This world is over-populated. Use contraception in any shape or form. That is the first fact to get into your head. The second, is that birthing more than two children in this day and age is not just irresponsible, it is selfish. How many times must you duplicate yourself in this world? It is immaterial how much money you have. If you love children enough to want ten, then adopt for god’s sake. Do you know how many children do not have families on this planet? What can they learn of Earth? Theirs’ will be an emptiness within that will be very hard to fill. If you cannot cope with the idea of adopting – and some people do not want to bring up another’s progeny – that is fine, but do not flood the world with your seed. Men must update their thinking – more is not more. Less is more for 2013 and beyond. If you cannot conceive, you do not rush to the hospital for IVF treatment. You wait and you see what Nature has in store for you. Why force her hand, time and again? Who do you think you are, demanding of her with your impatience? Do you not think she – of all – knows best? Do you not think she is measuring your bodies for success? Of course she is. She is waiting for the perfect time. Each time you conceive unnaturally you are missing that window. Her pace is that of patience, as a guide in life you cannot hope to find better. If you want a child more than anything in the world, then you know as well as the next person that any child will do for you the same job. That is important to understand.
Children love unconditionally for a very long time. Their capacity for forgiveness – if that is even what it is to them – is humbling to see as a human being. It is sad to think about how many times an abused child will try to make sense of what ‘love’ is. They will forgive time and again without question, in pursuit of love. That is what a child is born expecting to be shown. Love. Remember – if they are damaged children, they will have to be taught what love is. You cannot expect a child who has been kicked around or fostered in five abusive families to function normally. That would be insane. That is why social services in every country in the world needs more money to do the job they are trying to do. We need to take the problem out before it happens. Also, you cannot move a child every five minutes and hope they will be well-adjusted to function in society at the end of it all. You are affecting their sense of identity when you change their environment. Appreciate that if you move a child from school to school, and/or house to house, you are forcing them to rely on change as a constant. This can be a risky business. If you pile the witnessing of domestic abuse on top of that and/or substance abuse, you are showing the child that violence is acceptable and/or that addiction is a potential path to follow. Addiction to anything is not recommended, food included. A lot of people are addicted to food and refuse to admit it. That is no different to many alcoholics sitting at the AA. Whether their ‘Twelve Steps’ is what to take from their ministering I can’t say, but I have heard that following God up the steps is required. That all makes sense if you believe there is a God. There are a lot of alcoholics who do not think there is a God. This reality should be taken into consideration.
The church should really swallow its contraception and abortion arguments. It is time. If it cannot swallow its pride on this and give real ground as well as ideological ground as an institution then it is failing its followers. It is choice that humans seek, not strict governance by a set of backward rules. The Catholics in particular can reshuffle their policies, their celibacy laws have bred abuse and paedophilia and their issue with contraception is going to lose them followers faster than the revelation of their true wealth. The Catholics must be called upon to explain why they have so much of this planet’s land under their belts. They need to free up space, they need to sell on and move out. The poor need houses. The church can sell their properties and pay for the housing. That is what any charitable institute would do. And a humble religion – which all religions aspire to be, surely – will have a humble portfolio. I think the Catholics need to show their willingness to really help the people change the state of their planet. How else can they redeem themselves? Alms, are alms.
Sex is not a word that should make you shy or fearful in this day and age. If it makes you fearful, then you have issues that need dealing with professionally. If your sex is damaged in any way you need to address the subject with a person who is trained to tell you how to deal with the trauma and help you assimilate your experience(s). If you are an adult shy around sex it means that you are immature in your understanding of its power. If it makes you giggle and blush then you are probably Catholic. Catholics and sex have a long history of conflict. Puritans, too. These religious institutions understand the power of sex and as such, will try to control it. Theirs’ is a delusion. The church cannot control the sex of a population. That part of them belongs firmly to Nature. How you choose to express your sexuality is your business. There should not be anyone overly interested in your sexual persuasion unless you are a paedophile or a rapist, in which case you should be named, shamed, and then castrated. A paedophile should not be allowed anywhere near children. If you make the mistake of abusing a child even once – you should never be given a person’s faith again. Ever. For the rest – the normal human beings out there – you are what you are, and you are who you are. No matter who or what you are, understand that sex is a sacred act. It should be. Who you choose as a partner is of consequence and what you do to and with their body is of consequence.
