It is wise – when told in no uncertain terms not to call someone’s bluff – not to call it. Like it is wise not to cry wolf when there are none. That is called stupidity. I am not a fan of labelling, in general, however there are occasions when labels can be made to be effective. Be sure, however, that if you are going to give labels to things that they are the right labels. No one likes to be called something that they are not – especially by a bunch of stupid idiots who know not even themselves what or who they are. Tolerance in this regard has proved extremely useful, as has the cultivation of an unprecedented patience, but there comes a time in some of our lives when enough really is enough. Leave the idiots to themselves, let them wallow in their shallows and die of their denial. There is a great distance to travel to that place where our wonders never cease and with that in mind we cannot – or more to the point, will not – carry carrion. We travel light. Ours is a protracted journey and it is not one we will make carrying shit on our backs. We are well within our rights to assert such a statement of fact.
If you have never read Aesop’s Fables, I suggest you do so. It is likely you will learn something that you will never forget. Not forgetting is the very first stage of remembering – and remembering is a very big word. It is essentially one that should not be forgotten. The reason for this is that your remembrances are what you are – hence they are what you become in your future. If you choose to recall all the shit that has hit your Life fan and remain bitter about it until your dying day (and on this planet we will all have one of those) then you will morph into a twisted shithead. That is a given. Given a choice, I certainly would not elect to embody myself in memories built of shit. Like I would not select to live in a house made of cards. That is not to say that shit is best avoided – it isn’t. It is best to hit it head-on. Personally, I work storms before I do the calm. That is my MO and it is not set to change in this infinity.
When you cry wolf – remember that wolves will usually travel in packs. That is what wolves do, which is why it is not wise to run with them if you cannot speak wolf. Another thing – when said wolves reach you and your projected dilemma, they will be hungry to save you from your attacker(s). That hunger is not easily assuaged. If – upon arrival – they should discover that your dilemma – your ‘life-threatening’ situation – is a lie, then they will simply eat you. That is how it works with wolves. They are not fussy about the nature of their meals, they are fussy about wasting their energy. They will ensure that they are fed for their efforts and they will not hesitate to start with your head. The reason for this is to prevent another call-out by those they have proven to be liars. Theirs’ is a natural wisdom, an unflinching instinct. Do not pretend with a wolf, it can see straight through you.
At times we are all plagued by issues in life. Some are deep-rooted. Some, are not. This is fortunate because we are easily able to relieve ourselves of the lesser issues and focus on those that obstruct us. Issues are not insurmountable. They just take some patience and understanding. We develop issues for a reason. Usually, that reason has something to do with a past hurt left unresolved. Hurts should never be left unresolved.
Issues are best dealt with whenever you become aware of them. Left unattended, they fester. If it is not possible to address the cause of your issue(s) personally, it is best to be sure that you deal with its/their impact on your internals. You can get over your issue(s) when you spend time working with its/their actuality. When you resolve your issues with yourself, the object of your issue(s) becomes unimportant in your days. That is a good place to be.
If you can give yourself enough space, it is possible to laugh at yourself and your issue(s) sometimes. Of course, there are times when nothing is funny. That is how it is. The object is to get through the things that cause you discomfort, not to suppress or repress them. If going through discomfort changes the way you perceive yourself and the world, then you can know that your issues – while they lasted – were worth themselves.
Ignorance is a choice. As is refusing to believe a fact when it is irrefutable. Fortunately facts abound in our world. They provide stability, a framework. Lay-people should not be so afraid of them, they are tried and tested – each one. Facts can be relied upon. They are there for you to use, so use them wisely. It is pointless ignoring them. That is choosing to be stupid. No one should choose to be stupid. Ignorant is not the same as stupid. There is a marked difference. Ignorance is curable. Stupidity is often terminal.
Should you currently find yourself in challenging circumstances do not plead ignorance as to the whys or whens of these tricky situations. You have brought them to yourself. They have arrived because you needed to learn something new. It is simpler to accept lessons when they come, trust that there is a reason. Lessons occasionally bend you out of shape. They push your boundaries. This is not a problem. Stretching through learning is worth every squeak and groan of the expanding infrastructure in your mind. When you begin to eradicate your ignorance through deliberate effort you will find that your life opens up immeasurably. You will find that you start to care more about the world in which you live because you understand it better.
Educate your children. Then teach them to have patience with ignorance. There are a lot of ignorant people on this planet and the children are the ones who are going to have to remedy this situation. It is the next generation that is going to carry that load. As a people we should think more about what we are consigning to our kids. The society they are set to inherit is not looking good. It is going to take a monumental effort on the part of those currently in power to make this different. One would hope that those currently in power understand their responsibility.
