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Domination – Blog No. 16

Mc_DominationDomination is an interesting game to play.  We have all spent time trying to dominate – situations, people, opinions.  The need to be dominant is a throw-back to our wild.  Males and females both do it.  Children try it on all the time.  Domination is not wholly an unhealthy pursuit, it just depends how far you will go to be the dominator.  Take Russia for example, they are busy playing dangerous domination games.  They will dominate in Crimea, despite the rising tide of negative public opinion with regards this particular pursuit of power.  It would seem that they imagine themselves invincible.  Their view is irresponsible, provocative, and it does not sit easy with the global community.  Perhaps Russia should give some thought to the fact that they are currently disturbing the balance on our planet.  This has consequences.  I do not believe that Russia has the right to decide that Crimea needs to be a part of its make-up.  Crimea belongs to the Crimeans, not the Russians.  In fact, it is peculiarly obnoxious for Russia to be stretching its borders to include land that does not belong under Russia’s thumb.  It would seem that Vladimir Putin forgets that invasions did not work well for Hitler in the long run.  His big ideas are small-minded.  Outdated.  In actuality – backward.  In fact it has to be asked – who exactly does Russia think it is?  It cannot convince anyone that its objectives are honourable, no matter how earnest its self-righteous claims.

Domination is a key factor in relationships.  Traditionally, women have learned and played the submissive role.  Men have been the dominators.  Of course there are many exceptions to this rule, but conditioning has seen to it that men stand head and shoulders above women when it comes to being ‘in charge’.  It is refreshing to see the German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, making inroads in a male-dominated industry.  Politics is an industry, as much as capitalism is an industry.  It is encouraging to watch Hilary Clinton at work in her fields of expertise – the adherence to the ways of women bodes well for the future of global diplomacy.  There are good reasons why women are usually better at diplomacy than men are.  Theirs’ is a learned patience, an inherent understanding of how the world and its people work.

Sex is about domination.  Base instinct sees males mounting females in Nature, although it should be remembered that mating in Nature is most often consensual.  A male will seldom mount a female unless she has given him the go-ahead.  With humans, it is not always this way.  There seems to be a subliminal need for humans to demonstrate their prowess – their core ‘power’ – by being the person ‘on top’.  Both men and women subscribe to this theory of sexuality and both use their wiles and their ways to make their statement of fact.  Be aware that rape is about domination.  Slavery is about domination.  Domestic violence is about domination, as is child abuse.  Think about it.  Domination needs careful management.  Ungoverned, it creates problems, pain, wars.

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Contraception – Blog No. 54

Contraception-WTAThis world is over-populated.  Use contraception in any shape or form.  That is the first fact to get into your head.  The second, is that birthing more than two children in this day and age is not just irresponsible, it is selfish.  How many times must you duplicate yourself in this world?  It is immaterial how much money you have.  If you love children enough to want ten, then adopt for god’s sake.  Do you know how many children do not have families on this planet?  What can they learn of Earth?  Theirs’ will be an emptiness within that will be very hard to fill.  If you cannot cope with the idea of adopting – and some people do not want to bring up another’s progeny – that is fine, but do not flood the world with your seed.  Men must update their thinking – more is not more.  Less is more for 2013 and beyond.  If you cannot conceive, you do not rush to the hospital for IVF treatment.  You wait and you see what Nature has in store for you.  Why force her hand, time and again?  Who do you think you are, demanding of her with your impatience?  Do you not think she – of all – knows best?  Do you not think she is measuring your bodies for success?  Of course she is.  She is waiting for the perfect time.  Each time you conceive unnaturally you are missing that window.  Her pace is that of patience, as a guide in life you cannot hope to find better.  If you want a child more than anything in the world, then you know as well as the next person that any child will do for you the same job.  That is important to understand.

Children love unconditionally for a very long time.  Their capacity for forgiveness – if that is even what it is to them – is humbling to see as a human being.  It is sad to think about how many times an abused child will try to make sense of what ‘love’ is.  They will forgive time and again without question, in pursuit of love.  That is what a child is born expecting to be shown.  Love.  Remember – if they are damaged children, they will have to be taught what love is.  You cannot expect a child who has been kicked around or fostered in five abusive families to function normally.  That would be insane.  That is why social services in every country in the world needs more money to do the job they are trying to do.  We need to take the problem out before it happens.  Also, you cannot move a child every five minutes and hope they will be well-adjusted to function in society at the end of it all.  You are affecting their sense of identity when you change their environment.  Appreciate that if you move a child from school to school, and/or house to house, you are forcing them to rely on change as a constant.  This can be a risky business.  If you pile the witnessing of domestic abuse on top of that and/or substance abuse, you are showing the child that violence is acceptable and/or that addiction is a potential path to follow.  Addiction to anything is not recommended, food included.  A lot of people are addicted to food and refuse to admit it.  That is no different to many alcoholics sitting at the AA.  Whether their ‘Twelve Steps’ is what to take from their ministering I can’t say, but I have heard that following God up the steps is required.  That all makes sense if you believe there is a God.  There are a lot of alcoholics who do not think there is a God.  This reality should be taken into consideration.

The church should really swallow its contraception and abortion arguments.  It is time.  If it cannot swallow its pride on this and give real ground as well as ideological ground as an institution then it is failing its followers.  It is choice that humans seek, not strict governance by a set of backward rules.  The Catholics in particular can reshuffle their policies, their celibacy laws have bred abuse and paedophilia and their issue with contraception is going to lose them followers faster than the revelation of their true wealth.  The Catholics must be called upon to explain why they have so much of this planet’s land under their belts.  They need to free up space, they need to sell on and move out.  The poor need houses.  The church can sell their properties and pay for the housing.  That is what any charitable institute would do.  And a humble religion – which all religions aspire to be, surely – will have a humble portfolio.  I think the Catholics need to show their willingness to really help the people change the state of their planet.  How else can they redeem themselves?  Alms, are alms.

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