Sex is both give and take. It is a learning. It is not something you are born good at, it is something you get good at. If you can be bothered. In our contemporary society there is so much taking going on that the scales are seriously off balance. People do not take time enough to learn each other well. Men take sex from a lot of women – who offer it willingly to just about anyone who will show them attention. This coupling is neither romantic, nor does it have anything to do with love. It is an exchange of fluids and a flood of oxytocin. Oxytocin is a very powerful hormone. A lot of people are addicted to its effect. This means a lot of people neither care nor worry about where they pull a partner from. A lot of women are looking for princes and a lot of men know how easy it is to flatter the pants off a wannabe princess. Wannabe princesses abound in our society. I hope the men of the future are equipped to deal with the fall-out.
Excellent sex is about love. Love is about soul. It is about a true connection. Pornography is not helpful as a starting block – there are too many people in our world with bent expectations of sex. Hard-core porn and child-porn are particularly problematic – the trade in transgression is out of control. It is not easy to correct a mindset aligned with transgression. How do you stop a world, literally, from screwing itself up further? You remind the people that sex is personal expression. Be careful who you show what. Have some respect. Your demonstration speaks for you in more ways than one. Should you wish to waste your sex on random strangers then know that you are damaging yourself. Worse – you are using people. If you use people you will be used. Your sex will become empty and you will not be fulfilled. To be unfulfilled is not something to aspire to. Too many people use sex as a pain-killer in this fractured society. This is wrong sex. Right sex is a sharing. And do not ever confuse physical intimacy with love. They are not the same thing. If you allow someone to take your body and use it for their own gratification – no matter what fairytales are singing in your ears – you are responsible for the damage done to your psyche. You cannot escape your psyche – ever. Keep it clean.
Embrace it. It comes to us all and if you cannot accept that fact you will not recognise it when it arrives. Despite their status, even the most serene souls experience chaos. That theirs’ is within and remains within is no mean feat. The turbulence beneath the surface – in our subconscious where our archetypes reside – is relevant to our development. The archetypes fight. You can be a Buddhist monk and your archetypes will still fight. It is in learning how to watch them fight that you conquer their effect. Watching them leads to an understanding of their actions. It leads to seeing reason for their being. For our archetypes work. They are active in our self-expression, they are active in manipulating our behaviours so that we manoeuvre smoothly into the position where we are best-placed to face the choices that we have made for ourselves. Our human nature shows us the way. Importantly, human nature is not negotiable. We are all what we are: part wild, part not. Part human, part not. Part nature, part not. Our complexity is what makes us interesting. We are of Nature. We are first and foremost of Nature. Not of sacred mud, nor of Adam’s rib. Should that really be the case then we are all borne of incest. If Eve was of Adam’s rib, then Eve was of Adam’s DNA. That makes brother and sister by my reckoning. Sex between brothers and sisters is frowned upon no matter who you are or where you think you belong.
I would rather believe that I come of a miracle of evolution called procreation than from a story of incest in a book so old its message is virtually obsolete. Perhaps the guy who wrote the bible spoke the universal language. Perhaps. I think there were moments when he translated the truth. However, he rambled a lot. The bible goes on too much about stuff that doesn’t matter anymore. The church has failed to realise that the universal language does not ramble any longer. Or mumble. Dusty sermons served to dead ears are these days, obsolete. I think the church has got dead ears – they fail to hear the very loud call for their God to turn up and take responsibility for his humans. If God said and it was so, then God is what we think. Because thinking makes it so. That is fact. Change your thinking and you change your world. That is Buddhist wisdom. There is a lot be said for Buddha’s wisdom. He got to where he was through perseverance, and experience. That makes him someone we can trust. I would trust the say-so of the real man more than I would the imperative of an invisible God.
