If it had been proven that being politically correct was a solution to the problems we face on this planet, I would have employed its ‘diplomacy’. It wasn’t. There are times when diplomacy is necessary, despite the idiots you may find yourself facing. And diplomatic means that you speak your mind with regard for your person and respect for another’s intelligence. It does not mean that you lie. When diplomacy goes out of the window it is a sure sign that the shit is going to hit the fan. When that fan is my face, you will know about it. Every single one of you.
I am certain that political correctness had good intentions. It was meant to dress up the mess of this planet in ribbons and bows for those whose sensitivity had already correctly identified it. That was perhaps a kind gesture. It was, though, counter-productive. It showed contempt for the people who have been listening to a ‘truth’ with the view of finding solutions. That this was in part unintentional – given that those who were preaching the bullshit did not know they had a sympathetic audience – is the only aspect that makes their lies acceptable. And white lies are called white lies for a reason. That is not to say that they are the only lies there are.
For those who may not know or understand political correctness for what it is, it is cowardice. Avoidance. It becomes a debilitating habit of telling a people what you think they want to hear instead of starting dialogue that addresses the real problems we all face. That can be as a result of the ‘partriarchal complex’ rife on this planet – one that we have been conditioned to accept. The belief that men are obligated to be the protectors on this planet. Not all of them are. Those that are not natural-born protectors – those who have misrepresented themselves as saviours – will be the ones who lie to you about your reality. They will do this for two reasons: either to save face, or to conceal their weaknesses, their actual inefficacy.
First impressions do count. They are, in fact, seminal. If you are the sort of person that is able to look others in the eyes then whether or not they return your question becomes immaterial. Fear often prevents eye-contact. Respect, too. However, I would suggest that meeting another’s gaze – even for a few moments – will do you and them, wonders. In a case of respect, looking down after saying hello will demonstrate humility. And yes, humility is very important in a world like this. That does not ever mean you need to feel ‘lesser’ or be subservient to any other being, or put their opinions or needs above yours. Yours – are as important as the man’s standing next to you.
Impressions are what is left behind, as such. You can recall a strong impression in minute detail if you concentrate. First impressions are like red wine-stains – they take some washing out. Some may even remain forever. Like scars. Or blood. Blood – when you have seen enough of it – always makes an impression. A deep one. A voice makes an impression. The way a smell makes an impression. One that can last a lifetime, in fact. And some lives are very, very long.
When Alice first hit Wonderland she noticed the pea that had been sleeping under her mattress for the past months. The pea apologised profusely for the bruises she had caused Alice and they went to make an impression. They thought the best place for that would be at the palace of the Queen(s) of Heart. They were right. Fortunately, the pea made it into one of the Queen’s delicious soups and Alice was invited to partake of the fare. She saved the pea and sent the Old Queen into orbit. That is the way Alice works.
You create your own limitations. Break with your tradition of thinking and remove the worn out ideas – your core ‘staple’ thoughts – to free up space for a new world-view. It is time. There is not time any longer for being overly precious about your angers and your hatreds – you must see each one, face to face, and then let it fly. It is time to let go of your toxic thoughts. Write them on paper and set fire to them. It is cathartic watching the flames. I suggest you do not get too sentimental about your letting go, either. Clean up your head willingly, it can only help you. Your thoughts contain your future, they are the building blocks of your existence. Make them strong. Positive. And think big. Dream of a world where there is more peace and tolerance, more respect and goodwill, compassion. Expect that world to materialise. But first – remove the boundaries you set for yourself by addressing your own negatives. When you can look at your negative behaviours and your destructive behaviours and understand why there are times when you act (seemingly) to sabotage your own life, then you will find yourself closer to knowing just who you are and how powerful your nature is. Your nature is essentially what you are. What you are is not the same as who you are. You must know both. That is why being natural is important. It shows respect for your beginnings. If you cannot be easy in your natural state you are missing out, it is a peace like none other.
