29 Nov 2013 · 14:47

Burning – Blog No. 92

"Toro Jubilo" (Joy of the Bull) festival in the Medieval village of Medinaceli, in the province of Soria, north east of Madrid.As far as hellfire goes, I would not lose too much sleep over the thought that your ‘sins’ in life are going to have landed you in a pit of fire for eternity.  That isn’t what happens.  In anycase, when you are dead, you do not feel.  You could sit in a cauldron of boiling water all day.  Your burning happens while you are living.  That is what conscience is.  That is also what dumb public opinion is.  A branding.  Should it be negative opinion that follows your happenings – and your management of those happenings – you will feel the burn.  That burn is what you learn from.  It is not often easy to be thankful to those who cause you to burn in this life, in fact it is most often the desire of those under fire to do some serious damage to the person or institution doing the burning.  However.  There is always the charitable process of instant forgiveness via the grace of God – if that way is for you.  Or – you tolerate the burn and try to understand what is causing the friction in your days.

If you should find that it is you that is causing friction for yourself because you are being an arsehole in life – and again, both men and women qualify as arseholes – then you must accept the burn.  You allocate to yourself your suffering.  You will burn until you are made humble enough to realise that the way you think and the way you behave towards others does matter.  You will burn until you adjust your attitude to include the understanding that everything you do in life is measured.  Every single thing.  If you are feeling friction because external prejudice is criticising you or your choices, you need to distance yourself from the idiots who practice that prejudice.  Burning because you are gay, for instance, is unacceptable.  Burning because you dare to follow your heart?  That is the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard in my life.  Who dares persecute a person who decides to follow what might appear to the masses to be an ‘unconventional’ path in their pursuit of purpose?  Convention, as a norm, is a load of shit – and tradition is not much better.  They both confine dreams, thinking.  Tradition and convention are constructs.  Reconstruct them.

There are those who enjoy burning.  And there are those who enjoy being on fire.  Leave them be.  It depends what you have been trying to achieve with your life as to how close you will have ventured to the flames and how long you will have exposed yourself to their heat.  Fire is transformative, no matter how you look at it.  The hotter your spot – and we all know what hot means – the more corrective your karma.  That is such a simple concept to understand.  Let karma play out the way it must.  It has your best interests at heart.

And keep in mind that for a phoenix, fire is necessary for rebirth.  For rising.  In the same way the burn caused by your conscience is necessary.  If you have no conscience, know that you are going nowhere.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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25 Nov 2013 · 16:07

Travel – Blog No. 91

Gridlock Pink flat wrap to web © ella doran_0Travel humbles you.  Please – if you have any spare money at all, use it to travel.  It gives you a sense of your space on this planet.  Send your children travelling – as a first priority.  Before studying.  Travel is the wisest investment.  All at once when you are travelling you are vulnerable, intuitive, open to suggestion.  Obliged to trust – and act on – your instincts.  That means watching, taking into consideration other people and their actions for the entire duration of your journey.  You are not more open than when you travel.

Please – one thing I do not understand.  Why do so many European women think it is acceptable to suntan topless in the likes of Egypt, Tunisia, etc?  The quiet men go insane.  They are not used to tits in their faces unless they are married.  If you want to get your tits out, then find a beach suitable for your predilection.  Get a clue.  There is no shortage of these beaches – or saunas – on the European continent – in fact, there is no shortage of these beaches or saunas anywhere in this world when you are a person who loves to spend time with your clothes off.  Find what you want.  The right place.  Do not inflict yourself on someone else.  Go for nudity if you want it, but know there is a place for your exhibitionism.  Find where you are celebrated for your choices and stay there.

Understand that travelling is a privilege.  A huge privilege.  It expands your perception unlike anything else on this planet.  New places, new people.  Yes – if you are in doubt –  do it.  Give yourself the gift of perspective.  Travel and see how distant your ‘real’ world is …

 

 

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22 Nov 2013 · 07:50

Home – Blog No. 90

sexyappleThe drive to go home is a strong pull.  Every one of us has a sense of ‘home’.  We will spend our entire lives travelling there.  It is the wild in you that will direct you to your beginnings.  That is why it is important to acknowledge your wild.  You will take its direction.  It is worth realising that ‘home’ for you is not necessarily ‘home’ for your partner, or others in your immediate family.  You can all be travelling, simultaneously, to different places.  Home is a resting place.  You will feel this, it is a knowing.  You know when you get there, when you leave.  The place in which you live is not necessarily your ‘home’.  It depends on how fully you inhabit it.

