A lot of people have an issue with generalisations. They can be offensive, understandably, but sometimes they are necessary. When we are included in a bracket, or labelled as a whole, it forces accountability upon the everyman. Or woman. Interestingly, that makes individuals more inclined to define themselves as different from the masses in order that they distance themselves from the responsibility the masses must carry.
A point in hand is that each generalisation that is made is a reminder. A reminder that each one of us is part of a larger picture that has a history about which we can currently do nothing. It exists. Unfortunately, humans are largely predictable. They follow like lemmings their own kind, year in and year out. They insist on behaving the same way they have done for centuries. This needs changing before generalisations can be done away with.
It can be frustrating for people who do not deserve to wear the labels that are generally given to the collective. There are always those people who do not fit the mould that society has sculpted for every man, woman and child. Those ‘misfits’ who have been dragging balls and chains that do not belong shackled to their ankles. The ‘misfits’ are okay with their load – it has facilitated their unique position. They have the best of both worlds. They can blend with the generalisations into obscurity – along with the majority of the planet – or they can take accountability for their contributions to the history of our now and refine their definitions.
Ignorance is a choice. As is refusing to believe a fact when it is irrefutable. Fortunately facts abound in our world. They provide stability, a framework. Lay-people should not be so afraid of them, they are tried and tested – each one. Facts can be relied upon. They are there for you to use, so use them wisely. It is pointless ignoring them. That is choosing to be stupid. No one should choose to be stupid. Ignorant is not the same as stupid. There is a marked difference. Ignorance is curable. Stupidity is often terminal.
Should you currently find yourself in challenging circumstances do not plead ignorance as to the whys or whens of these tricky situations. You have brought them to yourself. They have arrived because you needed to learn something new. It is simpler to accept lessons when they come, trust that there is a reason. Lessons occasionally bend you out of shape. They push your boundaries. This is not a problem. Stretching through learning is worth every squeak and groan of the expanding infrastructure in your mind. When you begin to eradicate your ignorance through deliberate effort you will find that your life opens up immeasurably. You will find that you start to care more about the world in which you live because you understand it better.
Educate your children. Then teach them to have patience with ignorance. There are a lot of ignorant people on this planet and the children are the ones who are going to have to remedy this situation. It is the next generation that is going to carry that load. As a people we should think more about what we are consigning to our kids. The society they are set to inherit is not looking good. It is going to take a monumental effort on the part of those currently in power to make this different. One would hope that those currently in power understand their responsibility.
Timing is everything in life. Just think, you cannot force a rose to bloom. You cannot hurry up a caterpillar with its business of changing into a butterfly. You stand back, and you watch. When the time is right these things happen. They know when. If you are a wise person, you will appreciate every stage of the changing. You will allow things to become what they must, in their own good time and you will marvel – with hindsight – at the process. Hindsight is a tool. Use it. It is helpful when you want to get a feel for how far you have come.
Timing is vital. If you jump at the wrong moment, for instance, you will land badly. If you are going to leap, you must time your leap perfectly. The only way to do that is to trust instinct implicitly when it comes to you, insisting. Instinct will have all its reasons lined up and ready for inspection should you be able to stay quiet for long enough for them to make themselves heard. You have to listen carefully to its justifications, instinct can explain your very purpose on the planet.
You are not where you are in time, by accident. Your timing is your responsibility. Use it to perfect yourself to benefit mankind. Keep in mind that your version of a perfect self is whatever perfect means to you. Perfect is being in a place where you like yourself, your contribution to the world. If you are not in that place then you must ask yourself why. There are always reasons why, you must just feel like hearing them. If you can do something that no one else can do, do it so that others can see. We can all benefit from that kind of sharing. If you do not yet know what you are capable of, then learn. There is always time for that.
The very first thing you need to understand about blame is that it is a waste of your time. It is absolutely pointless. Do not weaken your standpoint in life by whining about who did what. You allow what happens to you to happen to you. Understand this. Take accountability, do not lay blame. The power in taking accountability will make itself apparent in your everyday. Be proud of who you are, what you believe and why you choose to do what you do. Taking accountability is empowering. It is not a punishment. It is standing up and saying, ‘Yes. That was me.’ That is self-awareness. Self-belief. Recognition. Have faith in your actions, your (mis)deeds, your subconscious striving for actualisation. The striving keeps us alive and faith in yourself is never wasted. You must take accountability for your thoughts, too. I would like to point out that it does help – both yourself and others – if you would add to your statement of fact, ‘… and my reasons for doing said such and such, were …’. Give reasons willingly. They help with clarity. I have learned that in most instances it is a waste of time to hide your justifications. We all have that painful desire to justify our existence. It’s there. It is a part of wanting to be understood. We would all like to feel understood, it’s a deep-seated need. How many people have you trusted with your insides? We cannot know someone or understand them until they have shown us their insides. That is how it is.
Remember that taking accountability is not taking responsibility. Responsibility is a whole different kettle of fish. It depends on your need to play the martyr – and we all have that tendency at times – as to how much responsibility you will take on that is not yours to carry. Only carry what is yours. You must understand that you are not responsible for another’s reality. You are not responsible for the illusion they are living. You are not responsible for their existence. Until you can consciously penetrate another’s thoughts you are not in any way responsible for their thinking, either. Know that. A person’s choices are their’s alone and for those choices they will pay penalties or reap rewards when the time comes. And the time is coming. Soon we will find ourselves blending with the futures we have selected for ourselves. It will be interesting to see who is happy with their lot and who is not. Should you not be happy with how your future is going to look – given that its reality is based on your projections at present – then you had better start shifting your mindset. That starts with realising who you are at this moment and being proud of the person you have become. Know that personal pride is not a waste of time. You did not get to where you are by accident. Please remember that you are always becoming. That is evolution. That is going forwards, meeting your real self (time and again) – and reaching your full potential. Reaching your full potential is what you are here to do. So do it.