Wisdom evolves in the way all things that evolve, do. That is its wisdom. There is profound clarity in the statement: ‘Wisdom is choosing now what will make sense later.’ That later – when it comes – will provide in its demonstration evidence of wisdom’s consistent evolution. Wisdom trusts instinct. Instinct stems from experience. From time to time it bypasses instinct on its Wisdom Business of researching some learning and as such, focussing on the horizon, it trips over a growth node. That Wisdom has tripped once (or so) is not of much consequence in the big picture. In the big picture space has been made for tripping. Besides, trip-wires are made to be tripped over. It is how you fall that matters, and whether or not you get up.
It would seem that we do not all subscribe to the same Wisdom System. That is a good thing. I trust in what I trust, I believe what I do. That is because I have time-trialed my years and let them come to their own conclusions. It makes sense to work your learning to your advantage, given that true learning does not come easily. Being ‘at an advantage’ does not – in this context – mean that you will find yourself in a privileged position through virtue of your learning, it means that you will find yourself in the perfect position to do what it is in your life that needs doing. The degree of personal work you did with the experiences you chose to have determines your capacity to handle further learning. Handling capacity is what further learning is all about and a life without further learning is pointless.
Naturally, Time’s Wisdom flies. If it was always to walk, it might miss some of its own most important points. It is important to understand that although Wisdom is conveyed by every language on the planet it does not rely on verbal communication. That is why the link between Wisdom and instinct is a strong one. Some things you know. And when you know that you know them, then is when you learn the extent of your experiences’ evolution.
… of getting the joke and loving the humour
… of feeling the lyric tug at your heart and understanding the reason the song was written
… of considering the workings of your eyes
… of trusting someone or something implicitly
… of knowing you can speak your mind and be heard
… of creating something out of nothing
… of watching a rising full moon dominate an horizon
… of sharing your dreams with those who want to know and choose to believe
… of turning good into better and better into best
… of making your own acquaintance when you least expect it
… of letting yourself succeed at what means most to you
… of giving and seeing why
… of living inside sleep
… of loving to distraction
… of being in a position to help
… of knowing exactly what to do
… of learning exactly how to do it.
It is an interesting thought. How do you convey an understanding? That is some skill, when you can do that effectively. It is a skill we are all learning, all the time. It is about being skilled in communication. However you choose to do that. Understanding is visceral. You can feel it. How do you confer a feeling? First you must understand the feeling before you can attempt to share it. When you hear a truth, remember that you do not need to remind yourself to remember it for the future, when you hear a truth it sinks right in. You have to do nothing more than hear it. Hearing is not the same as listening. Also, it is best if you do not start trying to fight the truth with reason – man’s reason ought not be valued as much as it is in this world. It tries with its noise to out-shout others whose opinions are more valuable.
It is said that love means understanding a person’s position when they wrong you, treat you badly. Instead of lashing out, you stand back and you consider what pain the person must be in. Pain governs a great deal of bad behaviour and oftentimes deserves empathy. This can be challenging. Of course, should the person treating you badly simply be an arsehole, then take yourself out of their equation. In life there is really little point in surrounding yourself with arseholes, do not allow yourself to become one, either. It is a choice.
To share an understanding with another is a beautiful thing indeed. Your understandings will guide you in life. They guide very effectively when you have them accessible, your understandings lead you to ever-new perceptions about people, times, places. Fresh perceptions are necessary in life. They inspire you. When you understand something new, or you understand a thing differently to the way you understood it before, you give yourself tools with which to work your life around you. It is worth taking time to understand a thing, things. Tools come in a variety of shapes, and sizes.
Ignorance is a choice. As is refusing to believe a fact when it is irrefutable. Fortunately facts abound in our world. They provide stability, a framework. Lay-people should not be so afraid of them, they are tried and tested – each one. Facts can be relied upon. They are there for you to use, so use them wisely. It is pointless ignoring them. That is choosing to be stupid. No one should choose to be stupid. Ignorant is not the same as stupid. There is a marked difference. Ignorance is curable. Stupidity is often terminal.
Should you currently find yourself in challenging circumstances do not plead ignorance as to the whys or whens of these tricky situations. You have brought them to yourself. They have arrived because you needed to learn something new. It is simpler to accept lessons when they come, trust that there is a reason. Lessons occasionally bend you out of shape. They push your boundaries. This is not a problem. Stretching through learning is worth every squeak and groan of the expanding infrastructure in your mind. When you begin to eradicate your ignorance through deliberate effort you will find that your life opens up immeasurably. You will find that you start to care more about the world in which you live because you understand it better.
