What does it mean to be ‘equal’? Equal how? Equal to what? When the statement was made that all men are created equal, which equality was being referenced? Was it the more ethereal ‘energy’ we share as human beings, that equality, or was it the notion that each embryo is created with as much future potential as any other? Or was the statement itself a demonstration of inequality because it references men, only? Perhaps all men are created equal. All women are not. That is clear at the outset. Equality is a tricky word. It holds too much promise for too many people who will never get to be ‘equal’ in today’s world. Sadly there are those people.
Equality is about fairness. Balance. Wherever there is an imbalance, there will be discord. The system does not handle discord well. Nor does it create equals. The very system discourages equality, equals. The system is about working your way to the top, surpassing others. It would seem that in the greedy world of capitalists, being equal is never enough. There is the compulsion to be better, to earn more, to have more. To outshine your peers. It becomes an obsession for many people. Perhaps those at the top of the capitalist ladder do have ‘equals’. Perhaps they consider themselves ‘equal’ to people who earn the same as they do. That is perhaps their measure in life.
It is worth fostering equality as an ideal. I think it is an ideal. It is something to strive towards, like peace. Equality is a work in progress. Should it become the norm rather than the exception in the long run, that can be considered an ideal outcome. The child who cannot read or write is not equal, in 2014, to the child who can. The child with access to technology is not equal to the child that does not. This is how it is in our world. Despite the ever-present inequalities, though, and the concerns that these inequalities raise, it is not to say that the ‘unequal’ cannot reach the heights that the ‘equal’ tend to reach. They must just apply themselves to working with what they have and trust that it is enough.
Domination is an interesting game to play. We have all spent time trying to dominate – situations, people, opinions. The need to be dominant is a throw-back to our wild. Males and females both do it. Children try it on all the time. Domination is not wholly an unhealthy pursuit, it just depends how far you will go to be the dominator. Take Russia for example, they are busy playing dangerous domination games. They will dominate in Crimea, despite the rising tide of negative public opinion with regards this particular pursuit of power. It would seem that they imagine themselves invincible. Their view is irresponsible, provocative, and it does not sit easy with the global community. Perhaps Russia should give some thought to the fact that they are currently disturbing the balance on our planet. This has consequences. I do not believe that Russia has the right to decide that Crimea needs to be a part of its make-up. Crimea belongs to the Crimeans, not the Russians. In fact, it is peculiarly obnoxious for Russia to be stretching its borders to include land that does not belong under Russia’s thumb. It would seem that Vladimir Putin forgets that invasions did not work well for Hitler in the long run. His big ideas are small-minded. Outdated. In actuality – backward. In fact it has to be asked – who exactly does Russia think it is? It cannot convince anyone that its objectives are honourable, no matter how earnest its self-righteous claims.
Domination is a key factor in relationships. Traditionally, women have learned and played the submissive role. Men have been the dominators. Of course there are many exceptions to this rule, but conditioning has seen to it that men stand head and shoulders above women when it comes to being ‘in charge’. It is refreshing to see the German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, making inroads in a male-dominated industry. Politics is an industry, as much as capitalism is an industry. It is encouraging to watch Hilary Clinton at work in her fields of expertise – the adherence to the ways of women bodes well for the future of global diplomacy. There are good reasons why women are usually better at diplomacy than men are. Theirs’ is a learned patience, an inherent understanding of how the world and its people work.
Sex is about domination. Base instinct sees males mounting females in Nature, although it should be remembered that mating in Nature is most often consensual. A male will seldom mount a female unless she has given him the go-ahead. With humans, it is not always this way. There seems to be a subliminal need for humans to demonstrate their prowess – their core ‘power’ – by being the person ‘on top’. Both men and women subscribe to this theory of sexuality and both use their wiles and their ways to make their statement of fact. Be aware that rape is about domination. Slavery is about domination. Domestic violence is about domination, as is child abuse. Think about it. Domination needs careful management. Ungoverned, it creates problems, pain, wars.
