29 Jan 2016 · 09:17
I think there is some confusion when it comes to the term: in Love. For instance, you can have a deep Love for your family members but it is not appropriate to be ‘in Love’ with them. That then bends Love’s trajectory towards incestuous and incest is not fine no matter what planet you are on. The point is, though, it is not okay to hide that kind of shit if it exists and is an issue. The point is to treat the cause of the problem, not the symptoms. Ask why a father would impregnate his daughter, why he would find her sexually attractive in the first place? Why would a possessive mother seduce her son? I mean that sort of sexual attraction is alarming to me and it really does need addressing. Basically – incest kills true intimacy. It breaks sacred bonds. That confuses children and it causes inexplicable pain that dominoes down the generations. Therefore – incest is not acceptable and that is not a negotiable point if the healthy concept of family is to survive its deconstruction.
If you are the parents of a child, or children, it makes sense to remember that you chose each other with whom to ‘breed’, as such. Surely you choose to have a baby with someone you are in Love with? If you didn’t, then I question why you are parents. Children are not a ‘by-product’ of sex – make sure you get that straight. They are a choice. If you do not make the choice, then do not have kids. It’s simple, really. Children who watch their mothers and fathers hate each other for a living learn nothing about Love, about choices. They learn hate and blame, about bondage and obligation. They are also torn, often, between taking sides with their mother or their father and that is not the sort of choice a child should ever have to make. I suspect that there are a great many bullies in relationships – male and female – who enjoy the convenience of a resident punch-bag, as such. That may be how things are for a lot of people, but it is important to understand that that kind of ‘relationship’ is not of Love – not in ANY shape or form.
In Love. Again – it may be helpful to understand that ‘in Love’ is not a destination. It is a privilege: the beginning of a journey into the heart of what really matters. Love is not a commodity, despite what some humans might think. What some humans think matters not, however, and Love knows that. It is when Love falls in Love that it is liable to lose its own control. Maybe that is no bad thing. Perhaps ‘out of control’ Love is exactly what this wounded planet needs?
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21 Dec 2015 · 12:04
One plus one equals three, i.e. 1 + 1 = 3. If you want it to make 5 you are on the wrong planet. For that you must go to one of your other dimensions. If you have got no other dimensions to go to, then yours’ is an uncertain future. Mine, on the other hand, isn’t. I suspect that is because I am under no illusions. Neither is God. He plays a winning hand when it comes to his own construct, which was – incidentally – a very long game of strip poker. He has been waiting for the perfect moment to show that hand – not because he is concealing anything, but because God only works in perfect timing. That is not because he is being unfair, or picky, it is because he knows that it is not only vital to have the right words in hand to say, it is vital to know when to say them.
It is important to know that when the weight of the world becomes the fine line between puppet and master, God tends to get particularly fussy about accurate timing.
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29 Aug 2014 · 17:33
A lot of people have an issue with generalisations. They can be offensive, understandably, but sometimes they are necessary. When we are included in a bracket, or labelled as a whole, it forces accountability upon the everyman. Or woman. Interestingly, that makes individuals more inclined to define themselves as different from the masses in order that they distance themselves from the responsibility the masses must carry.
A point in hand is that each generalisation that is made is a reminder. A reminder that each one of us is part of a larger picture that has a history about which we can currently do nothing. It exists. Unfortunately, humans are largely predictable. They follow like lemmings their own kind, year in and year out. They insist on behaving the same way they have done for centuries. This needs changing before generalisations can be done away with.
It can be frustrating for people who do not deserve to wear the labels that are generally given to the collective. There are always those people who do not fit the mould that society has sculpted for every man, woman and child. Those ‘misfits’ who have been dragging balls and chains that do not belong shackled to their ankles. The ‘misfits’ are okay with their load – it has facilitated their unique position. They have the best of both worlds. They can blend with the generalisations into obscurity – along with the majority of the planet – or they can take accountability for their contributions to the history of our now and refine their definitions.