Home is where your heart is.  Your heart is where your truth is.  Where you send your head is where you end up.  Every time.  Home is a sanctuary.  Establish early where your ‘home’ is and map the maze that life builds for you around it.  Home will be at core.  Source.  Like a salmon can find its way miles back upstream to its beginnings, you can find your way back home should you need to.  Time and again.  For some, ‘home’ is that safe place they have in their heads – where there are sunny beaches, rainbows, fluffy bunnies.  For others, ‘home’ is their union with another person.  It is quite possible to have a relationship deep enough that it takes you both ‘home’.  I suppose in an ideal world that level of devotion would be evident in every relationship.

Home replenishes the soul.  The starving soul.  And at times every single person on this planet has a starving soul.  When you hunger for ‘home’, that is when you know.  It is visceral.  A calling.  And it grows larger the longer you ignore it.  In fact, your longing for ‘home’ is metastatic.  It starts in your heart, then it begins to overwhelm your reason for being and it conquers your conditioning, the will of the system.  You become acutely aware of its impatience gnawing at your insides – at the edges of your mind – and at some point, you must obey its call.  It is advisable to explain your call to ‘home’ when it comes, before you act on it.  Partners can feel abandoned if you should disappear for a time, on a mission to take yourself ‘home’.  Children will miss you whilst you are gone.  But partners will get over being left, and children will be happy to be reunited with you when you return, refreshed.  Going ‘home’ is cyclical.  Roll with it.

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18 Nov 2013 · 15:44

Forever – Blog No. 89

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15 Nov 2013 · 13:58

Sensitivity – Blog No. 88

bed-of-nailsYou are sensitive by nature, or you are not.  Psychopaths are not.  They are cynical, cruel, disenchanted with existing.  Conscienceless.  They abuse because they do not care.  Perhaps they are born that way.  Perhaps they are all made.  That matters not.  What matters is that there are a lot of them on this planet.  There is not much you can do to improve a psychopath’s outlook.  They carry within them a hatred that intensifies the longer they live.  It is likely that a psychopath will do damage, young.  I think there are a great many teachers at inner-city schools that are dealing with budding psychopaths on a daily basis.  Is it their job to recognise these lost kids?  And what do you do when you recognise a juvenile psychopath – keep your distance and just hope for the best?  I think that is what many teachers and parents do.  They watch kids being abnormal and they hope for the best.  Please know that ‘normal’ does exist.  It is being able to tell right from wrong.

Sensitivity is both a blessing, and a curse.  Its blessing is that it is a portal.  The curse is its tendency to render the environment hostile.  This overworks your adrenals.  If you are sensitive to all things that go on around you, inside of you and others, you will find living in this world to be something of an ordeal.  Being acutely sensitive is usually acutely painful.  There is a way to deal with this.  You need to manage your sensitivity the way you do your emotions.  Acknowledge it.  But toughen yourself up, or accept that your heart is going to bleed every time you step outside.  This world has a harsh reality.

It is not always possible to measure a person’s level of sensitivity by watching their behaviours.  Don’t make assumptions.  People conceal their feelings and control their reactions.  It depends on who they want to show what.  This usually has something to do with the issue of trust.  Sensitivity is often hidden from view until a firm trust has been established.  Even then, there may not be full disclosure.  It depends on the nature of the relationship you are building and the extent of the damage previously done to both parties.  Sadly, sensitivity is easily damaged.  That is why you must manage it.

