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Let’s clarify something about Love – Blog No. 7

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I think there is some confusion when it comes to the term:  in Love.  For instance, you can have a deep Love for your family members but it is not appropriate to be ‘in Love’ with them.  That then bends Love’s trajectory towards incestuous and incest is not fine no matter what planet you are on.  The point is, though, it is not okay to hide that kind of shit if it exists and is an issue.  The point is to treat the cause of the problem, not the symptoms.  Ask why a father would impregnate his daughter, why he would find her sexually attractive in the first place?  Why would a possessive mother seduce her son?  I mean that sort of sexual attraction is alarming to me and it really does need addressing.  Basically – incest kills true intimacy.  It breaks sacred bonds.  That confuses children and it causes inexplicable pain that dominoes down the generations.  Therefore – incest is not acceptable and that is not a negotiable point if the healthy concept of family is to survive its deconstruction.

If you are the parents of a child, or children, it makes sense to remember that you chose each other with whom to ‘breed’, as such.  Surely you choose to have a baby with someone you are in Love with?  If you didn’t, then I question why you are parents.  Children are not a ‘by-product’ of sex – make sure you get that straight.  They are a choice.  If you do not make the choice, then do not have kids.  It’s simple, really.  Children who watch their mothers and fathers hate each other for a living learn nothing about Love, about choices.  They learn hate and blame, about bondage and obligation.  They are also torn, often, between taking sides with their mother or their father and that is not the sort of choice a child should ever have to make.  I suspect that there are a great many bullies in relationships – male and female – who enjoy the convenience of a resident punch-bag, as such.  That may be how things are for a lot of people, but it is important to understand that that kind of ‘relationship’ is not of Love – not in ANY shape or form.

In Love.  Again – it may be helpful to understand that ‘in Love’ is not a destination.  It is a privilege:  the beginning of a journey into the heart of what really matters.  Love is not a commodity, despite what some humans might think.  What some humans think matters not, however, and Love knows that.  It is when Love falls in Love that it is liable to lose its own control.  Maybe that is no bad thing.  Perhaps ‘out of control’ Love is exactly what this wounded planet needs?

 

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Children – Blog No. 32

effects-child-abuse1I am not quite sure this planet realises how problematic it is that children are not treated right in too many parts of the world.  Probably in every part of the world.  I cannot understand the need people have to breed and then abuse their children.  Why would you procreate when you cannot handle having a child?  And motherhood – and fatherhood – is about handling your progeny, not annihilating them.  That – to me – is possibly the most stupid of all human behaviours.  Breeding willy-nilly without thought of consequence, just having babies because you cannot be bothered not to.  It’s obscene.

Children are vulnerable and very impressionable.  All of them.  How many times does that have to be said before people take heed?  What you show your child of life is how it will grow.  The reality is startling in its simplicity.  You kick your child around, or abuse it verbally and emotionally, and you are building a damaged human being.  There is not much space left on this planet for damaged people.  There are already way too many.  It is time that the damaging was brought under control.  It is ruining people, society.  I am not sure what would happen if every abuser took accountability for his/her behaviour – recognised it, themselves.  If they opened their eyes they would realise the fate that was awaiting them.

Having children is not ‘what you do’ in life.  Times have changed.  How hard can it be to understand that parenting is not an essential part of living?  How hard can it be to understand that there are a great many lives that would be far less stressful without children in them?  That is fact, it is not something to feel sentimental about.  Children are a joy on many levels, and that is what they are supposed to be.  They are not punch-bags.  They are not adults.  They are not to be underestimated, either.

 

 

 

 

 

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