Love Letters To My Soul
13.
Love is a word that suggests unity. Definitely.
It also suggests an immaculate togetherness.
And … that makes me happy.
xxx
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Family – Blog No. 35
I used to believe that I had a few family values. Now I am sure. That comes as some relief to me, otherwise I might have had to declare myself inhuman. Family values, I have come to realise, are something you learn with time. A child is not born with family values. A child is shown what a value is, why it is held dear, and why it should be cherished. You cannot teach children values. They must see them in action, experience them firsthand. That is what parents are for – to show them.
If you choose family, be sure you understand the true meaning of the word. A family is not a fair-weather friend. That is the first thing a family is not. A family is not a score of judges ticking boxes with their children. A family wants the best for each of its members – no matter how many members it may have, and no matter what that best for each member is. Most importantly, if you choose family be sure you can trust them. That makes all the difference in the world.
Family is a social concept. It works. However – like many other words bandied about without full appreciation for their true meaning these days – a lot of people do not come from families and they do not know what the word actually means. It is sad for those people. It is not that they are mean-spirited or deliberately unkind – it just means they shouldn’t have children until they are certain they have learned the true value of family.
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Transparency – Blog No. 34
Transparent means see-through. I do not say that because I am being facetious – or provocative, for that matter, I say that because it is increasingly clear to me that the word ‘transparency’ has been as misinterpreted, falsely bandied about and used frequently as a cheap smokescreen in the very same way that the word ‘truth’ has. So it is time to set that misunderstanding – and I am being extremely polite – straight. Transparent does not mean selective sharing. It does not mean that only the most appropriate aspects – or answers – are offered up for assessment. It means everything – absolutely everything- about whatever seems questionable is opened to public scrutiny and then it is analysed, processed and dispensed with. Transparency is essential if one wishes to exhume the truth.
If you cannot be transparent at least once in your lifetime, you are going to have problems when you end your days. That is a given. Those who will hide from themselves and those that will keep vitally important secrets from those who need to know why things are like they are, are not only causing for themselves grave circumstance, they are in fact preventing this entire world from facing its past agonies in order that it can heal and move on. Without knowing the truth of any pain source, healing cannot begin. Anyone who will prevent another – or ALL others – from healing is a cruel and merciless person indeed. Perhaps to them, their reasons are good enough. For the majority, though, those who will attempt to thwart the success of our collective future by refusing to reveal the real reasons oppression – and every other social evil or human malady – exists are ultimately held accountable for everything. An innocent will never be held accountable for atrocities committed in their names and then hidden. Those who are complicit in the hiding, are as guilty as those who perpetuate the dishonesty. They will suffer the same fate.
Transparency is one of the hardest skills to master in this bent world that is built on a bed of lies. That is the first problem. If I tell you how many other problems this world is currently facing, you might not get up tomorrow morning. So I won’t. I will tell you what you need to know, exactly when you need to know it – the very same way I tell myself. There is not time to waste on knowing more than you need to when you don’t need to know it. If you get my drift. It is your choice. You can listen, or you can choose to continue burying your heads in the sand. Either way makes no difference to my personal outcome. My outcome, is already out. Instead of burying my head like the rest of the populace, I drew a line in the sand. And then, I moved on.
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Blog No. 32 – Your happiness
You learn very young what makes you happy, and what does not. That distinction lays the groundwork for the kind of human being each child is going to turn out to be. It is important that children learn to assert themselves whenever they find themselves in a situation that makes them uncomfortable. That discomfort could be the pain visited upon those who are close to them, it could be an older person trying to teach them something other than the truth. Children are intuitive. All of them. They understand the truth.
Your happiness should be a thing that you nurture. It is precious. It is also important – once you have discovered what makes you feel happy – that you understand whether your kind of happy is a healthy happy or not. There are many unhealthy happies out there and they can be destructive, but they each have their reason for being. When we can see their cause(s) then we can decide whether or not we wish to keep them, whether or not they are necessary to carry as baggage. Sometimes the unhealthy happies are simply happy happies trying to explain an inexplicable pain. For some things there are no words.
