Childhood is for children. That means it is a time of innocence. Every child has innocence. Should you be responsible for taking the innocent wonder out of the life-experience of a child, you will have a lot to answer for when that child becomes an adult. It is not easy to ensure that a childhood is untainted in this day and age, but it is possible.
Childhood is short for most children these days, that is why it is important to cherish the idea of it. Again I will say it, if you cannot offer a child a happy childhood, why have one? That kind of a betrayal is sacrilege. Children are all born with hope. Love, and innocence too. If you choose to damage these faculties in a child, you can safely consider yourself a cruel person.
There are those parents that will live vicariously through their children, and this, too, tampers with the early experience that children should be having. Children need guidance, they do not need their parents to make their choices for them. Childhood is a time for exploration, for children to learn how to make sense of the world they have been born into. An adult is not able to make up a child’s mind.
You are not vain if you take care of your appearance. You are not vain if you are self-conscious about how you look to the world and you spend time on presenting your best. Just do not get caught in the trap of thinking you are the reason this earth revolves. If you should imagine that the sun shines out of your backside, please reassess yourself. That would be vanity. When you follow the thinking that you are in some way superior to another person because of how you look, you are misguided.
Vanity is not an attractive quality. It negatively affects the nature of a person, you lose your sense of self when you become vain. People who buy into their own hype in life, are vain. I do not understand how anyone can buy into their own hype. How can you fall for your own tricks? These society people who are in love with themselves are falling for the oldest trick in the book. When you are mesmerised by your own reflection in this world, you are closed to possibility. Worshipping yourself is not advisable if you have any plans of going anywhere worthwhile or having a lasting impact on this planet. People tire easily of those who love to blow their own trumpets. The noise they make destroys the peace of transformation going on all around us. When you are stuck staring at how great you are you forget that you are here to serve humanity. The planet needs more people who are prepared to put down their mirrors and see for real.
It is easy to check where you are in life with vanity – you need to ask yourself why you are loved. That is always a very interesting question to ask of yourself, and of the people who love you. It is not always easy to spell out the reasons one has love for another, but it is worth checking with a partner why they think they ‘love’ you. When you hear why, you will understand how your partner sees Love. You should always consider important how your partner views Love. It may not be the same way you look at it. Love should be able to speak clearly for itself. If someone loves you and they are too shy to tell you why, that is sweet. Perhaps treasure that innocence. If a person can show you why they love you, even better. Showing is usually far better than telling.
You create your own limitations. Break with your tradition of thinking and remove the worn out ideas – your core ‘staple’ thoughts – to free up space for a new world-view. It is time. There is not time any longer for being overly precious about your angers and your hatreds – you must see each one, face to face, and then let it fly. It is time to let go of your toxic thoughts. Write them on paper and set fire to them. It is cathartic watching the flames. I suggest you do not get too sentimental about your letting go, either. Clean up your head willingly, it can only help you. Your thoughts contain your future, they are the building blocks of your existence. Make them strong. Positive. And think big. Dream of a world where there is more peace and tolerance, more respect and goodwill, compassion. Expect that world to materialise. But first – remove the boundaries you set for yourself by addressing your own negatives. When you can look at your negative behaviours and your destructive behaviours and understand why there are times when you act (seemingly) to sabotage your own life, then you will find yourself closer to knowing just who you are and how powerful your nature is. Your nature is essentially what you are. What you are is not the same as who you are. You must know both. That is why being natural is important. It shows respect for your beginnings. If you cannot be easy in your natural state you are missing out, it is a peace like none other.
This world has a self-consciousness that needs exploring. Perhaps there are too many mirrors? Perhaps it matters too much in some places how you present yourself to the planet. But in these places where picture-perfect matters the people can be left to themselves, they are all aspiring to be the same object – so they become one and the same and no one needs to worry. Narcissus looked first to himself and last, at himself. When you have a mindset that understands shopping for a living, celebrity-worshipping and very little else it is harmless in the larger scheme of things. These people do not contribute to our days. Their attention is focussed elsewhere and their heads are empty. In fact their free space is legendary. It is when these people speak shit that we have a problem. Their thoughts are very easy to deflect but their words cause a nuisance. There are too many ignorant people speaking hatred with authority and that is a problem in our western world. How many people these days read more than the daily tabloid? You cannot get anywhere in life by reading the tabloids. Please. Fill your head with relevant facts. Who this woman is who slept with 30 men in her quest for fame is not a relevant fact. Lazy people do not bother to read about the state of their own futures in the hands of the dodgy politicians they put in power – either through voting, or NOT voting. There is no excuse for not voting. None. Lazy people do not bother to read about what state their world is in, how their natural world is shrinking. There is no time for laziness in our current climate. We need to make a statement against the way things are. We do not do that by avoiding taking responsibility. We all become informed – even one new piece of information each day. That way – you are growing your awareness and you are forming opinions. It is natural. You will have an opinion one way or another on this thing, that thing. It is interesting hearing your own opinions. You must feel how it feels to believe something. You will know how it feels. There is a power behind your idea, your ideas. You cannot pretend to yourself to believe something. And don’t worry about believing everything you read – you won’t. You have discernment and you are equipped to use it. Check your sources and find reliable facts with which to build your understanding of what is happening to our world. Trust your opinions but do not force them on other people. Suggesting is always better. Put your opinions up against the opinions of others and see how your thinking measures up. Together we can find a way to make the people who hold power, listen. It is all in the way you ask them to hear you. You cannot be unresponsive to an appeal made in earnest, with pure motivation. It would be to go against the spirit of living and violate our right of abode as citizens of Earth.