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11 Nov 2013 · 16:30

Fatness – Blog No. 87

supersizemekidsjpgI think how you look at fatness depends on how fat you are, how fat you have been.  I don’t think it matters one bit whether you are fat or not.  Who cares?  What worries me is fat people who refuse to admit that in order to have a fit, strong body you need to put in some serious work.  Hot bodies do not get the way they are by accident.  And there are such things as bodies that are hot, and bodies that are not.  Our society has made this fact big business.  It is a problem for some people to accept that ‘hot’ exists.  It is real.  Men and women respond to it, alike.  I think it is essential to give credit where credit is due and to me it is hats off to every single person who eats with care and conditions their body.  Simple.  That is discipline.  If you should choose not to spend any hours exercising, then that is your lifestyle choice.  You are entitled to live any way you wish, but you must be happy with the you that your type of living produces.  Some people have no desire to be active, or to be thin.  I salute these people – the ones who don’t give a shit about their size because they do not equate a ‘better’ self with a thinner self.  Theirs’ is a confidence, a kind of freedom that is to be admired – particularly in our über air-brushed world.  I salute, too, the people who are addicted to endorphins.  An exercise addiction in this world is not the worst addiction to have.

It is really important to understand that obesity is bad for you.  If you can, stay on the smaller side of obese.  It is one step too far.  Unless you have a death-wish, in which case your health will not matter to you and you will carry on until you die.  If you are addicted to food and you want to stop eating, you need treatment for your addiction like any addict needs treatment for their addiction.  Please see this.  Addiction is treatable.  Perhaps, too, you need some unconditional love to fill the hole in your soul that you are stuffing with food.  That particular hole can eat.  A lot of people eat to escape how they feel.   Others eat because the pleasure makes them feel temporarily alive.  People eat to pass the time, too.  Eating and boredom are good friends.  If you are one of the people who is in love with the delights of eating – and passionate about everything food and cooking – then you will not want to stay away from it and you should not.  Celebrate your passion:  drown yourself in sensation.

Please do not make children obese.  That is child abuse.  It has nothing to do with aesthetics – it is just not fair.  Your issues should not be theirs’.   Know that comfort-eating is a habit, learned.  It can be unlearned.  If you should believe that showing love means feeding your children until they burst, then take a long objective look at any over-large child’s achievements in a competitive playground.  If you do not care whether your child achieves anything in life, then that is a problem.  Realise that as the parent of an obese child, you are misguided.  You have a dysfunctional relationship with food.  Please give your children a chance in their world.  Like it or not, their world is body-conscious.  Give your child self-esteem, encourage fitness, wellness.  Don’t relegate a child to a place where it is first in line to be ridiculed.  Remember, kids are cruel.

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08 Nov 2013 · 13:46

Breeding – Blog No. 86

IVF donation tinsWhy do people who can barely provide for themselves, breed?  Why are millions of children caught up in their parent’s poverty?  When you bring a child into a shit life – and you know very well whether your life is shit or not – what are you thinking?  I don’t think you are thinking.  You can’t be.  In some countries children are bred to sell, or to work.  That makes no sense.  The parents must work.  For themselves, first.  If you cannot put food on the table for yourself, let alone a family, then you have to sit parenthood out.  You do not breed children to provide for you – know that for free.  It is time people grew more responsible and looked at what they are doing to themselves, as a whole.  What are you showing a child when you bear and raise it in poverty, squalour?  You are teaching it disease and suffering.  Death.  Why would anyone choose to do that?  As a parent, do not tell me that there is surplus energy to love and nurture your children when you are struggling to stay alive.

Breeding violence is not productive.  What is the point of generation after generation learning that hurting other people is how you send a message or get what you want?  That is not the way.  Violence is second nature to some people.  It is their first reaction to any confrontation.  In fact, violent people will seek confrontation so that they can inflict damage.  Theirs’ is a bizarre mindset.  It wants controlling.  Realise that violence changes a person.  It hardens your heart.  If you commit acts of violence, you are not in control.  You need to be in control of your wild inside.  The anger that drives violence is a voice – amidst many – that still needs to be heard, but there are other ways for that pain to say what needs saying.  The fact that so much senseless violence is played out through alcohol intoxication should alert mankind to what it becomes under the influence.  Often, where there is truth there is conflict.

In the same way that you get breeds of animals, you get breeds of people.  Of men.  Women.  Animals accept their classification without taking it personally.  Humans don’t.  They fight themselves, each other, over what and who they are.  They are precious about their identity.  This is a consistency, everywhere.  It causes wars.  You are bred into tradition – the system – or you are bred to question the system.  Some people are bred into wealth.  What they do with that privilege is always measured.  You are bred into security, or you are not.  If you are not, your questions are for your parents.  Hard workers are a breed of people.  As are the compassionate.  Arseholes, too, are a breed.  Take each at face value.

