Some realisations hit hard, like being knifed in the heart. Others flood your being with relief. It is the latter in which we – as a sentient people – find refuge. That refuge for a time provides respite, it strengthens us against the next onslaught of negativity. Negativity is bound to come and go, it is persistent in its attempts to contaminate the everyday. Let it come. Watch it go. That is how to build up your resistance. Practice does not necessarily guarantee perfection, but it gets you a lot closer to it than sitting wishing for expertise to strike you like lightning.
You will have realisations that cause you pain in this life. I suppose that is the sad reality. The happy reality is that one day you will come to realise that the pain was not a waste of time. Nothing ever is, if you do it properly. Your happy realisations will depend on who it is that you are. What makes us wholly happy as individuals is quite specific. What makes us sad is usually group therapy. As it happens.
Realisations, both good and bad, are vital for the growth of our understanding – they are never to be used for overstanding. When you learn something new, or you are shown a different way to do or improve something, you share that knowledge with those you know who will benefit from it. You do not waste time sharing it with those who do not need to know because for them there is no benefit in repetition. In fact, there is no point telling those people anything even once, but do it anyway. Their deafness is not your problem, but it will save you sleepless nights in your future past.
… of getting the joke and loving the humour
… of feeling the lyric tug at your heart and understanding the reason the song was written
… of considering the workings of your eyes
… of trusting someone or something implicitly
… of knowing you can speak your mind and be heard
… of creating something out of nothing
… of watching a rising full moon dominate an horizon
… of sharing your dreams with those who want to know and choose to believe
… of turning good into better and better into best
… of making your own acquaintance when you least expect it
… of letting yourself succeed at what means most to you
… of giving and seeing why
… of living inside sleep
… of loving to distraction
… of being in a position to help
… of knowing exactly what to do
… of learning exactly how to do it.
It does not matter what it is that you have to share, as long as you do share it. If the problem is that you do not know what you have to share, then yours is a steep climb to the plateau of productivity. It is through sharing – and sharing alone – that any single human being is going to reach their full potential, their nirvana. If you imagined that you had reached nirvana already – or your zenith, if you like – then you can concede that you were quite possibly mistaken. There is a way to go yet before anyone gets anywhere.
Sharing your experiences is helpful. Sharing your perceptions is optional. Sharing your cynicism is unwelcome and sharing your destructive criticism is pointless to you in the long run. It slaps you on the back of the head on its return journey. There is always something to share. A smile. A truth. The last Rolo. A private joke. The list is endless. You do not need money to share your wealth.
Appreciate sharing. Both the giving and receiving. Sharing takes time. Time in this world is a gift. Feel free to give of yourself as often as you can manage without depleting your reserves or exhausting your resources. There is no point in that. If you are no good to yourself then you are not much good for anyone else. You must have others with whom to share (sharing with yourself is not quite as useful), so ensure that you are good to both yourself and the others you come across. You need their input.
If you did not learn to share as a child, perhaps now is the right time to teach yourself how it is done. It is a life-skill you require.
Timing is everything in life. Just think, you cannot force a rose to bloom. You cannot hurry up a caterpillar with its business of changing into a butterfly. You stand back, and you watch. When the time is right these things happen. They know when. If you are a wise person, you will appreciate every stage of the changing. You will allow things to become what they must, in their own good time and you will marvel – with hindsight – at the process. Hindsight is a tool. Use it. It is helpful when you want to get a feel for how far you have come.
Timing is vital. If you jump at the wrong moment, for instance, you will land badly. If you are going to leap, you must time your leap perfectly. The only way to do that is to trust instinct implicitly when it comes to you, insisting. Instinct will have all its reasons lined up and ready for inspection should you be able to stay quiet for long enough for them to make themselves heard. You have to listen carefully to its justifications, instinct can explain your very purpose on the planet.
You are not where you are in time, by accident. Your timing is your responsibility. Use it to perfect yourself to benefit mankind. Keep in mind that your version of a perfect self is whatever perfect means to you. Perfect is being in a place where you like yourself, your contribution to the world. If you are not in that place then you must ask yourself why. There are always reasons why, you must just feel like hearing them. If you can do something that no one else can do, do it so that others can see. We can all benefit from that kind of sharing. If you do not yet know what you are capable of, then learn. There is always time for that.