This world has a self-consciousness that needs exploring. Perhaps there are too many mirrors? Perhaps it matters too much in some places how you present yourself to the planet. But in these places where picture-perfect matters the people can be left to themselves, they are all aspiring to be the same object – so they become one and the same and no one needs to worry. Narcissus looked first to himself and last, at himself. When you have a mindset that understands shopping for a living, celebrity-worshipping and very little else it is harmless in the larger scheme of things. These people do not contribute to our days. Their attention is focussed elsewhere and their heads are empty. In fact their free space is legendary. It is when these people speak shit that we have a problem. Their thoughts are very easy to deflect but their words cause a nuisance. There are too many ignorant people speaking hatred with authority and that is a problem in our western world. How many people these days read more than the daily tabloid? You cannot get anywhere in life by reading the tabloids. Please. Fill your head with relevant facts. Who this woman is who slept with 30 men in her quest for fame is not a relevant fact. Lazy people do not bother to read about the state of their own futures in the hands of the dodgy politicians they put in power – either through voting, or NOT voting. There is no excuse for not voting. None. Lazy people do not bother to read about what state their world is in, how their natural world is shrinking. There is no time for laziness in our current climate. We need to make a statement against the way things are. We do not do that by avoiding taking responsibility. We all become informed – even one new piece of information each day. That way – you are growing your awareness and you are forming opinions. It is natural. You will have an opinion one way or another on this thing, that thing. It is interesting hearing your own opinions. You must feel how it feels to believe something. You will know how it feels. There is a power behind your idea, your ideas. You cannot pretend to yourself to believe something. And don’t worry about believing everything you read – you won’t. You have discernment and you are equipped to use it. Check your sources and find reliable facts with which to build your understanding of what is happening to our world. Trust your opinions but do not force them on other people. Suggesting is always better. Put your opinions up against the opinions of others and see how your thinking measures up. Together we can find a way to make the people who hold power, listen. It is all in the way you ask them to hear you. You cannot be unresponsive to an appeal made in earnest, with pure motivation. It would be to go against the spirit of living and violate our right of abode as citizens of Earth.
This world needs to recognise that limitations are impractical. If you can conceive of not succeeding then you have the wrong goal. What is the point wasting time on following to conclusion something that you, yourself, do not believe in? To have doubts is natural, healthy, it keeps you from complacency. But do not consider failure before you consider success. Then you will fail. You have to be able to stretch your perception to include the possibility that you have everything you need to get you to your best. Who you are – at this exact moment in time – is enough. Trust your experiences – always. Trust your innocence – always. If you manage your life effectively you will find that you develop your innocence rather than allow it to be lost. You feed your innocence and learn from experience. It is easy. Trust your inner child for guidance. It knows what to do. If you have not yet made the acquaintance of your inner child you ought to make your introductions, soon. Your inner child uses pure motivation. You can learn a lot from watching its decision-making.
Start by asking yourself how much you know about this planet you inhabit. Its people. Its animals. Its problems. How much do you know about yourself? It is easy to assume that you know everything there is to know about who you are, since you are the one who has lived with you since birth, but in each of us there remains the unknown. There are aspects of ourselves that lie dormant, waiting patiently for the push it will take to wake them up. That push comes from facing adversity. From loving with everything you have. From procreating. From creating. We are all creators. Take pleasure – and pride – in your creation: your life. If you cannot feel pride about your life then you understand you are on the wrong path, wasting your potential. If you cannot feel positive about your days and the place you find yourself in them, then you realise you need to adjust your thinking. You cannot avoid having to modify your thoughts when you want to take yourself out of a mediocre situation. There is not one of us who should accept mediocrity. If your life is mediocre, fix it. It has the potential for excellence. You should want to find the best in yourself. If you do not feel that need, you should perhaps question your purpose on this planet. If you cannot define your purpose, you need to find one. You cannot go from dawn until dusk each day without true purpose.
