem is that transgression affects you the same way as an addiction affects you. Once you find your way into its labyrinth, it is hard to find your way out. Transgressing is good for your conscience. You must exercise your conscience now and again to be sure that you still have one. If you should lose your conscience you are in trouble. It is a rudder, a stabliser in a unstable world. Our world is unstable. There are too many conscienceless people. Where do they find inspiration to be as heartless as they are, the ones that rape and murder and torture? How arrogant their disregard for their afterlife. The positive news is that they must live their deaths and their afterlives. They will know how that feels when it happens. Do not take all your guidance from your external reality, hear how you govern your internal reality and take guidance from that, too. Your still mind has answers for all your questions. Some, you must just be brave enough to ask.
Transgression is a sign. Your human is smaller than your subconscious. When the desire to do something you should not do is able to overwhelm your conscience, your moral code, then you must know how powerful desire. I think men should desire women more. These days they don’t get the chance – it’s all out there and it’s available in their faces. There’s no chase. Where has the point gone of being together? Should a man not present his best to a woman he is trying to impress? He should. She should make him be his best, so he should always be trying to impress her. His best should be who he truly is. She will either like it or she won’t. A woman should present the best of herself when she is on the man-path. That is respectful to one another. It is important to know that your best can be found hiding beneath the masks of make-up and designer gear. That is not who you are. That is the illusion you present to the world. How big is your illusion? I suppose it depends on how much money you have and how you choose to spend it.
It is most unfortunate that in this world, you do get what you pay for. That consistency is what keeps reputable brands in big business. It should be noted that there is a lot of crap for sale in this world. I think we have China to thank for that. The Chinese like to transgress. They know what the rules are in this world and they choose to go against them, time and again. Those that can do something about their transgressions, don’t. Therein lies a problem. Keep in mind how disciplined China’s past. They have stamina, as an aggressor in any world. Their mind-power is legendary.
I would be surprised if teenagers did not transgress as often as possible. Expect it in this society. In fact, the adults that transgressed as teenagers are still transgressing – are we surprised that the next generation followed their example? Kids watch adults behave, they learn behaviours. It is simple. Even if you should wave your bible at your children and threaten their sins with eternal damnation, they will behave according to their needs, eventually. You can only suppress a nature for so long. If you will suppress your child, then know that its inner reality is going to be huge. It will be enthralling, addictive – preferable to the one you are controlling and the child will choose to spend time in there, away from the world you have chosen to show it. Realise that the reality inside a child is a reality in which you are not welcome as a trespasser. Children need privacy of being. You should not be telling a child who to be in life. You let it become. You give it mind-space, too. You have to let your children breathe, mentally. Do not force-feed them with your attentions. Let them learn how to empower themselves. They must learn naturally how to handle their abilities and capabilities. If you push your child in any particular direction be careful how hard you push. You cannot live out your dreams through your child. Do not try. Let them become who they are without your interference. Guidance, yes. Interference, no. It is encouraging how adept the today-children are at understanding life, and each other. Communication is at an all-time high and emotional intelligence is being fostered in many homes and hearts. Thank god for the families who have nurtured their children. This world owes them a debt of gratitude because those children will know – and practice – compassion. The children who have been hurt, will hurt others. It is a given. As adults their trend will continue – they will hurt other adults. We need to stop hurting children. That is the quickest way to set this world straight.
Transgression has consequences. Keep that in mind when you are next tempted.
It would seem that the Church has been reforming itself – at the request of the people – since before the 16th century. People have been skeptical about the Church for a very long time. We are now in the 21st century and it would seem that it is time again for the Church to reform itself. I can understand that any long-standing tradition will have difficulty in accepting that a shake-up is necessary. Too bad – it is. The point that the Church needs to understand is that people are not the same as they were. You cannot apply an ancient set of rules (which were perfectly feasible, perhaps, at their time) to the now generations. Abortion is not guaranteed to send you to whichever hell you think is real. Neither is sex. If you abort children because you are too lazy to use contraception, that is a different story. That is why contraception exists. Parenting is not something everyone is good at doing, and it is not something that everyone should do.
C.J. Birch
C.J. Birch 