 

 

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04 Nov 2013 · 17:24

In love – Blog No. 85

36873290668578694Qqq3i154cKnow that in love is a sacred place.  It is the secret garden.  It is where miracles take place.  Every person has a key to the door.  It is not easy to find, the door.  In fact, searching for this sacred place will often take you the same way that a rainbow does.  On a chase.  It will be a long chase for many.  Should in love simply happen upon you, consider yourself particularly blessed.  In love can be sudden.  It is a quickening.  You know immediately the first moment it is real for you.  It is possible to become more in love with someone as time goes on.  There are many long-standing relationships that can attest to that.

You cannot manipulate in love, nor can you ‘cure’ it.  It tells you what is going on, not the other way around.  It runs your system when it is first visiting.  Embrace its autonomy.  Once inside you, it can lie dormant and then wake up again at any time, unannounced.  Watch for its surprises.  Should you never have been in love, you are in for a treat when it happens.  Trust that it will happen at least once in your lifetime.  If it has never happened, you need to look at why your walls are built so high.  You cannot feel in love unless you let it in.

In love is probably the most powerful force on the planet.  Love, in itself, is second.  They are not mutually exclusive.  It is perhaps not necessary to love someone and be in love with them, but you cannot be in love and not feel love, too.  That, is impossible.  The nature of what you feel is highly specific, if you take the time to dissect it.  Love is steady, strong.  Solid.   A slow-burner.  It is there, even when its existence is denied.  In love lights a fire.  It is wild, but it softens you.  It attacks your nerves and makes you feel vulnerable.  Love, in itself, is not vulnerable.  Not one bit.  It is delicate, but it is not vulnerable.  Value love in your life.  And treasure in love if you should find it, or if it should find you.  It is not in your repertoire to be ignored.

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01 Nov 2013 · 15:51

Depth – Blog No. 84

Escher_DepthThe depth of your perception dictates your life experience.  If you exercise your perception – shift your focus – from time to time, it does your opinions good.  Perspective and perception are not the same.  Perspective affects perception.  Changing your perspective – your standpoint – is an effective way of exercising your perception.  Do it often.  The depth of your perception is directly proportional to the depth of your understanding of life.  Spend time understanding life.  It welcomes your curiosity.

You have a depth to your character.  You have a depth to your feelings.  You have depths of despair.  All this is familiar news to anyone with the ability to focus inwards.  Focussing inwards allows you to see deep into your meaning.  It is important to know what you mean in this life.  Your life is not some random event.  Do not forget this.

Think of living as being the ocean.  There are swells, waves, Bermuda Triangles.  Creatures.  The deep.  You can choose to go in, or not.  Should you be standing at the edge, about to take the plunge into turbulent waters, know that there could be death lurking.  There could be.  A lot depends on how well you swim.  If you cannot swim, you should learn.

 

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28 Oct 2013 · 10:23

Timing – Blog No. 83

just-a-pinch-buddah-perfect-timingTiming is everything in life.  Just think, you cannot force a rose to bloom.  You cannot hurry up a caterpillar with its business of changing into a butterfly.  You stand back, and you watch.  When the time is right these things happen.  They know when.  If you are a wise person, you will appreciate every stage of the changing.  You will allow things to become what they must, in their own good time and you will marvel – with hindsight – at the process.  Hindsight is a tool.  Use it.  It is helpful when you want to get a feel for how far you have come.

Timing is vital.  If you jump at the wrong moment, for instance, you will land badly.  If you are going to leap, you must time your leap perfectly.  The only way to do that is to trust instinct implicitly when it comes to you, insisting.  Instinct will have all its reasons lined up and ready for inspection should you be able to stay quiet for long enough for them to make themselves heard.  You have to listen carefully to its justifications, instinct can explain your very purpose on the planet.

You are not where you are in time, by accident.  Your timing is your responsibility.  Use it to perfect yourself to benefit mankind.  Keep in mind that your version of a perfect self is whatever perfect means to you.  Perfect is being in a place where you like yourself, your contribution to the world.  If you are not in that place then you must ask yourself why.  There are always reasons why, you must just feel like hearing them.  If you can do something that no one else can do, do it so that others can see.  We can all benefit from that kind of sharing.  If you do not yet know what you are capable of, then learn.  There is always time for that.

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