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Disillusionment – Blog No. 58

old_people_illusionDisillusionment needs to be thrown out of the window.  Toss it out.  What is the point of being disillusioned?  Being disillusioned means admitting that you are a victim of life.  No one wants to be a victim of life.  Life plays hard with everybody, alike.  Do not imagine that your woes are worse than another’s – I can guarantee you they are not.  You are not here to count your woes, in any case.  You are here to count your blessings.  Your woes can keep count of themselves, believe me.  Let them.  In fact – let your woes, go.  Who says you cannot?  Where they go is not your business.  Good riddance.  Why can you not just cut them loose?  Because you count on your woes to keep you in your comfort zone.  What is more familiar – and cozy – than a place so tried and tested that we know exactly how it goes?  We all know how our heads go when we let ourselves dwell on our woes.  We must  watch woes with a cautious eye, they are often more illusory than they are, real.  Pull yourself free of your illusion – see the world for what it is without passing judgement and decide to have an impact on its destiny.

If you should deliberately disillusion children for a living, stop it.  Let them believe in the tooth fairy or the tooth mouse, Father Christmas, the Easter Bunny and superheroes, if they choose to.  Let them have imaginary friends.  It does not mean they are psychotic.  Their realities are as much a construct as yours are – make space in your reality for the reality of your child.  It will have developed independent of you and it needs space to grow.  As a parent, you must respect your child’s internal reality and you must know that what you choose to show your child of this life will tell in its understanding of its external reality.  As the guide – the role-model – you are in charge of demonstrating what life is, and what it does.  You are responsible for giving your child the beginnings of an imagination, too.  How you choose to do that is up to you.  If you are absent when it comes to your child building a world inside of its head – if you show your child nothing that it finds worthwhile – then you are not giving the child anything to use as a foundation for its build.  If you fail to provide a base for your child’s early belief systems then it can safely be said that as a parent you are being negligent.  Negligent parents are not what this world needs.

Should you subscribe to the theory that life is an illusion – or that we live our illusions – then you will understand that disillusionment is absolutely pointless.  How can you be disillusioned  when you have chosen your own path?  When you do not take the beaten track you can make no comparisons.  Nothing is as it was before.  What you see is what you get, and that is what you work with.  You run the risk of feeling at a loss now and again – that is natural in a greedy world filled with takers – but you should not allow that feeling to take hold.  It is an occupational hazard.  Disillusionment at the hands of an illusion saps strength.  The strength you need to live an illusion (because you will live your illusion in conjunction with your other realities) comes from knowing that you can.  You can manage your illusion with some precision.  Illusions are where we keep our best, because in an illusion your best is untouchable.  If you cannot conceive of having a ‘best’ then you are on the wrong path.  Get off it.  Look around.  Go where no one has gone before.  Go to the unknown.  It is a place in you.  It is most likely that you will find yourself best on this path, in that place.  Get busy interpreting and living your dreams  – share your inner reality, even if it is only with yourself.  If you want to find a way to make it real, you will.

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Transgression – Blog No. 57

what-is-sin_472_326_80Transgressing is appealing to a lot of people.  Going against the rules, the regulations.  In a society as permissive as ours, anything goes.  In the worlds of white supremacists – yes, they still exist – where conservative thinking keeps dreams in a very small box, perhaps this is not good news.  It is probably not good news for the church, either.  Both tend towards puritanism, and misconduct – for that is what transgression is –  is not allowed.  That is the first reason transgression is attractive.  It is defiant and it shows a lack of respect for the opinion of the establishment.  The problem is that transgression affects you the same way as an addiction affects you.  Once you find your way into its labyrinth, it is hard to find your way out.  Transgressing is good for your conscience.  You must exercise your conscience now and again to be sure that you still have one.  If you should lose your conscience you are in trouble.  It is a rudder, a stabliser in a unstable world.  Our world is unstable.  There are too many conscienceless people.  Where do they find inspiration to be as heartless as they are, the ones that rape and murder and torture?  How arrogant their disregard for their afterlife.  The positive news is that they must live their deaths and their afterlives.  They will know how that feels when it happens.  Do not take all your guidance from your external reality, hear how you govern your internal reality and take guidance from that, too.  Your still mind has answers for all your questions.  Some, you must just be brave enough to ask.

Transgression is a sign.  Your human is smaller than your subconscious.  When the desire to do something you should not do is able to overwhelm your conscience, your moral code, then you must know how powerful desire.  I think men should desire women more.  These days they don’t get the chance – it’s all out there and it’s available in their faces.  There’s no chase.  Where has the point gone of being together?  Should a man not present his best to a woman he is trying to impress?  He should.  She should make him be his best, so he should always be trying to impress her.  His best should be who he truly is.  She will either like it or she won’t.  A woman should present the best of herself when she is on the man-path.  That is respectful to one another.    It is important to know that your best can be found hiding beneath the masks of make-up and designer gear.  That is not who you are.  That is the illusion you present to the world.  How big is your illusion?  I suppose it depends on how much money you have and how you choose to spend it.

It is most unfortunate that in this world, you do get what you pay for.  That consistency is what keeps reputable brands in big business.  It should be noted that there is a lot of crap for sale in this world.  I think we have China to thank for that.  The Chinese like to transgress.  They know what the rules are in this world and they choose to go against them, time and again.  Those that can do something about their transgressions, don’t.  Therein lies a problem.  Keep in mind how disciplined China’s past.  They have stamina, as an aggressor in any world.  Their mind-power is legendary.

I would be surprised if teenagers did not transgress as often as possible.  Expect it in this society.  In fact, the adults that transgressed as teenagers are still transgressing – are we surprised that the next generation followed their example?  Kids watch adults behave, they learn behaviours.  It is simple.  Even if you should wave your bible at your children and threaten their sins with eternal damnation, they will behave according to their needs, eventually.  You can only suppress a nature for so long.  If you will suppress your child, then know that its inner reality is going to be huge.  It will be enthralling, addictive – preferable to the one you are controlling and the child will choose to spend time in there, away from the world you have chosen to show it.   Realise that the reality inside a child is a reality in which you are not welcome as a trespasser.  Children need  privacy of being.  You should not be telling a child who to be in life.  You let it become.  You give it mind-space, too.  You have to let your children breathe, mentally.  Do not force-feed them with your attentions.  Let them learn how to empower themselves.  They must learn naturally how to handle their abilities and capabilities.  If you push your child in any particular direction be careful how hard you push.  You cannot live out your dreams through your child.  Do not try.  Let them become who they are without your interference.  Guidance, yes.  Interference, no.  It is encouraging how adept the today-children are at understanding life, and each other.  Communication is at an all-time high and emotional intelligence is being fostered in many homes and hearts.  Thank god for the families who have nurtured their children.  This world owes them a  debt of gratitude because those children will know – and practice – compassion.  The children who have been hurt, will hurt others.  It is a given.  As adults their trend will continue – they will hurt other adults.  We need to stop hurting children.  That is the quickest way to set this world straight.

Transgression has consequences.  Keep that in mind when you are next tempted.

 

 

 

 

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