This world needs to recognise that limitations are impractical. If you can conceive of not succeeding then you have the wrong goal. What is the point wasting time on following to conclusion something that you, yourself, do not believe in? To have doubts is natural, healthy, it keeps you from complacency. But do not consider failure before you consider success. Then you will fail. You have to be able to stretch your perception to include the possibility that you have everything you need to get you to your best. Who you are – at this exact moment in time – is enough. Trust your experiences – always. Trust your innocence – always. If you manage your life effectively you will find that you develop your innocence rather than allow it to be lost. You feed your innocence and learn from experience. It is easy. Trust your inner child for guidance. It knows what to do. If you have not yet made the acquaintance of your inner child you ought to make your introductions, soon. Your inner child uses pure motivation. You can learn a lot from watching its decision-making.
In some cultures, respect is an intrinsic part of an everyday. It permeates every action, word, deed. Other cultures cannot spell the word. I think this imbalance is having a major impact on the stability of our world. Respect is taught to children. It is taught, it is not inherited. As is accountability. You show respect in order to teach respect. Particularly to children. Are you aware that by the age of three a child has developed a significant part of its moral make-up? It learns from what it sees. By three, a child’s values are established and it has garnered important life skills that will assist or hinder it on its journey to adulthood. That means children are to be treated with care. Some cultures currently do not understand this. Try to remember that the world you promote to a child is the world they will believe exists. It is not easy to change early impressions.
Every child that is abused or exploited is a child destroyed. Every childhood destroyed, is sacrilege. The value of the purity contained in the true experience of growing up should not be overlooked. The value of proper nurturing by parents should not be overlooked, either. The true experience for a child is about preserving the innocence for as long as you can. Importantly, preserving innocence is never about lying to a child. It is about protecting a child from the adult content of our world.
It is a serious failing that we have as many broken children on this planet as we do. Too many children have seen too much, too soon. For the particular crime of child abuse (emotional, physical, circumstantial or spiritual) – for it is a crime against Nature to damage a child – there is no absolution. Your karma and your end of days will teach you just how frowned upon cruelty to children is. Remember that in our time a childhood is short. That is how it is. Life moves quickly for us all. I see a problem in that there are no halcyon days for a great many children in this world of ours. In a world as adept as this we should not allow our governments to sidestep this issue. They must allocate more funding to social services. They must train more social workers and pay them properly to do the jobs that can make a difference to a child’s life. The world needs more volunteers who wish to heal hurt children. The warring nations of this world need to take accountability for destroying their own children with their pointless vendettas and stop blaming peacemakers for their lost youth. To teach hatred to a child is child abuse. Israel should think about that. Hamas should think about that. Syria should take note and Osama bin Laden’s lost followers should stop brainwashing themselves and martyring innocents.
I think the global community must be more concerned about what is going on in its front garden. A childhood can never be reclaimed. As such, each one should be treasured by the adults – us – for the sake of the small person who is learning its way in our big world and for the sake of the adult that that child will become. It is simple. If respect is not shown for you, for your innocence as a child, you will find it difficult as an adult to reconcile respect for yourself with an everyday. You will learn how to disrespect your inner child as an adult and this has dire consequences.
Assess yourself. Recognise that the wounded child in you demands respect. And yes, we all have one. If you missed a childhood or were not taught respect when you were younger then teach yourselves what it is now. Do this by watching others respect you. If others do not respect you, it is because they have seen no reason to do so. That is often hard to accept. If you care, accept it and give them reason. If you do not care, you are on the wrong planet. You will feel better for some respect. Perhaps it is most important to remember that it is necessary to nurture respect in yourself and others because it is fundamental to love. And without love, we cannot fix the broken children, or adults, in this world. The responsibility is ours.