Others are helpful when it comes to making us aware. Be willing to take another’s opinion on board, sometimes it will be your saving grace. If a person is brave enough to tell you what you don’t want to hear, respect their courage and do your best to impact the assessment. If you do not trust the person who is giving you their opinion, then do not bother taking their words to heart. Use them as exercise, emotional exercise. It is easy. You will know if someone is criticising you, or giving you feedback. You cannot mistake the feeling of being criticised. Be grateful for feedback when it is objective, honest. Do not accept insults, accept the truth.
In your awareness, make space for further awareness. Expand your capacity. Know that your mind is eager to stretch itself to accommodate the new. Be curious about who you are in relation to other people. We are not all the same, but we are a collective. Your differences are your distinction. Similarities are sweet, comfortable, routine. They make us feel safe. A difference makes a difference. Find your best in your distinction. You will not find your best when you sit in the ditch with the rest of humanity whining about the world owing you a living. The world owes you nothing. You owe you. It is important to realise that giving in this world is what is required right now. Giving is vital for a person’s well-being. Until every single person on this planet is in a position to give (something back), we have a problem – an imbalance. When you give nothing, you get nothing. When you have nothing, you cannot give. It’s a vicious circle.
The thing to know is that the world does not pick up man’s mess. The world moves along at a pace unchanged. Time ticks as fast as it always did, we only have twenty-four hours in each day. Make sure you use your hours for the betterment of yourself, of others. Be aware of your wants, your needs. Be aware of what you say, to whom. What you have to say for yourself, tells.
Appreciation is different to gratitude. It’s warmer, deeper. And it’s more than just a feeling – it’s real goodwill at work. Gratitude is necessary for your spirit, your soul. You need to resonate with gratitude for your life because you have given it to yourself. Respect that. Keep in mind that no matter how untidy your life has been – and we have all had untidy patches – you have made your way to where you are successfully. Perhaps not unscathed, or intact, but successfully. Some of us take the long road, some of us take short-cuts. Whichever way you choose to live your life remember that you did not undertake its challenges lightly.
When faced with the choice of returning to meet your karma sooner or rather later – for we must all return at some point – you must know what you will decide to do. That is one question that will be asked of you when you end your days. Are you the fool – leaping immediately off every precipice into the unknown, or are you the more cautious sort, creeping along in life at a slow, steady never? Decide. Hare or the tortoise? Some of us are adrenalin junkies when it comes to living, we need to take it at pace and move, fluid, with it. Others will revisit their roles and stay fixed in situ. Which is better? Those that stay in their comfort zone will not reach their full potential. It is that simple. Respect yourself for putting yourself through what you have. There is a reason for it.
Life is your teacher. Your guru. Love is your guide. Your compass. Trust that. Know that you have a list of experiences written into your script that you must have, and will have. How you choose to execute these experiences is up to you. You can immerse yourself in the drama of each one, or you can detach yourself from the tangle. Both methods work. You will face the same obstacles time and again – they will just dress differently to keep you on your toes – until you review yourself differently. That is in your power. Practice it. You will do the same things, but with practice you will look at them from a different perspective each time. That way, you will find solution. Finding solution – creative solution – is a part of your life’s purpose.
Inspiration is powerful. It motivates you to act. Feeling inspired does not mean sitting dreaming about possibilities. It means sitting and dreaming, of course, but it means more than that. It means doing something with the energy generated by your ideas. Good ideas create good vibes. Bad ideas do not. Bad ideas sometimes supercede good ideas. It happens. That is because a bad idea is usually disguised as a good idea in the head of the thinker. It is astounding what you can convince yourself of if you are determined. Use your inspiration to inspire others. What greater gift can you give the world? Inspire your colleagues by being the positive guy. Inspire your family by being real. Watching somebody be real is a privilege. It is a pity we do not do it more often. It is a good way to show respect for ourselves and regard for another person.