The church really has a lot of work to do. It is so behind that it precludes itself from joining world debate. Its message is outdated and its methods archaic. Who in this day and age could possibly advocate no contraception? Which god would want his own planet (for I believe that Earth has an overseer) over-populated and ravaged by the likes of poverty? This world is struggling to cope, it is subverted by poverty. Please understand this. Poverty makes people do inhuman things. If you have never been short of money, then consider yourself very, very lucky. Whether through your own provision or private circumstance, consider yourself part of a privileged minority and be thankful.
It has to be said, I am not a happy-clapper. I am called ‘Catholic’, though I have not had my first holy communion nor have I been confirmed. I have never sat in a confessional and told on myself. I have never eaten the bread of Christ or drunk his blood. I am skeptical about the religion Catholicism. I am skeptical about the efficacy of the pope. How can a man of his stature in this day and age be that against gay marriage? Because it says so in the bible. The bible is old news. It adheres only to itself and in our globalising world that is dangerous, and irresponsible. The bible says if you dare to be gay that you will suffer eternal damnation. That is why these leaders must spout their nonsense about hell and gaydom. Who of these leaders has been to the other side? I would like to ask them that question. How many gays have they seen burning in hell for their particular practice of passion? I suspect not one, not really. That they are condemned is a man-made thing. The reality is that gays burn on earth. Still. And it’s not right. That those who are gay suffer the prejudice they do bothers me. Why exactly should you care who somebody else finds appealing? Male, female – we all search to find that someone with whom we can ultimately be ourselves. Our best mirror. This search is constant. Why should you be minding the business of a woman who chooses to be with another woman because the fit suits her needs better? All her needs. Why should it make your blood boil to think of two men in bed? You should not be bothering so much about thinking of those things. Let people be. You do not have to condone every kind of behaviour. Your personal rules will dictate to you what is not for you. Let that realisation be enough. If it is not for you, it is not for you. It might be everything for someone else. Be curious about gayness, if you must be something. Do not be rude. Who are you in the life of another to tell them where their heart may or may not fall? The heart is notorious for making its own choices. Trust your heart’s intelligence. It fell where it did for a perfect reason. It falls again, when it is ready. Let it.
My concern is that the Catholic church is as rich as it is. Do you have any idea what their property portfolio is like? It’s obscene. Do you have any idea the nett worth of the church? Again, it’s obscene. I would suggest to them that if they are as samaritan as they like to tell us they are, then they should donate nearly every cent of their revenue to the poor. It’s about time they gave back. They need to scale down their opulence; auction the treasures in their troves and sell a handful of their properties – and give the money away. The church should never run at a profit and more importantly, it should grow itself up and stop trading on fear. A god who keeps his people in line by threatening their existence is a childish god. His notion of leading the Jesus-believers is out-dated. You cannot hold a people in a cage forever on an empty promise. Whoever believes that the church (and by this I suppose I mean all the churches under the Christian umbrella) is purely a charitable institution is deluded or misinformed. The church has probably done as much harm as it has good, I think it is important to remember this. How many honest worlds have the missionaries destroyed with their over-zealous preaching? A lot. How many very sick paedophiles did we find hiding under the Catholic shroud? Too many. How many Catholic orphanages were run by depraved abusers who acted with impunity? Too many. Did we hear from the church a clear condemnation of these people? No – we heard a watered-down apology for ‘misconduct’ time and again. In fact I think the Catholic church is one of the best at evading taking responsibility for itself. Perhaps it needs help. Perhaps it has never been able to ask for help? It thinks too much of itself, Christianity. That is not wise. But the church is not wise. It is self-indulgent, inflexible, and it is flawed. I would like it to see itself for what it is. I would like it to realise sometime soon that in this world, people go to jail for fraud.