When you love truly, unconditionally, the happiness of the other is as important as your own. When you understand that happiness feeds off itself, then you will understand that putting the other’s happiness ahead of your own is not only the supreme act of self-sacrifice, it is the natural thing to do when you find yourself at cross-purposes. It’s like finally getting for yourself something you have dreamed of your entire life and then giving it away for no good reason. Who on this planet would do that?
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Love Letters
10.
MIND OVER MATTER
Stone for the Mind, Blood Stone (uncommon), Blood Ore.
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When it is said that finding the truth can be like trying to get blood from a stone, it is true.
The truth does not come easy. Ever.
When it comes, you know it is a sign of respect. Deep respect, aeons old.
It means you are ready to hear it.
The truth does not turn up for a dress-rehearsal.
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The wonder of Love and truth and Trust and Hope is no miracle.
It is a constant. It cannot, therefore, get lost.
Like it cannot be delusional. Wonder is independent of illusion.
And of Love.
That is by far its greatest strength.
( … and as for weaknesses, don’t underestimate them. They point out your strengths.)
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Love Letters
9.
THE NOTION OF OUT-LOVING ONE ANOTHER
Once upon a very long time ago, there popped up a beautiful concept.
How – on this earth – to out-love one another?
It was an inspired idea. It was worth pursuing.
So I chased it up awhile.
Out-loving anything begins at home. Like charity.
And accountability.
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When I count to 9 I see 3. Of 3. I’m pleased. I should.
it’s like 20/20 vision but better. Or, a thrice of triangles.
I would in that context say it was 49/51, to me.
That translates, now, into 102%.
How?
The 2% that makes a difference, is invisible.
…
I do believe that I know I could sustain myself in this way until ever. And a day.
I am good to myself like that.
Yes. Love is Epic. Operatic. A little bit spastic.
And call Love a retard. On a level, it is.
In fact, call it whatever the fuck you like.
Love – IS Love – is love.
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8.
A LOVE OF AGES
There are a few points of reference in every life.
Each one is vital.
Points segue, or they should. Smoothly.
Like a slipstream follows the path of least resistance.
Step only into the slipstream with which you are familiar.
Stay behind the guide that you trust.
…
Romeo and Juliet fired the family Ides ago.
They left them with the gladiators and took a sabbatical.
It was called individuation, in parts.
In others, it was called Love.
Luckily the gladiators were into training.
They taught the family some values.
…
Frankenstein’s monster killed Frankenstein’s bride. Why?
Because he begged the question.
I believe he got the right answer.
Ultimately, his bride did too.
Frankenstein met his death with a gasp of surprise.
I am not quite sure why.
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Realisations – Blog No. 31
Some realisations hit hard, like being knifed in the heart. Others flood your being with relief. It is the latter in which we – as a sentient people – find refuge. That refuge for a time provides respite, it strengthens us against the next onslaught of negativity. Negativity is bound to come and go, it is persistent in its attempts to contaminate the everyday. Let it come. Watch it go. That is how to build up your resistance. Practice does not necessarily guarantee perfection, but it gets you a lot closer to it than sitting wishing for expertise to strike you like lightning.
You will have realisations that cause you pain in this life. I suppose that is the sad reality. The happy reality is that one day you will come to realise that the pain was not a waste of time. Nothing ever is, if you do it properly. Your happy realisations will depend on who it is that you are. What makes us wholly happy as individuals is quite specific. What makes us sad is usually group therapy. As it happens.
Realisations, both good and bad, are vital for the growth of our understanding – they are never to be used for overstanding. When you learn something new, or you are shown a different way to do or improve something, you share that knowledge with those you know who will benefit from it. You do not waste time sharing it with those who do not need to know because for them there is no benefit in repetition. In fact, there is no point telling those people anything even once, but do it anyway. Their deafness is not your problem, but it will save you sleepless nights in your future past.
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