Is it the system that twice stops South Africa from issuing the Dalai Lama with a visa? It seems that there is some resistance to his being welcomed on the tarmac at Oliver Tambo International Airport. I wonder what that resistance could be about? I am sure he would love to see South Africa in 2014. It would be interesting for him to understand how far South Africans have come.
The system was set to manage society and its maladministrations. It is offset by its own failings. This is not new news. The system has been watching itself fail for decades, now. It has become more adept at putting out fires than it is at starting them. Starting fires was the point. Without fire, there is no new growth. Also, it is important to know that starting fires is not synonymous with arson.
A system should be implemented only when it can be ascertained that the system to be introduced is 100% fail-safe. There is no point implementing a system that fails. The point is to construct a perfect model that works before you set about implementing it. That is called forward planning. The system is a model. It should be a model of infinite reach, a model that reflects the makings of a community dream – in order that the system’s reality is well-received by its people.
A lot of people have an issue with generalisations. They can be offensive, understandably, but sometimes they are necessary. When we are included in a bracket, or labelled as a whole, it forces accountability upon the everyman. Or woman. Interestingly, that makes individuals more inclined to define themselves as different from the masses in order that they distance themselves from the responsibility the masses must carry.
A point in hand is that each generalisation that is made is a reminder. A reminder that each one of us is part of a larger picture that has a history about which we can currently do nothing. It exists. Unfortunately, humans are largely predictable. They follow like lemmings their own kind, year in and year out. They insist on behaving the same way they have done for centuries. This needs changing before generalisations can be done away with.
It can be frustrating for people who do not deserve to wear the labels that are generally given to the collective. There are always those people who do not fit the mould that society has sculpted for every man, woman and child. Those ‘misfits’ who have been dragging balls and chains that do not belong shackled to their ankles. The ‘misfits’ are okay with their load – it has facilitated their unique position. They have the best of both worlds. They can blend with the generalisations into obscurity – along with the majority of the planet – or they can take accountability for their contributions to the history of our now and refine their definitions.
I am not quite sure this planet realises how problematic it is that children are not treated right in too many parts of the world. Probably in every part of the world. I cannot understand the need people have to breed and then abuse their children. Why would you procreate when you cannot handle having a child? And motherhood – and fatherhood – is about handling your progeny, not annihilating them. That – to me – is possibly the most stupid of all human behaviours. Breeding willy-nilly without thought of consequence, just having babies because you cannot be bothered not to. It’s obscene.
Children are vulnerable and very impressionable. All of them. How many times does that have to be said before people take heed? What you show your child of life is how it will grow. The reality is startling in its simplicity. You kick your child around, or abuse it verbally and emotionally, and you are building a damaged human being. There is not much space left on this planet for damaged people. There are already way too many. It is time that the damaging was brought under control. It is ruining people, society. I am not sure what would happen if every abuser took accountability for his/her behaviour – recognised it, themselves. If they opened their eyes they would realise the fate that was awaiting them.
Having children is not ‘what you do’ in life. Times have changed. How hard can it be to understand that parenting is not an essential part of living? How hard can it be to understand that there are a great many lives that would be far less stressful without children in them? That is fact, it is not something to feel sentimental about. Children are a joy on many levels, and that is what they are supposed to be. They are not punch-bags. They are not adults. They are not to be underestimated, either.
Ignorance is a choice. As is refusing to believe a fact when it is irrefutable. Fortunately facts abound in our world. They provide stability, a framework. Lay-people should not be so afraid of them, they are tried and tested – each one. Facts can be relied upon. They are there for you to use, so use them wisely. It is pointless ignoring them. That is choosing to be stupid. No one should choose to be stupid. Ignorant is not the same as stupid. There is a marked difference. Ignorance is curable. Stupidity is often terminal.
Should you currently find yourself in challenging circumstances do not plead ignorance as to the whys or whens of these tricky situations. You have brought them to yourself. They have arrived because you needed to learn something new. It is simpler to accept lessons when they come, trust that there is a reason. Lessons occasionally bend you out of shape. They push your boundaries. This is not a problem. Stretching through learning is worth every squeak and groan of the expanding infrastructure in your mind. When you begin to eradicate your ignorance through deliberate effort you will find that your life opens up immeasurably. You will find that you start to care more about the world in which you live because you understand it better.
Educate your children. Then teach them to have patience with ignorance. There are a lot of ignorant people on this planet and the children are the ones who are going to have to remedy this situation. It is the next generation that is going to carry that load. As a people we should think more about what we are consigning to our kids. The society they are set to inherit is not looking good. It is going to take a monumental effort on the part of those currently in power to make this different. One would hope that those currently in power understand their responsibility.