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28 Mar 2014 · 11:01
Do we all have the same psychology when it comes to seeking protection? Is the drive of an asylum-seeker the same as the tendency a child has to hide behind its parents’ legs? Are women entering into marriages sold in catalogues because the prospect of a new life – a better life with a man that’s buying – outweighs the thought of having to sell yourself to get there? Perhaps the illusion of safety is what causes many women to marry men they really should not be marrying. Men, after all, are the protectors. They have always been the protectors. Some men are cut out for this kind of work. Others are not. Choose wisely what you need in a partner – both men and women should choose carefully – and remember that you do not need to marry the first person you become involved with or become familiar with. You cannot even begin to appreciate a person until you have learned who it is that they are. That learning does not take three minutes.
You cannot find a mould that men ‘ought’ to fit in this day and age, their role is varied. There are providers and protectors, there are hands-on dads and house-husbands. There are workaholics and sugar-daddies. There are a lot of men dealing with women who have daddy issues. Perhaps the women with daddy issues were deprived of that ‘protected’ feeling as children. Perhaps theirs’ were absent fathers. Shy fathers. Scared fathers. Aggressive fathers. The balance in society is out. There are too many females seeking protection in a world whose hard currency is women. If ever there was a catch 22, that is it. That means women need to become stronger still, work smarter. This world is in flux and those who do not change with it stand to lose their futures.
Women are entitled to protect themselves from every kind of abuse. How they do that is their enterprise. Men are as entitled as women are, to protect themselves. It is vital to know that you cannot make vulnerable a person who stands for themselves. Standing for yourself is like suiting up in armour. It is an act of courage. A wise idea. When you get to a place where you expect ultimate protection from none other than yourself and the tools made available to you, you are stronger than any abuser, any violator’s tactics. Do not allow yourself to be belittled, no matter who you are. Protect yourself from others’ bitterness and protect yourself from becoming a mere number here on Earth. There is more to life than being a number.
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22 Jul 2013 · 16:34
Transgressing is appealing to a lot of people. Going against the rules, the regulations. In a society as permissive as ours, anything goes. In the worlds of white supremacists – yes, they still exist – where conservative thinking keeps dreams in a very small box, perhaps this is not good news. It is probably not good news for the church, either. Both tend towards puritanism, and misconduct – for that is what transgression is – is not allowed. That is the first reason transgression is attractive. It is defiant and it shows a lack of respect for the opinion of the establishment. The problem is that transgression affects you the same way as an addiction affects you. Once you find your way into its labyrinth, it is hard to find your way out. Transgressing is good for your conscience. You must exercise your conscience now and again to be sure that you still have one. If you should lose your conscience you are in trouble. It is a rudder, a stabliser in a unstable world. Our world is unstable. There are too many conscienceless people. Where do they find inspiration to be as heartless as they are, the ones that rape and murder and torture? How arrogant their disregard for their afterlife. The positive news is that they must live their deaths and their afterlives. They will know how that feels when it happens. Do not take all your guidance from your external reality, hear how you govern your internal reality and take guidance from that, too. Your still mind has answers for all your questions. Some, you must just be brave enough to ask.
Transgression is a sign. Your human is smaller than your subconscious. When the desire to do something you should not do is able to overwhelm your conscience, your moral code, then you must know how powerful desire. I think men should desire women more. These days they don’t get the chance – it’s all out there and it’s available in their faces. There’s no chase. Where has the point gone of being together? Should a man not present his best to a woman he is trying to impress? He should. She should make him be his best, so he should always be trying to impress her. His best should be who he truly is. She will either like it or she won’t. A woman should present the best of herself when she is on the man-path. That is respectful to one another. It is important to know that your best can be found hiding beneath the masks of make-up and designer gear. That is not who you are. That is the illusion you present to the world. How big is your illusion? I suppose it depends on how much money you have and how you choose to spend it.
It is most unfortunate that in this world, you do get what you pay for. That consistency is what keeps reputable brands in big business. It should be noted that there is a lot of crap for sale in this world. I think we have China to thank for that. The Chinese like to transgress. They know what the rules are in this world and they choose to go against them, time and again. Those that can do something about their transgressions, don’t. Therein lies a problem. Keep in mind how disciplined China’s past. They have stamina, as an aggressor in any world. Their mind-power is legendary.