In this life it is vital to have a passion. At least one. It can be anything. A person, a project, your life. If your life is your passion then you will have spent a lot of time contemplating it. It is through contemplation that we can come to conclusions. We must always follow through to conclusion, there is no point half-doing something or leaving loose ends. Loose ends are always going to drag on your consciousness – to save yourself the waste of energy carrying that excess weight make sure you are disciplined enough to finish what you start. Passion is flow. When you experience flow, you are immersed in your reality to the extent that you are operating at optimum levels and your mind and body are aligned, you are focussed. People who have an attention deficit disorder – and I think a great many people have an attention deficit disorder – find it difficult to feel flow. Flow is a feeling. You know you are part of something far greater than the reality in which you are currently confined. Each life-time is a life-sentence, think about it. You cannot escape from the learning that this world will give you. Even if you kill yourself, you will still return to learning – it is simply that your life-sentence has been cut short. There is no shortage of new ones. In this world we are sure of that.
Trust your passion. You will know when you have a passion. It consumes you. It is an emotional workout, having a passion. A tsunami of feeling. You find yourself sinking under, fighting to the surface only to sink again into its depths. You find your secrets in the depths, it becomes a place you do not want to leave when you find it. The thing to know is that you can breathe underwater. It is something you discover when you are sinking. Your mind is alive, creative and alert – the world around you is filled with possibility and wonder. A passion makes you believe in yourself, in the framework of this universe. A passion should feel good. If it does not feel good then it is possibly an obsession rather than a passion. Be aware of the difference between the two. An obsession can be confusing. A passion is not confusing – it makes every bit of sense when you understand what wonders it does for your being. A lot of people with a passion for something can make a big difference in this world. All you have to do is find what you feel strongly about. Find the feelings that provoke you to thought and underneath those feelings you will find some of your beliefs. Keep them in perspective, as you do with your convictions. Both can brain-wash you. Behind your beliefs you will find some lone convictions – which are hard to shake, but shake them up – and then you will be where you want to be: in passion. It is a state of being. It is fuelled by hope – which lies deep inside Pandora’s Box, underneath her chaos and disorder. We all have a Pandora’s Box. Some of us are just more familiar with its darkness, its lessons that will get us to the light. It takes courage to open your particular Pandora’s Box. Once you open it, it is not easy to close again. There is a fascination with what we store away in our secret places. Dreams, hopes, fears. We need to find the fears and address them. Fears cannot be allowed to dominate you when it comes to analysing yourself. Fears are a contaminant. It is a good idea to look yourself square in the eye and see who it is that you truly are. When you recognise your truth you will be clear what passion means in your life. An addiction to passion is not much of a problem. It is still an addiction – and the thing about addictions is that they demonstrate that something in you is out of balance. So keep addictions where you can see them at all times, they are crafty manipulators.
I have a passion for learning. I find life interesting and I have a passion for thinking. I am determined to show a way to fix this world. I know it can be done. People need to get over their skin-colour first of all. Realise that each person you deal with – each one – can contribute something to your life. You just need to ask the right questions. You have to see value in exchange, sharing. How can you not see value in sharing? People need to compromise. The women who are trying to be men in a man’s world should not wear themselves out. Their battle is pointless. What are they doing comparing themselves to men in the first place? Men are men. That will never change. We have babies – they don’t. We are different creatures. Why is that overlooked so often? A man has a penis. A woman does not. It is clear to see who is who and what is what if you look in the right places. Let men be men – they are good at it. Fighting about not being treated like a man is not productive. Fight for being an independent woman. That kind of fighting energy is helpful. Did you know that men are more highly evolved than women? Sorry if that offends a few people – and it probably will – but it is true. They are all female until 12 weeks – and then they change into men. Men are more specific than women are – they are woman first, then man. How much of a difference this makes to their ability to understand the peculiar ways of women I don’t know, but I imagine even having been female for 12 weeks does not guarantee that a man will understand a woman. It depends on what, exactly, comes together in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. I think that most women confound most men. Women are a strange breed, it has to be said. I think women can be magical creatures but they can be a nightmare. The problem is that women trust less than men, there is an imbalance there. It is a pity we must exist in a world where women feel they cannot trust men. The men should be better behaved. I am speaking to those who behave badly, and we have all behaved badly in our time. We have all caused pain to another person, so do not put yourself anywhere near a pedestal no matter who you are. Know that this world will recycle pain until the humans stop causing it – to themselves.
