That is why it is vital to know what your purpose on this planet, is. Then you will understand why you have been built the way you have. It is important not to identify too closely with your ‘build’ – it does not necessarily define you. It can, of course, but again that depends on what your particular purpose is. It also has something to do with how you come to realise what that purpose – your destiny – is. When you can come to terms with, and accept, your destiny – you will find that who you are is absolutely perfect for the job you need to do. That is why yes is a word you should use with yourself. Should you be purpose built and deny yourself your destiny by lying when you are identifying yourself then it is fair to say that you will probably end up living the wrong life.
If you are as yet unsure about the nature of your purpose, its role in your life, there are ways to establish how to find out. That does not take three minutes, it takes a great deal of time and selfless devotion. If you cannot be bothered to show yourself your true reason(s) for being you are consigning yourself to the giant void that is a pointless existence. There is nothing worse than living on this planet for a reason you are not able to give yourself.
There are those that are built – like elements are the building blocks of the universe – a certain way for a certain reason. When we discover the value in our diversity we will be more inclined to celebrate who exactly it is that we are. Whilst that truth eludes you, you will see difference in a fearful light and you will be inclined to fight it. The point is that when the starter pistol began the race of time we crossed the line with a view to finishing. Others crossed the line with the intention of winning. Others still, crossed that line and collapsed after travelling three feeble metres. The reason that happened is because from the beginning, they were running on empty – and the initial surge at the start reversed them.
An important initial distinction to make is the difference between confidence and esteem. They are not the same thing. ‘No confidence’ suggests that there is a courage lacking in a person’s actions, a lack of belief in what a person is capable of doing – and by rights – should do, but doesn’t. Confidence – understandably – is the currency of politics, of scam-artists and esteemed liars. Also, it is the medium used by those who are certain about what what they want, and know that they can achieve it. Confidence is not arrogance, that is another story in itself.
Esteem is more personal, perhaps more fragile than confidence itself, is. Esteem is what affords an individual success, real success. This is because it is authentic – it cannot be manufactured or conjured up at will. In other words, it is a purely natural state of being. Esteem exists where a person is familiar with themselves and their purpose, and both the knowledge thereof – and the understanding – fills them with peace. That peace cannot be bought at any cost. Confidence is at times no more than a means to an end. Esteem has more integrity.
No confidence usually stems from a dented ego. Or damaged pride. This can be repaired in due course with the correct ministrations. Low self-esteem happens to persons who are failing in their focus, their purpose. It is not possible to have high self-esteem when you are not in a position to fulfil your reason(s) for being. If you consider that three quarters of this planet’s populace cannot currently fulfil their true reason(s) for being, you will understand why this earth is in the dire straights that it is.
It is helpful to look on the brighter side of life, particularly at those times when there is little light to see by. Positivity is a valuable asset in the dark. In fact it is priceless, at all times. Without foresight it is not a simple business, being optimistic. You need to be able to envision the best outcome, every time. That involves interpreting the big picture. Not translating it, or explaining it away.
There is always time to hope for the best to happen. It costs nothing, that kind of positivity. It does mean heartache, that is inevitable in a world where appalling things happen uninterrupted all day, everyday. An open heart is susceptible to aching. When you want the best for everything that is deserving of it – and again, deserving being a big word – it is a challenge to accept that in this life we do not all necessarily get what we want.
There is no such thing as being too optimistic. We are all highly evolved creatures, we can see beyond the daily dire and dismal to where this world really is a better place for all that have a vested interest in its wellbeing. Fortunately there are still many optimists all over the globe practicing their positive influence on people and their purpose – and for them, we should all be grateful. Without their foresight this planet would not be where it is going.
If you cannot be bothered to spend time living your life to its fullest – your fullest – then perhaps you should surrender yourself to the powers that be and call your existence quits. Perhaps you should relinquish control of yourself and your sources and accept that you are missing the point of life. There is no excuse for not living, it is an essential state of being. You will know how it is to be truly alive and kicking. You will know because you can feel it when you are in your element. Your senses tell you all about it. Should you find yourself wishing to be present and counted in your everyday, then take the time to make that happen. You need to be assertive when it comes to managing your time, your days. You are who says what happens when, and how. That is your power. Do not waste it.
Living for another is not a wise idea. You cannot realistically bring yourself to an optimum place when your existence is defined by the toings and froings of another person. That attitude is defeatist. You need to live first for yourself – you get one life in the embodiment in which you currently find yourself and that actuality should not be overlooked. You should not overlook yourself at all. Living for yourself is not selfish. It is necessary. When you find your truth and you subscribe to it wholeheartedly you will discover your purpose, and once you discover your purpose you will understand that your life is not given to you for you to farm it out. Farm in-house, not out-house. Do not try to be for another – that never works.
