Embrace it. It comes to us all and if you cannot accept that fact you will not recognise it when it arrives. Despite their status, even the most serene souls experience chaos. That theirs’ is within and remains within is no mean feat. The turbulence beneath the surface – in our subconscious where our archetypes reside – is relevant to our development. The archetypes fight. You can be a Buddhist monk and your archetypes will still fight. It is in learning how to watch them fight that you conquer their effect. Watching them leads to an understanding of their actions. It leads to seeing reason for their being. For our archetypes work. They are active in our self-expression, they are active in manipulating our behaviours so that we manoeuvre smoothly into the position where we are best-placed to face the choices that we have made for ourselves. Our human nature shows us the way. Importantly, human nature is not negotiable. We are all what we are: part wild, part not. Part human, part not. Part nature, part not. Our complexity is what makes us interesting. We are of Nature. We are first and foremost of Nature. Not of sacred mud, nor of Adam’s rib. Should that really be the case then we are all borne of incest. If Eve was of Adam’s rib, then Eve was of Adam’s DNA. That makes brother and sister by my reckoning. Sex between brothers and sisters is frowned upon no matter who you are or where you think you belong.
I would rather believe that I come of a miracle of evolution called procreation than from a story of incest in a book so old its message is virtually obsolete. Perhaps the guy who wrote the bible spoke the universal language. Perhaps. I think there were moments when he translated the truth. However, he rambled a lot. The bible goes on too much about stuff that doesn’t matter anymore. The church has failed to realise that the universal language does not ramble any longer. Or mumble. Dusty sermons served to dead ears are these days, obsolete. I think the church has got dead ears – they fail to hear the very loud call for their God to turn up and take responsibility for his humans. If God said and it was so, then God is what we think. Because thinking makes it so. That is fact. Change your thinking and you change your world. That is Buddhist wisdom. There is a lot be said for Buddha’s wisdom. He got to where he was through perseverance, and experience. That makes him someone we can trust. I would trust the say-so of the real man more than I would the imperative of an invisible God.
The church really has a lot of work to do. It is so behind that it precludes itself from joining world debate. Its message is outdated and its methods archaic. Who in this day and age could possibly advocate no contraception? Which god would want his own planet (for I believe that Earth has an overseer) over-populated and ravaged by the likes of poverty? This world is struggling to cope, it is subverted by poverty. Please understand this. Poverty makes people do inhuman things. If you have never been short of money, then consider yourself very, very lucky. Whether through your own provision or private circumstance, consider yourself part of a privileged minority and be thankful.
How do you prevent yourself from morphing into that most heinous of beasts; the cause of boredom? That bore that comes of common complacency, and the bore that you become to yourself when you refuse to use your life for the purpose it was built? Your life was built for your self-expression. If you fail to express yourself – anywhichwayhow you can manage it – you fail at your core purpose. Self-expression and self-esteem are inextricably linked – do not forget that.
Boring is tiring. It is a decimator. Boring is adhering religiously – yes, religiously – to a certain set of circumspect rules that you allow to govern your life. You should stand up for yourself more. You should stand up to yourself more. We’re tyrants. Each one of us. That is perhaps no comforting thought, but it is fact. When you learn to meet and greet frequently your menace you will find yourself more able – and better-equipped – to face your demons. Demons are in fact not as terrifying as we make them out to be to ourselves. They all have their reasons, they all have a message to share. It is in watching their behaviour(s) that you will find resolution, if you choose to use their (very manageable) resources to your benefit. Again – that choice is up to you. Deny that you have demons and I will laugh.
Back to boring. Boredom. A low boredom threshold is not a sign or symbol of a maladjusted human being. It is the sign of someone who will not tolerate mediocrity in either their own lives, or those of the people they allow to influence their days. We all allow someone to influence our days. A friend, a dead someone, an abusive memory made by one of the ego-tamers in our lives. We all meet those – and believe me, we need them. Ego-tamers are like gifts from the gods. Learn to recognise them for who they are and celebrate their attention. Ensure that you do not confuse an ego-tamer with an abuser. They are very different creatures.
There isn’t time to be misunderstood in this world. There really isn’t. Given that time is at a premium for most people it would make sense that when you do communicate you are direct and clear. That way, when people lend you their ears they will be pleasantly surprised to find that what you have to say is relevant. Do not speak for the sake of speaking. There is no greater noise on this planet than senseless words. Speak because you have something to share, something to ask, or something constructive to say. It is easier said than done, but keep your empty words to yourself. Your voice – particularly when it is whining about life – does not reach the ears of the gods. They hear a different tone. If the gods do not wish to hear your whining, then it is safe to say that no human being wishes to hear your whining, either. It is hard some days not to whine. Understandably. But your words are so tiring when you drag that feeling of defeat into your every conversation.
Take control of what you tell people. Moderate your own comments before you make them. People do not need to know your every negative thought, know that. There are too many people talking noisily about nothing in this world. There are too many people following roads that go nowhere, giving a running commentary on their travelling experience. The true journey only begins when your feet find the right road. That is when you touch base with something sacred and your commentary becomes relevant. You will hear yourself clearly when your say-so is from your heart. Others will hear you clearly, too. Understand that until the moment – the psychological moment – that your commentary becomes relevant to you, you are confined to the corners of your life. Speaking from your own periphery is pointless. Speak directly to – and from – your core. Realise that sometimes you may surprise yourself with the things you say. Get used to being forthright, but practice not speaking your every thought. You are asking someone else to listen when you open your mouth. That is the way of humans. Make sure when you ask someone to listen to you, you have something to contribute to their day. That is the first thing. Out of respect, do not waste another’s time by whining in their ears. That makes two of you tired and contributes nothing to either of your lives. Speak to be understood. To do that – understand yourself. Observe yourself without judging your behaviours. That will bring you a new understanding and a new wisdom that you will find it relevant to share. Watch yourself change, evolve. Give yourself permission to grow. You will find that you do.