How are people taught to reason? Does it come naturally, or is it learned? Is reason a by-product of philosophy’s tendency to bounce around the word ‘therefore’ when coming to its conclusions? Reason can complicate matters. It is an important skill, but employ it wisely. Do not discount those things you cannot rationally – reasonably – explain. Not knowing the how or why of something is no reason to disregard it. In good time everything comes clear – if something does not make sense immediately, trust that it will. Being capable of understanding is more valuable than being able to reason. Reason can divert one’s attention from the truth and diverted attention is called not concentrating. It is vital to concentrate when searching for the truth.
You react because another acts towards you in a certain way. For instance, the reason a person shoots dead an intruder is because the intruder is trespassing. That is not reason enough. The reason a person assassinates another’s character is because they have low self-esteem. That is not reason enough. You cannot always excuse an action because there is a reason behind it. The reason for a genocide is a hatred. A fear. Those reasons are never reason enough.
Giving valid reasons for your actions makes sense if you feel the need to explain yourself to other people. Some people feel that need. Some people feel the need to make others explain themselves. Who is anyone to make another person explain themselves? That need that people have, makes me smile. Like policemen they stand, demanding disclosure. You cannot force disclosure if you want the truth. Ask nicely and you might get an explanation, which is better than being given a reason. However. Give reasons if you feel you need to. Be sure they explain themselves. It is not to say that the reasons you give will be met with approval, but give them anyway. They open dialogue.
It is an interesting thought. How do you convey an understanding? That is some skill, when you can do that effectively. It is a skill we are all learning, all the time. It is about being skilled in communication. However you choose to do that. Understanding is visceral. You can feel it. How do you confer a feeling? First you must understand the feeling before you can attempt to share it. When you hear a truth, remember that you do not need to remind yourself to remember it for the future, when you hear a truth it sinks right in. You have to do nothing more than hear it. Hearing is not the same as listening. Also, it is best if you do not start trying to fight the truth with reason – man’s reason ought not be valued as much as it is in this world. It tries with its noise to out-shout others whose opinions are more valuable.
It is said that love means understanding a person’s position when they wrong you, treat you badly. Instead of lashing out, you stand back and you consider what pain the person must be in. Pain governs a great deal of bad behaviour and oftentimes deserves empathy. This can be challenging. Of course, should the person treating you badly simply be an arsehole, then take yourself out of their equation. In life there is really little point in surrounding yourself with arseholes, do not allow yourself to become one, either. It is a choice.
To share an understanding with another is a beautiful thing indeed. Your understandings will guide you in life. They guide very effectively when you have them accessible, your understandings lead you to ever-new perceptions about people, times, places. Fresh perceptions are necessary in life. They inspire you. When you understand something new, or you understand a thing differently to the way you understood it before, you give yourself tools with which to work your life around you. It is worth taking time to understand a thing, things. Tools come in a variety of shapes, and sizes.