This world is over-populated. Use contraception in any shape or form. That is the first fact to get into your head. The second, is that birthing more than two children in this day and age is not just irresponsible, it is selfish. How many times must you duplicate yourself in this world? It is immaterial how much money you have. If you love children enough to want ten, then adopt for god’s sake. Do you know how many children do not have families on this planet? What can they learn of Earth? Theirs’ will be an emptiness within that will be very hard to fill. If you cannot cope with the idea of adopting – and some people do not want to bring up another’s progeny – that is fine, but do not flood the world with your seed. Men must update their thinking – more is not more. Less is more for 2013 and beyond. If you cannot conceive, you do not rush to the hospital for IVF treatment. You wait and you see what Nature has in store for you. Why force her hand, time and again? Who do you think you are, demanding of her with your impatience? Do you not think she – of all – knows best? Do you not think she is measuring your bodies for success? Of course she is. She is waiting for the perfect time. Each time you conceive unnaturally you are missing that window. Her pace is that of patience, as a guide in life you cannot hope to find better. If you want a child more than anything in the world, then you know as well as the next person that any child will do for you the same job. That is important to understand.
Children love unconditionally for a very long time. Their capacity for forgiveness – if that is even what it is to them – is humbling to see as a human being. It is sad to think about how many times an abused child will try to make sense of what ‘love’ is. They will forgive time and again without question, in pursuit of love. That is what a child is born expecting to be shown. Love. Remember – if they are damaged children, they will have to be taught what love is. You cannot expect a child who has been kicked around or fostered in five abusive families to function normally. That would be insane. That is why social services in every country in the world needs more money to do the job they are trying to do. We need to take the problem out before it happens. Also, you cannot move a child every five minutes and hope they will be well-adjusted to function in society at the end of it all. You are affecting their sense of identity when you change their environment. Appreciate that if you move a child from school to school, and/or house to house, you are forcing them to rely on change as a constant. This can be a risky business. If you pile the witnessing of domestic abuse on top of that and/or substance abuse, you are showing the child that violence is acceptable and/or that addiction is a potential path to follow. Addiction to anything is not recommended, food included. A lot of people are addicted to food and refuse to admit it. That is no different to many alcoholics sitting at the AA. Whether their ‘Twelve Steps’ is what to take from their ministering I can’t say, but I have heard that following God up the steps is required. That all makes sense if you believe there is a God. There are a lot of alcoholics who do not think there is a God. This reality should be taken into consideration.
The church should really swallow its contraception and abortion arguments. It is time. If it cannot swallow its pride on this and give real ground as well as ideological ground as an institution then it is failing its followers. It is choice that humans seek, not strict governance by a set of backward rules. The Catholics in particular can reshuffle their policies, their celibacy laws have bred abuse and paedophilia and their issue with contraception is going to lose them followers faster than the revelation of their true wealth. The Catholics must be called upon to explain why they have so much of this planet’s land under their belts. They need to free up space, they need to sell on and move out. The poor need houses. The church can sell their properties and pay for the housing. That is what any charitable institute would do. And a humble religion – which all religions aspire to be, surely – will have a humble portfolio. I think the Catholics need to show their willingness to really help the people change the state of their planet. How else can they redeem themselves? Alms, are alms.
Embrace it. It comes to us all and if you cannot accept that fact you will not recognise it when it arrives. Despite their status, even the most serene souls experience chaos. That theirs’ is within and remains within is no mean feat. The turbulence beneath the surface – in our subconscious where our archetypes reside – is relevant to our development. The archetypes fight. You can be a Buddhist monk and your archetypes will still fight. It is in learning how to watch them fight that you conquer their effect. Watching them leads to an understanding of their actions. It leads to seeing reason for their being. For our archetypes work. They are active in our self-expression, they are active in manipulating our behaviours so that we manoeuvre smoothly into the position where we are best-placed to face the choices that we have made for ourselves. Our human nature shows us the way. Importantly, human nature is not negotiable. We are all what we are: part wild, part not. Part human, part not. Part nature, part not. Our complexity is what makes us interesting. We are of Nature. We are first and foremost of Nature. Not of sacred mud, nor of Adam’s rib. Should that really be the case then we are all borne of incest. If Eve was of Adam’s rib, then Eve was of Adam’s DNA. That makes brother and sister by my reckoning. Sex between brothers and sisters is frowned upon no matter who you are or where you think you belong.
I would rather believe that I come of a miracle of evolution called procreation than from a story of incest in a book so old its message is virtually obsolete. Perhaps the guy who wrote the bible spoke the universal language. Perhaps. I think there were moments when he translated the truth. However, he rambled a lot. The bible goes on too much about stuff that doesn’t matter anymore. The church has failed to realise that the universal language does not ramble any longer. Or mumble. Dusty sermons served to dead ears are these days, obsolete. I think the church has got dead ears – they fail to hear the very loud call for their God to turn up and take responsibility for his humans. If God said and it was so, then God is what we think. Because thinking makes it so. That is fact. Change your thinking and you change your world. That is Buddhist wisdom. There is a lot be said for Buddha’s wisdom. He got to where he was through perseverance, and experience. That makes him someone we can trust. I would trust the say-so of the real man more than I would the imperative of an invisible God.
The church really has a lot of work to do. It is so behind that it precludes itself from joining world debate. Its message is outdated and its methods archaic. Who in this day and age could possibly advocate no contraception? Which god would want his own planet (for I believe that Earth has an overseer) over-populated and ravaged by the likes of poverty? This world is struggling to cope, it is subverted by poverty. Please understand this. Poverty makes people do inhuman things. If you have never been short of money, then consider yourself very, very lucky. Whether through your own provision or private circumstance, consider yourself part of a privileged minority and be thankful.