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Critics – Blog No. 21

Critics

Critics are important.  When they are required.  When they are not required they are nothing short of a pain in the arse.  Critics are the reason there are censors, and censors – where necessary – can be valuable.  For instance:  censors are needed when it comes to the matters of children.  Adolescents should be guided, too, by sensible censors and adults in their own capacity should be quite capable of choosing what they would like to expose themselves to. When critics are selected – and I am not talking about the idiot critics who elect themselves experts on subjects they know nothing about – there are vital criteria that must be met.  One of those is the selector’s ability to recognise in a critic his/her inherent intent when criticising.

Fortunately constructive criticism exists.  It is still possible to find those who delight in the success of others in this dog-eat-dog world.  It would seem that the predominant desire in this world – perhaps because there are billions of ‘have-nots’ on this planet – is to see your neighbour fail once he/she has achieved a degree of success deemed by you to be ‘above their station in life’.  Resentments abound.  Those that ‘have’ at first become their own clan, thinking that by pulling together they will somehow preserve their imagined pre-eminence and protect their investments.  In the manic dash to close ranks in their capitalist panic they do not realise that the welfare of their fellow humans is their investment.

Once upon a time I said that there were some things I needed, and some that I didn’t.  It would seem that some idiot decided that they knew better than me what I required and in an act of perhaps misdirected goodwill delivered me to the kangaroo court, the Spanish Inquisition’s firing squad and the Doors of Hell.  It was not expected that I would benefit from the experiences, but I ensured that I did.  I discovered on my lengthy journey that kangaroos were in fact dogs dressed in sheep’s clothing, that Spanish is a beautiful language to listen to and I learned that my private Hell was nothing to fear.  Quite the contrary.  It is the scars that are housed in my private Hell that held the keys to the foreseeable future.  We all have a private Hell.  A personal place we send ourselves at various stages to make amends.  The point in being sent there is to fix things, to heal our ravaged souls.  There is no point in going there with the intention of inflicting further damage upon yourself for the same old sins committed.  You are there to face and accept old fears, to process your allocated pain.  You are there to understand your sadness and to let it go.  You are not there to assassinate your own character – so do not become your own worst critic.

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Confidence, and No Confidence – Blog No. 8

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An important initial distinction to make is the difference between confidence and esteem. They are not the same thing. ‘No confidence’ suggests that there is a courage lacking in a person’s actions, a lack of belief in what a person is capable of doing – and by rights – should do, but doesn’t. Confidence – understandably – is the currency of politics, of scam-artists and esteemed liars. Also, it is the medium used by those who are certain about what what they want, and know that they can achieve it. Confidence is not arrogance, that is another story in itself.

Esteem is more personal, perhaps more fragile than confidence itself, is. Esteem is what affords an individual success, real success. This is because it is authentic – it cannot be manufactured or conjured up at will. In other words, it is a purely natural state of being. Esteem exists where a person is familiar with themselves and their purpose, and both the knowledge thereof – and the understanding – fills them with peace. That peace cannot be bought at any cost. Confidence is at times no more than a means to an end. Esteem has more integrity.

No confidence usually stems from a dented ego. Or damaged pride. This can be repaired in due course with the correct ministrations. Low self-esteem happens to persons who are failing in their focus, their purpose. It is not possible to have high self-esteem when you are not in a position to fulfil your reason(s) for being. If you consider that three quarters of this planet’s populace cannot currently fulfil their true reason(s) for being, you will understand why this earth is in the dire straights that it is.

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Transition – Blog No. 94

TransitionLogoSmllTransition is an interesting phase.  It is closure on one level, and the opening up of a brand new vista on another.  Transitions in life – and you will have a few – may cause you to lose the reference points with which you have become familiar.  You will need to establish new reference points and you will need to be pragmatic about the process of saying goodbye to the old ones.  Reference points only serve you for the duration of their lifespan, there is no need to be sentimental about starting afresh.

Transition is about changing.  Again – respect that change is life.  That is the one reality you cannot escape.  The more precious we are about holding on to our personal ‘history’, the more difficult it is to embrace change.  Be selective about what you are precious about.  Transitions do not come without warning, but they do happen without your permission.  They come at exactly the right time.  It is wise to accept their arrival.

Transition is about growing, too.  This can be a seamless process, you can expand your capacity without it being painful.  Often, it is painful.  You are pushing yourself to capacity, and beyond – which hurts.  There is always the beyond.  There is always something extra where you expect to be empty.  You just have to find the courage to go there.  You become what you are meant to be through transition.  Each transition, a success.  No matter how you respond to the transition that is sent to change you, change you will.  So that is success.

Death is one of life’s transitions.  Viva la vista.