Educate your children. Then teach them to have patience with ignorance. There are a lot of ignorant people on this planet and the children are the ones who are going to have to remedy this situation. It is the next generation that is going to carry that load. As a people we should think more about what we are consigning to our kids. The society they are set to inherit is not looking good. It is going to take a monumental effort on the part of those currently in power to make this different. One would hope that those currently in power understand their responsibility.
Trust that it is necessary to have your heart broken at least once in this life. It need not be a relationship breakdown that brings it on, it could be your cat getting squashed by a car. A death in the family. It could be that you feel brokenhearted because the world is in the state it is. It depends how deep your feelings go. When your heart is broken, you are forced into a confrontation with yourself. You are wounded and you are not happy. The conversations you will have with yourself will be filled with self-pity and usually you respond to the call of victim for a time. Be sure that it is only for a time.
The broken heart heals if you allow it to. When it is permitted to thrash around in agony it works its pain out the way it knows how. Let it. This is the best way. Your emotions will take the hit, but that can be managed. A broken heart hurts. It is a physical ache, a mental torture. A spiritual strengthening. A broken heart does not forget how to love. Ever. It just struggles to adjust to the idea that its sharing is going to have to be with somebody new. It is hard to let go of the old to make space for the new. In fact that is one of this life’s biggest challenges. Falling out of love with someone is not the end of the world. Recognising the truth of the matter, is. A love lost breaks a heart, every time. A broken heart comes with sadness. Sadness is heavy and it decimates your being, but it has to be felt and it has to be worked through. You cannot ignore it. Remember that sadness will stay with you as long as it can. It is up to you to decide when the time is over for its punishment.
The healed heart will carry scars. This is not serious. Each scar, a love. How can that be bad news? Celebrate the loves you have had in your life. You will know which have been loves and which have not. Try not to hate people you once loved. That is not productive. It is your responsibility to remind yourself why you loved them once upon a time. That reason – those reasons – must be enough to prevent you from regretting your choices. If you cannot bring yourself to a place where you can at least appreciate the learning you have received through loving and losing love, you have a lot of work to do. Each love in your life has been sent to you for a reason. You are a reason in someone else’s life. Assess yourself. Your relationships. Are you getting what you need? Are you learning? If you are not, you must ask yourself what you are doing.
So you let go. That means what, exactly? You tell yourself in your head that you have made a conscious choice to detach yourself from a thought, an idea, a dream. (A point in hand – do not detach yourself from too many of your dreams. They make your present liveable). Then you stand objective and feel how it feels to be ‘without’ whatever it was. A person, a situation, a memory. In analysing that feeling – the emptiness – are you honest enough to admit to yourself that lurking on the sidelines of your thinking is the forgotten whatever it was? It is always watching you try to forget it. You are busy trying to forget how it feels to be with that thing. How it is to carry its weight. It’s just not possible. The minute you turn your back you will find that your subconscious is busy soliciting the forbidden thinking. It’s rebellious like that. So how to really let go? You have to make an arrangement with your heart to let go. Heart holds on tight. In fact, it is a bit like a child. It holds tight to what keeps it happy. Your mind can understand that you must separate yourself from something that is causing complications in your life. Your heart can’t. Heart accepts all and this makes for complications. Complications are put where they are to keep us from getting too easy with being. Life demands respect and should you fail to show due respect for its display it will send you reminders that you are merely human. Each time a complexity unveils itself in your space – like an unexpected emotional outburst, or a twist in your life path that you were not expecting – it is a small test of your capacity. If you freak out each time life hands you something you thought you did not require, think again. You never get what you don’t need. You have made sure of that. Learn to accept what it is that has been put on your plate and work with it rather than against it – that is better for your development. If you keep fighting the learning you are sent you will have to keep being taught. That can be guaranteed.
We have all heard this: If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it is yours. If it doesn’t, it never was. How about this – you are making a mistake if you set what you love, free. You have to think of both sides. Who are you to free what it is that you love in the first place? It was never yours to set free, or hold on to. Love is a force. It is true unto itself. Love chooses what it wants because of what you need. It is considerate that way. Love is alive. It is not something superficial, something to be trifled with, something you can cling to. You cannot cling to love. You cannot bend it to your will. It dictates its flow, you just have to hold on tight and know that wherever it is going will be interesting. It is surprisingly powerful, love. It can make you do things you thought were impossible. It can make you push yourself harder than anything else can push you. It can make you feel things that you cannot explain and perhaps do not want to explain. Love defies labelling. It is nothing but itself. It tickles. It hurts. It keeps you from feeling alone – that is why it is in you in the first place. We are born alone? We are only born alone in the sense that until we take our first independent breath we are empty of spirit. We die alone? I do not think we die alone. I think we die safe in the arms of our deepest beliefs once consciousness is shut off. That means death is nothing to fear. It is just a part of life. Where your head goes – now that is where you want to be concentrating your energies. That is where you will end up for your eternity.