Domination is an interesting game to play. We have all spent time trying to dominate – situations, people, opinions. The need to be dominant is a throw-back to our wild. Males and females both do it. Children try it on all the time. Domination is not wholly an unhealthy pursuit, it just depends how far you will go to be the dominator. Take Russia for example, they are busy playing dangerous domination games. They will dominate in Crimea, despite the rising tide of negative public opinion with regards this particular pursuit of power. It would seem that they imagine themselves invincible. Their view is irresponsible, provocative, and it does not sit easy with the global community. Perhaps Russia should give some thought to the fact that they are currently disturbing the balance on our planet. This has consequences. I do not believe that Russia has the right to decide that Crimea needs to be a part of its make-up. Crimea belongs to the Crimeans, not the Russians. In fact, it is peculiarly obnoxious for Russia to be stretching its borders to include land that does not belong under Russia’s thumb. It would seem that Vladimir Putin forgets that invasions did not work well for Hitler in the long run. His big ideas are small-minded. Outdated. In actuality – backward. In fact it has to be asked – who exactly does Russia think it is? It cannot convince anyone that its objectives are honourable, no matter how earnest its self-righteous claims.
Domination is a key factor in relationships. Traditionally, women have learned and played the submissive role. Men have been the dominators. Of course there are many exceptions to this rule, but conditioning has seen to it that men stand head and shoulders above women when it comes to being ‘in charge’. It is refreshing to see the German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, making inroads in a male-dominated industry. Politics is an industry, as much as capitalism is an industry. It is encouraging to watch Hilary Clinton at work in her fields of expertise – the adherence to the ways of women bodes well for the future of global diplomacy. There are good reasons why women are usually better at diplomacy than men are. Theirs’ is a learned patience, an inherent understanding of how the world and its people work.
Sex is about domination. Base instinct sees males mounting females in Nature, although it should be remembered that mating in Nature is most often consensual. A male will seldom mount a female unless she has given him the go-ahead. With humans, it is not always this way. There seems to be a subliminal need for humans to demonstrate their prowess – their core ‘power’ – by being the person ‘on top’. Both men and women subscribe to this theory of sexuality and both use their wiles and their ways to make their statement of fact. Be aware that rape is about domination. Slavery is about domination. Domestic violence is about domination, as is child abuse. Think about it. Domination needs careful management. Ungoverned, it creates problems, pain, wars.
When was the last time you felt pure excitement? Not anticipation – or lust – but excitement. It is a vital emotion to feel. You are not more alive than when you are excited. The flutter in your heart will tell you when that is. If you have people in your life that do not excite you, that is your problem. You must make new acquaintances.
People can excite you with their ideas, their thoughts. Their expression. Excitement can be channelled forwards and it can be contagious. It is worth cultivating in your days. How do you make a people excited about being alive? How do you turn a vague interest in living into a passion for every single day that is gifted? There is only one way. You explain to a people that unless they change radically the way they are approaching their future, they are doomed. On every level. Fortunately for those who are determined to carry on as if they are not in any way responsible for the state of this Earth’s nerves, there is time yet to turn things around for themselves. Nature is patient. That is the good news.
Surround yourself with options that stimulate your interest in life. There are many. Do not be lazy about finding out what stimulates you. Excitement is one of them. Find it, and make use of it. If you find reason to feel excited about absolutely nothing, then that is even better.
There is a residual racism alive and well in the world. This is not productive. Racism is a dead-end road to nowhere. When you are tempted to judge a person because they are not the same colour as you, know that you are prejudiced. Prejudice is not an attractive quality. You cannot know how it is to be a person of colour if you are not coloured. Theirs’ has been an uphill battle all along, it has to be said. They must be getting tired of defining themselves again and again, defending their right to exist in a world fearful of their difference. Considering people of colour are by far the majority in this world, those that are not of colour should understand their place in the scheme of things. They have an opinion – that is all. We all have an opinion that we are free to exercise. It is important to understand that we should not use our opinions to condemn the lives of other people. How dare you wish harm to another human being? That is not your place. It is not your job to effect doom on another’s days. If you have ideas of hurting other people, tidy up your head.
It is necessary to judge a person’s nature before you decide to interact with them. You cannot do that in one minute. How a person treats you over time tells you a lot about their character, a lot about yours. If you are open to your world, you will know with whom you are best connected. You will know, too, who you do not want near you. You will feel it. Children are particularly adept at sensing good, bad. Trust their judgement. Children will start profiling themselves racially at 5 years of age. It is important, therefore, that before the age of 5 a child is exposed to other children of every colour. When a child understands that it is one of a number of others – and through that understanding learns that ‘otherness’ is okay – then we have a situation where tolerance is being fostered. You simply have to tolerate other people – we all share this space. Practicing tolerance is good practice.