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Support – Blog No. 73

earth dayIf you have no support of any sort from any person other than yourself, yours is a very challenging existence.  To have the support of another human being, group of human beings, validates your life experience.  It is good to know that somebody cares.  Know that when you are in need of support, it is best to ask for it.  This is not easy for many people – there are a lot of us who find it difficult to ask for help.  Occasionally you will come across a person who offers you support without expecting anything in return.  This is a precious gift.  Receive it with grace if it should come to you.

If you are not feeling particularly useful at the moment, try being supportive to someone.  It will make a difference in their life.  Instead of standing and watching a person struggling, step in and take their hand.  Lift them with a kind word, an observation.  Sometimes people just need to know that someone can see their strife.  Burdens shared – and face it, we all have burdens to carry – are loads lightened.  Be aware of how much support you are prepared to offer.  Do not get caught in the trap of becoming someone’s crutch.  Taking someone else’s life-load on is not advisable.  Not only is it cruel – it takes away the liver’s ability to make decisions that will change their fate – it is counter-productive to your own progress.  You do not get anywhere on your life path by trying to bend straight another’s days.

Know that Nature supports you.  She supports your every move.  She listens, she hears.  You should speak aloud your heart’s desires.  They are not only for thinking about.  They are for realising.  Your human nature makes it possible for you to reach and live your dreams.  You just have to need them enough.  There are many wasted dreams lying in piles of want.  Want does not always get.  Need doesn’t either, but need drives you harder than want does and this makes success more likely.  Make sure you know what you need in your life.  Do not accept that your needs are less important than another’s needs.  Your wants, yes.  They are perhaps less important than the wants of others.  Needs need to be met.  Make their acquaintance.  Take their demands seriously.  Show support for their cause.

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Money – Blog No. 51

gun_moneyI hate the way money governs minds the way it does.  It has a power that should inspire awe, and wariness.  We should never be complacent around money.  It is an integral part of an everyday for every single person on this planet.  Whether you have it, or whether you don’t.  Money affords us choices.  As human beings, we are kept happy with choices.  When you have no money, you have no choice but to survive.  That makes for a person who will behave badly in order to get by.  You do what you must do.  When you have no money to fund your addictions and you choose to hurt people in order to support your imbalance, those crimes are of a different nature.  If you are hungry, you will steal or dig in dustbins.  If you are a junkie, you will rob and/or hurt people to fund your hobby.  Hurting others is frowned upon.

There are too many capable people sitting on their backsides, not earning money for themselves.  Earning money is empowering.  A lot of these people have a choice, they can work – they are just lazy and have become totally dependent on state support.  It is not good to be wholly dependent on anything.  There are too many people stealing from the failing benefit system in the UK, there are too many yob parasites and too many disillusioned children of the Empire in that country for the infrastructure to hope to cope.  It cannot cope.  The UK government cannot afford to keep its people in the manner to which they have grown accustomed.  Their’s is a dangerous, rocky road.  What does money mean in the UK?  What does money mean in the United States?  And very relevant – what does money mean in Africa?  In most places, it means status.  In some places, it means safety, security, too.  It would be good if everywhere money meant safety and security, for everyone.  I do not accept that there are people who survive on one US dollar a day.  I do accept that it is not for the rich to pay for the poor.  However, it is for the rich to make every effort to change the way this world works.  They have the platform and they have the resources.  They are somewhat educated, usually, and theirs’ should be a collective social conscience – it just should.  You don’t get rich by accident.  You either work hard and earn or you steal, extort, con.  Stealing is not advisable – did you not hear that the easy way in life is not the trap to fall into?  In anycase, you will pay back whatever you steal.  That is a given.

If you do get rich, make sure your methods are honourable, ethical.  For your own peace of mind.  And give something back.  Make sure you give something back – to the environment, if you cannot be moved to feel charitable towards people, or animals.  Be a visionary.  Be an entrepeneur.  Be the best at what you do.  Command remuneration for your services rendered, make sure it is fair exchange and make sure you do not underestimate your worth.  If you are rich – do not be greedy.  Greedy is rude and a money-grabbing rude person is not a person anyone wants to spend time with.  If your ways to acquiring wealth are not kosher, you can be sure that in your lifetime you will suffer your same treatment, you will be taken advantage of the way you have taken advantage of others.  The best thing about this world is that there is always, always, karma – and there is always, always, consequence.

Money makes most things move.  Most things.  Anyone who imagines that money does not manipulate every class in society, every caste – for there are still the ‘untouchables’ – is deluded.  Unfortunately, money is necessary in our world.  You cannot live without it.  We have made it this way.  It would make sense, then, that we take responsibility for our attitude towards money and instead of using it to demonstrate our successes in life, use it to make a success of this planet.  We only have the one.  We really should use every resource available to make it the kind of planet we all feel comfortable living on.  If someone next door to you is starving, you do not just sit there and watch unless you, yourself, are starving.  You start thinking about what you can do to make this world a better place and you give what you can to those who need something from you.

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