An important initial distinction to make is the difference between confidence and esteem. They are not the same thing. ‘No confidence’ suggests that there is a courage lacking in a person’s actions, a lack of belief in what a person is capable of doing – and by rights – should do, but doesn’t. Confidence – understandably – is the currency of politics, of scam-artists and esteemed liars. Also, it is the medium used by those who are certain about what what they want, and know that they can achieve it. Confidence is not arrogance, that is another story in itself.
Esteem is more personal, perhaps more fragile than confidence itself, is. Esteem is what affords an individual success, real success. This is because it is authentic – it cannot be manufactured or conjured up at will. In other words, it is a purely natural state of being. Esteem exists where a person is familiar with themselves and their purpose, and both the knowledge thereof – and the understanding – fills them with peace. That peace cannot be bought at any cost. Confidence is at times no more than a means to an end. Esteem has more integrity.
No confidence usually stems from a dented ego. Or damaged pride. This can be repaired in due course with the correct ministrations. Low self-esteem happens to persons who are failing in their focus, their purpose. It is not possible to have high self-esteem when you are not in a position to fulfil your reason(s) for being. If you consider that three quarters of this planet’s populace cannot currently fulfil their true reason(s) for being, you will understand why this earth is in the dire straights that it is.
Domination is an interesting game to play. We have all spent time trying to dominate – situations, people, opinions. The need to be dominant is a throw-back to our wild. Males and females both do it. Children try it on all the time. Domination is not wholly an unhealthy pursuit, it just depends how far you will go to be the dominator. Take Russia for example, they are busy playing dangerous domination games. They will dominate in Crimea, despite the rising tide of negative public opinion with regards this particular pursuit of power. It would seem that they imagine themselves invincible. Their view is irresponsible, provocative, and it does not sit easy with the global community. Perhaps Russia should give some thought to the fact that they are currently disturbing the balance on our planet. This has consequences. I do not believe that Russia has the right to decide that Crimea needs to be a part of its make-up. Crimea belongs to the Crimeans, not the Russians. In fact, it is peculiarly obnoxious for Russia to be stretching its borders to include land that does not belong under Russia’s thumb. It would seem that Vladimir Putin forgets that invasions did not work well for Hitler in the long run. His big ideas are small-minded. Outdated. In actuality – backward. In fact it has to be asked – who exactly does Russia think it is? It cannot convince anyone that its objectives are honourable, no matter how earnest its self-righteous claims.
Domination is a key factor in relationships. Traditionally, women have learned and played the submissive role. Men have been the dominators. Of course there are many exceptions to this rule, but conditioning has seen to it that men stand head and shoulders above women when it comes to being ‘in charge’. It is refreshing to see the German Chancellor, Angela Merkel, making inroads in a male-dominated industry. Politics is an industry, as much as capitalism is an industry. It is encouraging to watch Hilary Clinton at work in her fields of expertise – the adherence to the ways of women bodes well for the future of global diplomacy. There are good reasons why women are usually better at diplomacy than men are. Theirs’ is a learned patience, an inherent understanding of how the world and its people work.
Sex is about domination. Base instinct sees males mounting females in Nature, although it should be remembered that mating in Nature is most often consensual. A male will seldom mount a female unless she has given him the go-ahead. With humans, it is not always this way. There seems to be a subliminal need for humans to demonstrate their prowess – their core ‘power’ – by being the person ‘on top’. Both men and women subscribe to this theory of sexuality and both use their wiles and their ways to make their statement of fact. Be aware that rape is about domination. Slavery is about domination. Domestic violence is about domination, as is child abuse. Think about it. Domination needs careful management. Ungoverned, it creates problems, pain, wars.
There is a residual racism alive and well in the world. This is not productive. Racism is a dead-end road to nowhere. When you are tempted to judge a person because they are not the same colour as you, know that you are prejudiced. Prejudice is not an attractive quality. You cannot know how it is to be a person of colour if you are not coloured. Theirs’ has been an uphill battle all along, it has to be said. They must be getting tired of defining themselves again and again, defending their right to exist in a world fearful of their difference. Considering people of colour are by far the majority in this world, those that are not of colour should understand their place in the scheme of things. They have an opinion – that is all. We all have an opinion that we are free to exercise. It is important to understand that we should not use our opinions to condemn the lives of other people. How dare you wish harm to another human being? That is not your place. It is not your job to effect doom on another’s days. If you have ideas of hurting other people, tidy up your head.
It is necessary to judge a person’s nature before you decide to interact with them. You cannot do that in one minute. How a person treats you over time tells you a lot about their character, a lot about yours. If you are open to your world, you will know with whom you are best connected. You will know, too, who you do not want near you. You will feel it. Children are particularly adept at sensing good, bad. Trust their judgement. Children will start profiling themselves racially at 5 years of age. It is important, therefore, that before the age of 5 a child is exposed to other children of every colour. When a child understands that it is one of a number of others – and through that understanding learns that ‘otherness’ is okay – then we have a situation where tolerance is being fostered. You simply have to tolerate other people – we all share this space. Practicing tolerance is good practice.
Racism makes this world weary. It’s an energy-thief. Its basis is fear, its power, hatred. It is time to nullify the hatred. Men need to be men now. They need to take control of their dark sides, which means harnessing their primal drives. This darker energy needs containing – there are too many men visiting their darker sides upon the planet and turning our reality into a freak show. A dark side is dark, it is not meant for the light. It takes a strong man to turn and face the shadows. Turning is always a slow process, but it is possible to do a full 360° if you exercise enough patience. 360° is where you want to be. We need to turn and face the tsunami of hatred that is building, daily, for individuals, groups, a system that is failing its people. By and large, the world of politics is a mess and it is failing at its own job. Money is a bigger mess than politics. Politics is about puppets in the today-world. Puppets are bought and sold every day. How effective any prime minister, any president, at exacting real change from the masses? I suppose it depends how they ask for that change to come about. Since most of them are lying about the truth in one way or another we find it increasingly difficult to find the energy to listen to any of their stories. In this day and age it is ridiculous that every country is not run on a democratic basis. And I have to ask – what are the Republicans doing for this planet, apart from marginalising people? They need to open their minds and get with the programme called Progress.