Do we all have the same psychology when it comes to seeking protection? Is the drive of an asylum-seeker the same as the tendency a child has to hide behind its parents’ legs? Are women entering into marriages sold in catalogues because the prospect of a new life – a better life with a man that’s buying – outweighs the thought of having to sell yourself to get there? Perhaps the illusion of safety is what causes many women to marry men they really should not be marrying. Men, after all, are the protectors. They have always been the protectors. Some men are cut out for this kind of work. Others are not. Choose wisely what you need in a partner – both men and women should choose carefully – and remember that you do not need to marry the first person you become involved with or become familiar with. You cannot even begin to appreciate a person until you have learned who it is that they are. That learning does not take three minutes.
You cannot find a mould that men ‘ought’ to fit in this day and age, their role is varied. There are providers and protectors, there are hands-on dads and house-husbands. There are workaholics and sugar-daddies. There are a lot of men dealing with women who have daddy issues. Perhaps the women with daddy issues were deprived of that ‘protected’ feeling as children. Perhaps theirs’ were absent fathers. Shy fathers. Scared fathers. Aggressive fathers. The balance in society is out. There are too many females seeking protection in a world whose hard currency is women. If ever there was a catch 22, that is it. That means women need to become stronger still, work smarter. This world is in flux and those who do not change with it stand to lose their futures.
Women are entitled to protect themselves from every kind of abuse. How they do that is their enterprise. Men are as entitled as women are, to protect themselves. It is vital to know that you cannot make vulnerable a person who stands for themselves. Standing for yourself is like suiting up in armour. It is an act of courage. A wise idea. When you get to a place where you expect ultimate protection from none other than yourself and the tools made available to you, you are stronger than any abuser, any violator’s tactics. Do not allow yourself to be belittled, no matter who you are. Protect yourself from others’ bitterness and protect yourself from becoming a mere number here on Earth. There is more to life than being a number.
You have physical senses of which you are (mostly) aware. Apart from those that you have purposely suppressed, repressed. In your allegiance to society’s flawed say-so, you are subjugating yourself by denying the truth of your reality. If you concentrate, your senses explain your true reality to you. Do not be fooled, listen and learn. You let your senses get bent by conditioning, you allow your senses to be told what to feel and what to do. This is not productive. You need to change your circumstances so that society listens to what your senses have to say, not the other way around.
Celebrate your senses. Know that you have more than five. You have a sense of being, for instance. A sense of balance, of understanding. Use every sense made available to you, do not be afraid to succumb to their pull, their sway. Your sense of mind is another valuable gift given to you by Nature. Do not shun the given. Should you not realise that your suppression – repression – of your senses is a fatal flaw in your being, you will find yourself on the outside of the inside. You do not want to be on the outside. Bring yourself in, into yourself, embrace your understanding. You have every capacity to understand and mould your reality, and then you reserve the right to break that mould. Your mould, your right to change its shape.
Consider that you see only what society wants you to see. Change that. Consider that you smell – on a subliminal level – the subtle musk of other human beings, the ‘attraction scent’ given off by women, men, despite the inappropriateness of this reality in our über politically correct society. These scents are enough to mess with your head if you are not aware that you are affected each day by the raw Nature of others. The subtleties happen to you all day, every day, should you be in contact with other humans. If you should spend a lot of time with others, your senses will quite likely be more developed than you perhaps give them credit for. This is an advantage. Know that being alone does not preclude you from sensing to perfection your actuality, it simply means that you must become more attuned to your wants, your needs, your knowing. Senses are knowing; all-knowing. Trust them.
You are not vain if you take care of your appearance. You are not vain if you are self-conscious about how you look to the world and you spend time on presenting your best. Just do not get caught in the trap of thinking you are the reason this earth revolves. If you should imagine that the sun shines out of your backside, please reassess yourself. That would be vanity. When you follow the thinking that you are in some way superior to another person because of how you look, you are misguided.
Vanity is not an attractive quality. It negatively affects the nature of a person, you lose your sense of self when you become vain. People who buy into their own hype in life, are vain. I do not understand how anyone can buy into their own hype. How can you fall for your own tricks? These society people who are in love with themselves are falling for the oldest trick in the book. When you are mesmerised by your own reflection in this world, you are closed to possibility. Worshipping yourself is not advisable if you have any plans of going anywhere worthwhile or having a lasting impact on this planet. People tire easily of those who love to blow their own trumpets. The noise they make destroys the peace of transformation going on all around us. When you are stuck staring at how great you are you forget that you are here to serve humanity. The planet needs more people who are prepared to put down their mirrors and see for real.
It is easy to check where you are in life with vanity – you need to ask yourself why you are loved. That is always a very interesting question to ask of yourself, and of the people who love you. It is not always easy to spell out the reasons one has love for another, but it is worth checking with a partner why they think they ‘love’ you. When you hear why, you will understand how your partner sees Love. You should always consider important how your partner views Love. It may not be the same way you look at it. Love should be able to speak clearly for itself. If someone loves you and they are too shy to tell you why, that is sweet. Perhaps treasure that innocence. If a person can show you why they love you, even better. Showing is usually far better than telling.