Living – in the cliché – is loving. And it is. Should you know how to properly live, you will know how to properly love. That is a given fundamental. If you are not sure how to live properly then perhaps train yourself in that discipline. It is a definite discipline and you will get better at it the more you practice. Do not fear repercussions for living to your fullest. There will be none. The universe will support every attempt you make to be something in yourself. Embrace that reality and get busy living – as Buddha said: ‘… the problem is, you think you have time…’
When you are told that there is good news – and – that there is bad news, which do you opt to hear first? I choose the bad news first. Like I save the best until last. That way, you can always be sure that you have something to look forward to. I suppose it is one way of making a negative, postive, and when you have the chance to do that – be sure that you do.
Bad news is not always as bad as it seems. It depends on the bearer’s methods and it depends on your propensity for accepting those things that you do not like in your life. We all have things in our lives that we do not like. Incidentally, we should be more assertive when it comes to saying so. But remember, if you will say so then be sure that you find ears that can hear you. There is no point bleating into the wind. I expect it is common for people to tolerate that which they don’t like. Society has become very adept at that. Those who stand for what they will not tolerate are burnt at the stake, almost.
Does bad news come in threes, like people believe? It depends if that is what you believe. If you believe that three bad things are going to happen to you consecutively each time some misfortune befalls you, then that is very likely exactly what you will get. When bad news arrives, just don’t multiply it and don’t collapse as a person. Face it, see that it serves a purpose. Bad news is never for nothing.
Timing is everything in life. Just think, you cannot force a rose to bloom. You cannot hurry up a caterpillar with its business of changing into a butterfly. You stand back, and you watch. When the time is right these things happen. They know when. If you are a wise person, you will appreciate every stage of the changing. You will allow things to become what they must, in their own good time and you will marvel – with hindsight – at the process. Hindsight is a tool. Use it. It is helpful when you want to get a feel for how far you have come.
Timing is vital. If you jump at the wrong moment, for instance, you will land badly. If you are going to leap, you must time your leap perfectly. The only way to do that is to trust instinct implicitly when it comes to you, insisting. Instinct will have all its reasons lined up and ready for inspection should you be able to stay quiet for long enough for them to make themselves heard. You have to listen carefully to its justifications, instinct can explain your very purpose on the planet.
You are not where you are in time, by accident. Your timing is your responsibility. Use it to perfect yourself to benefit mankind. Keep in mind that your version of a perfect self is whatever perfect means to you. Perfect is being in a place where you like yourself, your contribution to the world. If you are not in that place then you must ask yourself why. There are always reasons why, you must just feel like hearing them. If you can do something that no one else can do, do it so that others can see. We can all benefit from that kind of sharing. If you do not yet know what you are capable of, then learn. There is always time for that.
Appreciation is different to gratitude. It’s warmer, deeper. And it’s more than just a feeling – it’s real goodwill at work. Gratitude is necessary for your spirit, your soul. You need to resonate with gratitude for your life because you have given it to yourself. Respect that. Keep in mind that no matter how untidy your life has been – and we have all had untidy patches – you have made your way to where you are successfully. Perhaps not unscathed, or intact, but successfully. Some of us take the long road, some of us take short-cuts. Whichever way you choose to live your life remember that you did not undertake its challenges lightly.
When faced with the choice of returning to meet your karma sooner or rather later – for we must all return at some point – you must know what you will decide to do. That is one question that will be asked of you when you end your days. Are you the fool – leaping immediately off every precipice into the unknown, or are you the more cautious sort, creeping along in life at a slow, steady never? Decide. Hare or the tortoise? Some of us are adrenalin junkies when it comes to living, we need to take it at pace and move, fluid, with it. Others will revisit their roles and stay fixed in situ. Which is better? Those that stay in their comfort zone will not reach their full potential. It is that simple. Respect yourself for putting yourself through what you have. There is a reason for it.
Life is your teacher. Your guru. Love is your guide. Your compass. Trust that. Know that you have a list of experiences written into your script that you must have, and will have. How you choose to execute these experiences is up to you. You can immerse yourself in the drama of each one, or you can detach yourself from the tangle. Both methods work. You will face the same obstacles time and again – they will just dress differently to keep you on your toes – until you review yourself differently. That is in your power. Practice it. You will do the same things, but with practice you will look at them from a different perspective each time. That way, you will find solution. Finding solution – creative solution – is a part of your life’s purpose.