If it had been proven that being politically correct was a solution to the problems we face on this planet, I would have employed its ‘diplomacy’. It wasn’t. There are times when diplomacy is necessary, despite the idiots you may find yourself facing. And diplomatic means that you speak your mind with regard for your person and respect for another’s intelligence. It does not mean that you lie. When diplomacy goes out of the window it is a sure sign that the shit is going to hit the fan. When that fan is my face, you will know about it. Every single one of you.
I am certain that political correctness had good intentions. It was meant to dress up the mess of this planet in ribbons and bows for those whose sensitivity had already correctly identified it. That was perhaps a kind gesture. It was, though, counter-productive. It showed contempt for the people who have been listening to a ‘truth’ with the view of finding solutions. That this was in part unintentional – given that those who were preaching the bullshit did not know they had a sympathetic audience – is the only aspect that makes their lies acceptable. And white lies are called white lies for a reason. That is not to say that they are the only lies there are.
For those who may not know or understand political correctness for what it is, it is cowardice. Avoidance. It becomes a debilitating habit of telling a people what you think they want to hear instead of starting dialogue that addresses the real problems we all face. That can be as a result of the ‘partriarchal complex’ rife on this planet – one that we have been conditioned to accept. The belief that men are obligated to be the protectors on this planet. Not all of them are. Those that are not natural-born protectors – those who have misrepresented themselves as saviours – will be the ones who lie to you about your reality. They will do this for two reasons: either to save face, or to conceal their weaknesses, their actual inefficacy.
It is not hard to use diplomacy when you still have hope. When hope begins to dwindle, diplomacy goes out of the window. I believe, for the most part, in hoping. I am concerned that those that do not, are short-changing themselves and everybody else. In the big picture. This planet is not dead yet. However, it is not far from being damaged beyond repair by mankind’s greed and that is then really the end. That reality is very easy to see. Ironically, that ending only matters to (all) life here on Earth. You would think that would mean something to the majority of people. It doesn’t.
But – life springs from the most unlikely sources. One day, it will spring again. When the timing is right, and the circumstances perfect, life will spring again and living creatures will appear like magic! We can but wait. Perfection takes aeons to perfect itself. Perhaps when that happens, when life comes again, it will have grown minds that can conceive of – and comprehend – immediately their own immortality. Perhaps then those minds will use their understanding to help others transcend this experience. It is but one of many.
Domination is an interesting game to play. We have all spent time trying to dominate – situations, people, opinions. The need to be dominant is a throw-back to our wild. Males and females both do it. Children try it on all the time. Domination is not wholly an unhealthy pursuit, it just depends how far you will go to be the dominator. Take Russia for example, they are busy playing dangerous domination games. They will dominate in Crimea, despite the rising tide of negative public opinion with regards this particular pursuit of power. It would seem that they imagine themselves invincible. Their view is irresponsible, provocative, and it does not sit easy with the global community. Perhaps Russia should give some thought to the fact that they are currently disturbing the balance on our planet. This has consequences. I do not believe that Russia has the right to decide that Crimea needs to be a part of its make-up. Crimea belongs to the Crimeans, not the Russians. In fact, it is peculiarly obnoxious for Russia to be stretching its borders to include land that does not belong under Russia’s thumb. It would seem that Vladimir Putin forgets that invasions did not work well for Hitler in the long run. His big ideas are small-minded. Outdated. In actuality – backward. In fact it has to be asked – who exactly does Russia think it is? It cannot convince anyone that its objectives are honourable, no matter how earnest its self-righteous claims.
Domination is a key factor in relationships. Traditionally, women have learned and played the submissive role. Men have been the dominators. Of course there are many exceptions to this rule, but conditioning has seen to it that men stand head and shoulders above women when it comes to being ‘in charge’. It is refreshing to see the German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, making inroads in a male-dominated industry. Politics is an industry, as much as capitalism is an industry. It is encouraging to watch Hilary Clinton at work in her fields of expertise – the adherence to the ways of women bodes well for the future of global diplomacy. There are good reasons why women are usually better at diplomacy than men are. Theirs’ is a learned patience, an inherent understanding of how the world and its people work.
Sex is about domination. Base instinct sees males mounting females in Nature, although it should be remembered that mating in Nature is most often consensual. A male will seldom mount a female unless she has given him the go-ahead. With humans, it is not always this way. There seems to be a subliminal need for humans to demonstrate their prowess – their core ‘power’ – by being the person ‘on top’. Both men and women subscribe to this theory of sexuality and both use their wiles and their ways to make their statement of fact. Be aware that rape is about domination. Slavery is about domination. Domestic violence is about domination, as is child abuse. Think about it. Domination needs careful management. Ungoverned, it creates problems, pain, wars.
Please be aware of how you speak to yourself. You would be surprised to know how often you upset yourself with your tone of voice. When you are being shitty – either silently or out loud, hear yourself. Really listen to what it is that you are saying. It will tell you a lot about which of your needs are not being met, which parts of you are disgruntled. Your life is about getting your needs met. Your basic needs – safety, sustenance, love. It is about identifying and addressing the archetypes that reside in your psyche. If you spend enough time watching your behaviours without judging yourself for your actions, you will notice how certain aspects of yourself come to the fore in certain situations. It is very interesting to watch these archetypes act, and interact. Battle. The stiller your mind, the clearer your components and their motivations. We are all made up of components, coping mechanisms, skills. Every single person on this planet has a skill. You must find out what your skill is, and develop it. Adults should help children identify their skill(s), the younger you discover what you excel at, the more informed your choices for your future. Should you have missed the opportunity to identify for yourself what it is that you are good at, then your life is still a mystery. Don’t give up on finding a solution. There is always a solution.
Free speech is vital when you are communicating with yourself. But mind your tone. You must say it as you feel it if you wish to be heard, so know that direct is best. Diplomacy is good if you can manage it. Ears are attuned to decency in a person, kindness of mind. The truth. Don’t lie to yourself. Be disciplined enough to tell the truth. Truth is a discipline. Should you lie to yourself about anything whatsoever, know that is your first failing on the path to self-actualisation. If you want to know who you are, tell yourself how it is to be alive as you – how it really is – and listen to the news of the world. Hear, too, any advice you give yourself. The way you guide yourself counts. There will be a gentleness to your ministrations, and a harshness. A harshness of spirit indicates an impatience, a determination. Anger. Usually, at self. Keep that in mind. It indicates, too, a striving inside. When you will not settle for things the way they are – when you will not accept of yourself or your world anything less than best – you will have to entertain the harsher side of your being. Do not be afraid of your darkness. We all have a harshness of spirit, it comes with the territory of being human. We need it for this life. Train your harshness to drive you forwards. It is your wild. Welcome it. It can take you places.