For there to be equilibrium on a universal scale, we need to balance the scales of love and hate. There is a lot of hate circumnavigating this globe of ours. There is too much war. Too many old wars. I am not speaking about the peace-making efforts of international forces, either. Their’s is a job and they do it with our welfare in mind. I don’t think it is easy to be trained to kill another man. It goes against our very grain. Ours is the will to live. Where there is man pitted against man because belief-systems differ, there is war. War of heart, war of mind. When you explain to a boy that he will hate another man because of what he stands for, you are taking away his freedom. When you tell a boy that he has enemies before he has had a chance to explore a life without strife, you are forcing your prejudice down a virgin throat. It’s abusive. Why can these violent nations not see what damage they are doing to their own children? They are systematically crippling generation after generation of boys, men. The hatred that is cultivated in dark man-corners and passed on proudly from father to son is thwarting the evolution of a lot of males on this planet. In order to progress, you have to change your thinking. You cannot escape this reality. I, for one, am tired of hearing Israel and Palestine bleating about the same grievances they’ve been bleating about for decades. Their voices are noise, their words, empty. The fact of the matter is they do not want to find solution – that is the point that should be made. Why does everyone skirt around this issue? There is too much deliberate ‘not-offending’ going on in our first-world societies. Too much lip-service and arse-kissing. How far do we go with covering up how flawed a lot of belief-systems are? The men who perpetuate war are behaving like children. They will all have the last word and they will all have their way in a world that must accommodate everyone. Did you not hear that we are all entitled to an opinion, as long as we don’t think it’s the only one? When did anyone on this planet get anywhere worthwhile without compromise? When you are dealing with real people, you must employ diplomacy and you must be prepared to adjust your opinions. Compromise means you look at a situation from other sides. You appreciate that there are people whose ideas are bigger, better, than your own. You do not hold on to an old rage. What is the point of that? The horrors happened, people died. The point is to prevent the situation from escalating further and the only way to do that is to get these old schools of thought to modify their thinking.
I think the bible is questionable as a life-manual. It is an interesting metaphor, a vivid story – and the ten commandments are good – but as a work of fact (dare I say truth?) it fails dismally. I think too many people take its lessons too literally and this raises questionable expectations of a god, his son, his spirit.
I think the Koran speaks a great truth. Allah cannot have as many followers as he does without having something truly inspiring to say. Perhaps their ‘religion’ is timeless, the Muslims. Their language is fluid, it is evolving and spinning and whirling like a dervish, and their faith is very strong, a feature of their society. Perhaps we could all learn something from a people who understand devotion. Do you know how powerful the reach of devotion?
I think it’s time we asked one another what it is that we can do to make amends in this fractured world. We cannot ignore that we have issues, complex issues of hatred to try and overcome. I believe they can be overcome. I believe the amount of hatred directed at the Germans – purely because of the Holocaust – has done a lot of damage to their existing psyches. It is a form of oppression – the with-holding of love from a people – and a lot of love has been with-held from Germany because of their past. It is time to move on from their dent in the past. Rwanda has moved on. That was a genocide on some scale. Can you imagine being hacked to death with a machete? Bodies lining the streets for weeks – piled so high cars had to drive over them to get by? That kind of horror is as bad – if not worse – than anything done to the Jews during the war. Can we not accept that there were two bloody great wars and get beyond their reach? For gods’ sake. I think god waits for the alarm of peace to sound. We would all do well to work towards that silence.
In the magic triangle – the golden triangle – the perfect triangle – the two make the third, the third is one, and the one is two. Or, one is three. It’s the same as the father, the son, and the holy ghost. Trinity. The entity – the extention of yourselves – that is created with the union of two people. That entity becomes a ‘third’ person in your relationship, no matter who you are with or what you are doing with them. You have to realise that a love deep enough and profound enough will build in you, and independent of you, another. Have you ever asked yourself why you married, got involved? If you can look your partner square in the eye and explain to each other the reasons for your togetherness then you can laugh when you understand that in part you were hoping for someone to bring you up. In our world, too many women are married to too many men for the wrong reasons. I am not sure if men ever marry for the wrong reasons? Aren’t men strong enough to say yes, or no, to a woman and mean it? Or perhaps that’s not about strength? Perhaps it’s about their propensity for straight-talk. They are better at straight-talk than any woman I have met. Women talk in circles. Their concept of communication is different to that of a man. Often when a woman tells you she is fine, she is not fine. You have to learn to understand her language. Fine means ‘you had better check with me in a minute what my problem is otherwise I am going to make it yours’. When a man tells you he is fine, he IS fine. So there is woman-fine, and man-fine. Women must speak 23 000 words a day. Men feel the need to use 3 000. That says a lot.
We need to use our relationships wisely. Each one is there to teach us something about ourselves. Learn yourself through others. You will learn more from that than from listening to your inner Narcissus.