Racism makes this world weary. It’s an energy-thief. Its basis is fear, its power, hatred. It is time to nullify the hatred. Men need to be men now. They need to take control of their dark sides, which means harnessing their primal drives. This darker energy needs containing – there are too many men visiting their darker sides upon the planet and turning our reality into a freak show. A dark side is dark, it is not meant for the light. It takes a strong man to turn and face the shadows. Turning is always a slow process, but it is possible to do a full 360° if you exercise enough patience. 360° is where you want to be. We need to turn and face the tsunami of hatred that is building, daily, for individuals, groups, a system that is failing its people. By and large, the world of politics is a mess and it is failing at its own job. Money is a bigger mess than politics. Politics is about puppets in the today-world. Puppets are bought and sold every day. How effective any prime minister, any president, at exacting real change from the masses? I suppose it depends how they ask for that change to come about. Since most of them are lying about the truth in one way or another we find it increasingly difficult to find the energy to listen to any of their stories. In this day and age it is ridiculous that every country is not run on a democratic basis. And I have to ask – what are the Republicans doing for this planet, apart from marginalising people? They need to open their minds and get with the programme called Progress.
This world is over-populated. Use contraception in any shape or form. That is the first fact to get into your head. The second, is that birthing more than two children in this day and age is not just irresponsible, it is selfish. How many times must you duplicate yourself in this world? It is immaterial how much money you have. If you love children enough to want ten, then adopt for god’s sake. Do you know how many children do not have families on this planet? What can they learn of Earth? Theirs’ will be an emptiness within that will be very hard to fill. If you cannot cope with the idea of adopting – and some people do not want to bring up another’s progeny – that is fine, but do not flood the world with your seed. Men must update their thinking – more is not more. Less is more for 2013 and beyond. If you cannot conceive, you do not rush to the hospital for IVF treatment. You wait and you see what Nature has in store for you. Why force her hand, time and again? Who do you think you are, demanding of her with your impatience? Do you not think she – of all – knows best? Do you not think she is measuring your bodies for success? Of course she is. She is waiting for the perfect time. Each time you conceive unnaturally you are missing that window. Her pace is that of patience, as a guide in life you cannot hope to find better. If you want a child more than anything in the world, then you know as well as the next person that any child will do for you the same job. That is important to understand.
Children love unconditionally for a very long time. Their capacity for forgiveness – if that is even what it is to them – is humbling to see as a human being. It is sad to think about how many times an abused child will try to make sense of what ‘love’ is. They will forgive time and again without question, in pursuit of love. That is what a child is born expecting to be shown. Love. Remember – if they are damaged children, they will have to be taught what love is. You cannot expect a child who has been kicked around or fostered in five abusive families to function normally. That would be insane. That is why social services in every country in the world needs more money to do the job they are trying to do. We need to take the problem out before it happens. Also, you cannot move a child every five minutes and hope they will be well-adjusted to function in society at the end of it all. You are affecting their sense of identity when you change their environment. Appreciate that if you move a child from school to school, and/or house to house, you are forcing them to rely on change as a constant. This can be a risky business. If you pile the witnessing of domestic abuse on top of that and/or substance abuse, you are showing the child that violence is acceptable and/or that addiction is a potential path to follow. Addiction to anything is not recommended, food included. A lot of people are addicted to food and refuse to admit it. That is no different to many alcoholics sitting at the AA. Whether their ‘Twelve Steps’ is what to take from their ministering I can’t say, but I have heard that following God up the steps is required. That all makes sense if you believe there is a God. There are a lot of alcoholics who do not think there is a God. This reality should be taken into consideration.
The church should really swallow its contraception and abortion arguments. It is time. If it cannot swallow its pride on this and give real ground as well as ideological ground as an institution then it is failing its followers. It is choice that humans seek, not strict governance by a set of backward rules. The Catholics in particular can reshuffle their policies, their celibacy laws have bred abuse and paedophilia and their issue with contraception is going to lose them followers faster than the revelation of their true wealth. The Catholics must be called upon to explain why they have so much of this planet’s land under their belts. They need to free up space, they need to sell on and move out. The poor need houses. The church can sell their properties and pay for the housing. That is what any charitable institute would do. And a humble religion – which all religions aspire to be, surely – will have a humble portfolio. I think the Catholics need to show their willingness to really help the people change the state of their planet. How else can they redeem themselves? Alms, are alms.