Expiration is equally powerful. It is the opposite of inspiration but it does not feel like it is. It does not feel like demotivation and it does not feel too much like breathing, either. To me, it feels like death. We expire, eventually. When we have done what we were sent to do on this planet, we die. Try not to be sentimental about death. It happens all the time. There is no point in fearing it. It is a freedom. It is a state we should learn to understand better, not dread. We have become a little too precious about death in the 21st century, despite our being bombarded with terminal facts and figures that defy reason and belief. Death is in our faces every day. What we learn is that we are alive, then we are not. Death is life. We should not hang on too tightly to the departed – as hard as that can be – we must let them move on without us because our possessiveness hinders their ability to leave this material plane. Do not cause your loved ones to have to wait forever for you to be over them, because they will wait for as long as you need them. Let them go forwards. They have a path that needs travelling, they have their own footprints to find. They have their own karmas to meet. Remember that when you are dead you do not feel sad for the living. You do not feel. Those of us left behind, feel. That is life. If we can realise that being dead is not a punishment, we can evolve. Dead is simply where you end up after being alive. How you die is what is important. We should all aspire to dying in our sleep – that is a treasure unlike any other.
We keep a spirit alive by letting it breathe through us. Do not be selfish with your breathing. When you speak of the dead, try to speak of them with love. It is a good thing for you and it is a good thing for them. The dead are best pleased to hear words of love. They are no different to the living.
In some cultures, respect is an intrinsic part of an everyday. It permeates every action, word, deed. Other cultures cannot spell the word. I think this imbalance is having a major impact on the stability of our world. Respect is taught to children. It is taught, it is not inherited. As is accountability. You show respect in order to teach respect. Particularly to children. Are you aware that by the age of three a child has developed a significant part of its moral make-up? It learns from what it sees. By three, a child’s values are established and it has garnered important life skills that will assist or hinder it on its journey to adulthood. That means children are to be treated with care. Some cultures currently do not understand this. Try to remember that the world you promote to a child is the world they will believe exists. It is not easy to change early impressions.
Every child that is abused or exploited is a child destroyed. Every childhood destroyed, is sacrilege. The value of the purity contained in the true experience of growing up should not be overlooked. The value of proper nurturing by parents should not be overlooked, either. The true experience for a child is about preserving the innocence for as long as you can. Importantly, preserving innocence is never about lying to a child. It is about protecting a child from the adult content of our world.
It is a serious failing that we have as many broken children on this planet as we do. Too many children have seen too much, too soon. For the particular crime of child abuse (emotional, physical, circumstantial or spiritual) – for it is a crime against Nature to damage a child – there is no absolution. Your karma and your end of days will teach you just how frowned upon cruelty to children is. Remember that in our time a childhood is short. That is how it is. Life moves quickly for us all. I see a problem in that there are no halcyon days for a great many children in this world of ours. In a world as adept as this we should not allow our governments to sidestep this issue. They must allocate more funding to social services. They must train more social workers and pay them properly to do the jobs that can make a difference to a child’s life. The world needs more volunteers who wish to heal hurt children. The warring nations of this world need to take accountability for destroying their own children with their pointless vendettas and stop blaming peacemakers for their lost youth. To teach hatred to a child is child abuse. Israel should think about that. Hamas should think about that. Syria should take note and Osama bin Laden’s lost followers should stop brainwashing themselves and martyring innocents.
I think the global community must be more concerned about what is going on in its front garden. A childhood can never be reclaimed. As such, each one should be treasured by the adults – us – for the sake of the small person who is learning its way in our big world and for the sake of the adult that that child will become. It is simple. If respect is not shown for you, for your innocence as a child, you will find it difficult as an adult to reconcile respect for yourself with an everyday. You will learn how to disrespect your inner child as an adult and this has dire consequences.
Assess yourself. Recognise that the wounded child in you demands respect. And yes, we all have one. If you missed a childhood or were not taught respect when you were younger then teach yourselves what it is now. Do this by watching others respect you. If others do not respect you, it is because they have seen no reason to do so. That is often hard to accept. If you care, accept it and give them reason. If you do not care, you are on the wrong planet. You will feel better for some respect. Perhaps it is most important to remember that it is necessary to nurture respect in yourself and others because it is fundamental to love. And without love, we cannot fix the broken children, or adults, in this world. The responsibility is ours.