I would be surprised if teenagers did not transgress as often as possible. Expect it in this society. In fact, the adults that transgressed as teenagers are still transgressing – are we surprised that the next generation followed their example? Kids watch adults behave, they learn behaviours. It is simple. Even if you should wave your bible at your children and threaten their sins with eternal damnation, they will behave according to their needs, eventually. You can only suppress a nature for so long. If you will suppress your child, then know that its inner reality is going to be huge. It will be enthralling, addictive – preferable to the one you are controlling and the child will choose to spend time in there, away from the world you have chosen to show it. Realise that the reality inside a child is a reality in which you are not welcome as a trespasser. Children need privacy of being. You should not be telling a child who to be in life. You let it become. You give it mind-space, too. You have to let your children breathe, mentally. Do not force-feed them with your attentions. Let them learn how to empower themselves. They must learn naturally how to handle their abilities and capabilities. If you push your child in any particular direction be careful how hard you push. You cannot live out your dreams through your child. Do not try. Let them become who they are without your interference. Guidance, yes. Interference, no. It is encouraging how adept the today-children are at understanding life, and each other. Communication is at an all-time high and emotional intelligence is being fostered in many homes and hearts. Thank god for the families who have nurtured their children. This world owes them a debt of gratitude because those children will know – and practice – compassion. The children who have been hurt, will hurt others. It is a given. As adults their trend will continue – they will hurt other adults. We need to stop hurting children. That is the quickest way to set this world straight.
Transgression has consequences. Keep that in mind when you are next tempted.
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25 Feb 2013 · 12:25
In some cultures, respect is an intrinsic part of an everyday. It permeates every action, word, deed. Other cultures cannot spell the word. I think this imbalance is having a major impact on the stability of our world. Respect is taught to children. It is taught, it is not inherited. As is accountability. You show respect in order to teach respect. Particularly to children. Are you aware that by the age of three a child has developed a significant part of its moral make-up? It learns from what it sees. By three, a child’s values are established and it has garnered important life skills that will assist or hinder it on its journey to adulthood. That means children are to be treated with care. Some cultures currently do not understand this. Try to remember that the world you promote to a child is the world they will believe exists. It is not easy to change early impressions.
Every child that is abused or exploited is a child destroyed. Every childhood destroyed, is sacrilege. The value of the purity contained in the true experience of growing up should not be overlooked. The value of proper nurturing by parents should not be overlooked, either. The true experience for a child is about preserving the innocence for as long as you can. Importantly, preserving innocence is never about lying to a child. It is about protecting a child from the adult content of our world.
It is a serious failing that we have as many broken children on this planet as we do. Too many children have seen too much, too soon. For the particular crime of child abuse (emotional, physical, circumstantial or spiritual) – for it is a crime against Nature to damage a child – there is no absolution. Your karma and your end of days will teach you just how frowned upon cruelty to children is. Remember that in our time a childhood is short. That is how it is. Life moves quickly for us all. I see a problem in that there are no halcyon days for a great many children in this world of ours. In a world as adept as this we should not allow our governments to sidestep this issue. They must allocate more funding to social services. They must train more social workers and pay them properly to do the jobs that can make a difference to a child’s life. The world needs more volunteers who wish to heal hurt children. The warring nations of this world need to take accountability for destroying their own children with their pointless vendettas and stop blaming peacemakers for their lost youth. To teach hatred to a child is child abuse. Israel should think about that. Hamas should think about that. Syria should take note and Osama bin Laden’s lost followers should stop brainwashing themselves and martyring innocents.
I think the global community must be more concerned about what is going on in its front garden. A childhood can never be reclaimed. As such, each one should be treasured by the adults – us – for the sake of the small person who is learning its way in our big world and for the sake of the adult that that child will become. It is simple. If respect is not shown for you, for your innocence as a child, you will find it difficult as an adult to reconcile respect for yourself with an everyday. You will learn how to disrespect your inner child as an adult and this has dire consequences.
Assess yourself. Recognise that the wounded child in you demands respect. And yes, we all have one. If you missed a childhood or were not taught respect when you were younger then teach yourselves what it is now. Do this by watching others respect you. If others do not respect you, it is because they have seen no reason to do so. That is often hard to accept. If you care, accept it and give them reason. If you do not care, you are on the wrong planet. You will feel better for some respect. Perhaps it is most important to remember that it is necessary to nurture respect in yourself and others because it is fundamental to love. And without love, we cannot fix the broken children, or adults, in this world. The responsibility is ours.