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Children – Blog No. 32

effects-child-abuse1I am not quite sure this planet realises how problematic it is that children are not treated right in too many parts of the world.  Probably in every part of the world.  I cannot understand the need people have to breed and then abuse their children.  Why would you procreate when you cannot handle having a child?  And motherhood – and fatherhood – is about handling your progeny, not annihilating them.  That – to me – is possibly the most stupid of all human behaviours.  Breeding willy-nilly without thought of consequence, just having babies because you cannot be bothered not to.  It’s obscene.

Children are vulnerable and very impressionable.  All of them.  How many times does that have to be said before people take heed?  What you show your child of life is how it will grow.  The reality is startling in its simplicity.  You kick your child around, or abuse it verbally and emotionally, and you are building a damaged human being.  There is not much space left on this planet for damaged people.  There are already way too many.  It is time that the damaging was brought under control.  It is ruining people, society.  I am not sure what would happen if every abuser took accountability for his/her behaviour – recognised it, themselves.  If they opened their eyes they would realise the fate that was awaiting them.

Having children is not ‘what you do’ in life.  Times have changed.  How hard can it be to understand that parenting is not an essential part of living?  How hard can it be to understand that there are a great many lives that would be far less stressful without children in them?  That is fact, it is not something to feel sentimental about.  Children are a joy on many levels, and that is what they are supposed to be.  They are not punch-bags.  They are not adults.  They are not to be underestimated, either.

 

 

 

 

 

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Accountability – Blog No. 19

accountHow is it possible in 2014 that the ANC can be in such a mess?  How can they be sitting with a leader who has evaded the law on charges of corruption, of rape, and now – of theft?  You cannot have a president as a role model who refuses to take accountability.  For himself, for anything.  Jacob Zuma authorised the spending of a quarter of a billion rand on his private residence.  The fact that it is a quarter of a billion rand is problem enough, nevermind the other fact that a great many of Jacob Zuma’s ‘people’ are living in tin shacks whilst he prances around in a palace.  I think he thought no one was watching what business he gets up to, what plans he makes.  Everyone is watching.  He is in the spotlight, under scrutiny, and he cannot run and hide.  He needs to learn that taking accountability for yourself is the first of many steps that a man must make if he is going to be respected, and remembered.  I am sure Jacob Zuma is a man who wants to be remembered.  He must be sure he is remembered for the right things.

It is not a teacher’s job to teach a child accountability.  It is a parent’s job.  A teacher’s job is to reinforce what the parents teach their child, a teacher works from the base foundations laid by the parents.  Do not expect teachers to bring up your children when you cannot be bothered.  A child must understand accountability the same way it must understand consequence.  If you make a decision and you act on that decision, you are accountable for what you bring into your days.  You must take accountability for your thoughts, too, I have said this before.  Your thoughts are energy, they are not just there for your entertainment.

Taking accountability is standing for yourself.  If you are not inclined to do this you must accept that you are letting an empowerment opportunity pass you by.  If you will not even stand for your own ideas who do you think will listen to them?  No one can stand for you better than you can stand for yourself – in the face of anything at all.  But first, you must learn yourself well.  You cannot stand for something you do not know.  If you are afraid to take accountability for a mistake you have made then how can you learn from it?  Do you just carry on as usual, pretending there was no mistake, and hope the problem goes away by itself?  I think that is what Jacob Zuma thinks.

 

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Transgression – Blog No. 57

what-is-sin_472_326_80Transgressing is appealing to a lot of people.  Going against the rules, the regulations.  In a society as permissive as ours, anything goes.  In the worlds of white supremacists – yes, they still exist – where conservative thinking keeps dreams in a very small box, perhaps this is not good news.  It is probably not good news for the church, either.  Both tend towards puritanism, and misconduct – for that is what transgression is –  is not allowed.  That is the first reason transgression is attractive.  It is defiant and it shows a lack of respect for the opinion of the establishment.  The problem is that transgression affects you the same way as an addiction affects you.  Once you find your way into its labyrinth, it is hard to find your way out.  Transgressing is good for your conscience.  You must exercise your conscience now and again to be sure that you still have one.  If you should lose your conscience you are in trouble.  It is a rudder, a stabliser in a unstable world.  Our world is unstable.  There are too many conscienceless people.  Where do they find inspiration to be as heartless as they are, the ones that rape and murder and torture?  How arrogant their disregard for their afterlife.  The positive news is that they must live their deaths and their afterlives.  They will know how that feels when it happens.  Do not take all your guidance from your external reality, hear how you govern your internal reality and take guidance from that, too.  Your still mind has answers for all your questions.  Some, you must just be brave enough to ask.

Transgression is a sign.  Your human is smaller than your subconscious.  When the desire to do something you should not do is able to overwhelm your conscience, your moral code, then you must know how powerful desire.  I think men should desire women more.  These days they don’t get the chance – it’s all out there and it’s available in their faces.  There’s no chase.  Where has the point gone of being together?  Should a man not present his best to a woman he is trying to impress?  He should.  She should make him be his best, so he should always be trying to impress her.  His best should be who he truly is.  She will either like it or she won’t.  A woman should present the best of herself when she is on the man-path.  That is respectful to one another.    It is important to know that your best can be found hiding beneath the masks of make-up and designer gear.  That is not who you are.  That is the illusion you present to the world.  How big is your illusion?  I suppose it depends on how much money you have and how you choose to spend it.

It is most unfortunate that in this world, you do get what you pay for.  That consistency is what keeps reputable brands in big business.  It should be noted that there is a lot of crap for sale in this world.  I think we have China to thank for that.  The Chinese like to transgress.  They know what the rules are in this world and they choose to go against them, time and again.  Those that can do something about their transgressions, don’t.  Therein lies a problem.  Keep in mind how disciplined China’s past.  They have stamina, as an aggressor in any world.  Their mind-power is legendary.

I would be surprised if teenagers did not transgress as often as possible.  Expect it in this society.  In fact, the adults that transgressed as teenagers are still transgressing – are we surprised that the next generation followed their example?  Kids watch adults behave, they learn behaviours.  It is simple.  Even if you should wave your bible at your children and threaten their sins with eternal damnation, they will behave according to their needs, eventually.  You can only suppress a nature for so long.  If you will suppress your child, then know that its inner reality is going to be huge.  It will be enthralling, addictive – preferable to the one you are controlling and the child will choose to spend time in there, away from the world you have chosen to show it.   Realise that the reality inside a child is a reality in which you are not welcome as a trespasser.  Children need  privacy of being.  You should not be telling a child who to be in life.  You let it become.  You give it mind-space, too.  You have to let your children breathe, mentally.  Do not force-feed them with your attentions.  Let them learn how to empower themselves.  They must learn naturally how to handle their abilities and capabilities.  If you push your child in any particular direction be careful how hard you push.  You cannot live out your dreams through your child.  Do not try.  Let them become who they are without your interference.  Guidance, yes.  Interference, no.  It is encouraging how adept the today-children are at understanding life, and each other.  Communication is at an all-time high and emotional intelligence is being fostered in many homes and hearts.  Thank god for the families who have nurtured their children.  This world owes them a  debt of gratitude because those children will know – and practice – compassion.  The children who have been hurt, will hurt others.  It is a given.  As adults their trend will continue – they will hurt other adults.  We need to stop hurting children.  That is the quickest way to set this world straight.

Transgression has consequences.  Keep that in mind when you are next tempted.

 

 

 

 

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