I think there is some confusion when it comes to the term: in Love. For instance, you can have a deep Love for your family members but it is not appropriate to be ‘in Love’ with them. That then bends Love’s trajectory towards incestuous and incest is not fine no matter what planet you are on. The point is, though, it is not okay to hide that kind of shit if it exists and is an issue. The point is to treat the cause of the problem, not the symptoms. Ask why a father would impregnate his daughter, why he would find her sexually attractive in the first place? Why would a possessive mother seduce her son? I mean that sort of sexual attraction is alarming to me and it really does need addressing. Basically – incest kills true intimacy. It breaks sacred bonds. That confuses children and it causes inexplicable pain that dominoes down the generations. Therefore – incest is not acceptable and that is not a negotiable point if the healthy concept of family is to survive its deconstruction.
If you are the parents of a child, or children, it makes sense to remember that you chose each other with whom to ‘breed’, as such. Surely you choose to have a baby with someone you are in Love with? If you didn’t, then I question why you are parents. Children are not a ‘by-product’ of sex – make sure you get that straight. They are a choice. If you do not make the choice, then do not have kids. It’s simple, really. Children who watch their mothers and fathers hate each other for a living learn nothing about Love, about choices. They learn hate and blame, about bondage and obligation. They are also torn, often, between taking sides with their mother or their father and that is not the sort of choice a child should ever have to make. I suspect that there are a great many bullies in relationships – male and female – who enjoy the convenience of a resident punch-bag, as such. That may be how things are for a lot of people, but it is important to understand that that kind of ‘relationship’ is not of Love – not in ANY shape or form.
In Love. Again – it may be helpful to understand that ‘in Love’ is not a destination. It is a privilege: the beginning of a journey into the heart of what really matters. Love is not a commodity, despite what some humans might think. What some humans think matters not, however, and Love knows that. It is when Love falls in Love that it is liable to lose its own control. Maybe that is no bad thing. Perhaps ‘out of control’ Love is exactly what this wounded planet needs?
Porn is a bigger problem than you perhaps realise. Kids under 10 are looking at it – girls, as well as boys. It is not just looking at it that is a problem. Reading it can be a problem, too, if you read hardcore copy. Porn bends heads. It scares girls, wakes up Pandora. Porn has extraordinary power and it needs to be kept away from children. It damages them. You will have to accept that we will not eradicate porn from this world, but it should be better regulated. Adults who enjoy porn should look a little deeper into their sex. They will probably find that on a level their sex is hectic, but empty. How much transgression can you watch going on before you start to transgress as part of an everyday? What you watch becomes your reality. Choose carefully what thoughts you fill your head with. There is a lot of depraved thinking going on in the minds of boys and men and there are enough loose women desperate enough to comply with their desires. This needs dealing with. I am not suggesting that it is only men, either. Women these days have seriously questionable morals – they are as much into whoring as the men are. A lot of women are predators. A lot of men are corruptors of innocence, they get off on turning you into a bad girl for their entertainment. Watch for them. Porn has bred whoring. Be watchful, too, for money-whores. There are a great many of those in our world. Porn is the difference between a ‘fuck’ and making love. Love lets you know everything you need to know about making it. A ‘fuck’ is nothing. Know that a lot of men out there are fucking women for a living. They tell the women what they need to hear – lies, usually, and they ply them with alcohol to loosen their inhibitions and get into their pants. Women are not good at drinking too much and keeping their pants on. A woman who needs love (and there are a lot of those in our world) wants to believe the random man whispering in her ear actually cares about her and she opens willingly to his approach. Easy. Know that he does not care. He is taking from her her grace, her innocence. Bit by bit. As a woman, please do not be under the illusion – ever – that when you let a man into your pants after three minutes that it is love. It never, ever is. It is purely physical. You are a sex toy. Understand this when you want to make sense of your life.
We need to replace porn with erotica. Erotica is hot, porn is not. Erotica is different – lust is a reality for every single one of us. Carnal lust. The carnal lust that drives the animal in all of us will surprise us with its power time and again. If you fail to recognise the animal in you, you are missing vital information from your understanding of life. Know that love and lust do go hand in hand. Both are instincts. Love and lust are bed-fellows in good relationships. If you do not feel lust, or cannot feel lust – then something is wrong with your sex. You must investigate what is not right in your love life. It is time to look at what you expect from sex, what you require from sex and what you are not getting. If you are not getting love – just a few hours of physical intimacy with a stranger – then your sex life is pretty pointless, it has to be said. You should perhaps change the way you go about doing what you do.
Sex should not become boring. Boring is dangerous. Comfortable is fine, but avoid boring because it leads to transgression. Boring means you need to reconsider your relationship before you do something that is going to jeopardise it. Kids must learn young what sex is about and what it is for. Important – it is not only for procreation, for god’s sake. It is there for pleasure. If kids should hear the wrong thing about sex in the first place, this is an issue. Teach them right. Porn tells a wrong story and it should not be their introduction.
If you aspire to – or do – live like a porn star in your real life then understand that you are the kind of person that is destroying the equilibrium in this world, i.e. the peace. Please stop it. People who use others for sex are selfish. You do not ever use somebody for sex. And you do not ever take someone’s sex from them. EVER. You respect that sex is a demonstration of love – not simply a quick way to get your rocks off or boost your self-esteem. Ironically, random sex will not boost your self-esteem. It will eat away at your insides. You throw your name away each time you do it.