Tag Archives: life

09 Dec 2013 · 09:48

Transition – Blog No. 94

TransitionLogoSmllTransition is an interesting phase.  It is closure on one level, and the opening up of a brand new vista on another.  Transitions in life – and you will have a few – may cause you to lose the reference points with which you have become familiar.  You will need to establish new reference points and you will need to be pragmatic about the process of saying goodbye to the old ones.  Reference points only serve you for the duration of their lifespan, there is no need to be sentimental about starting afresh.

Transition is about changing.  Again – respect that change is life.  That is the one reality you cannot escape.  The more precious we are about holding on to our personal ‘history’, the more difficult it is to embrace change.  Be selective about what you are precious about.  Transitions do not come without warning, but they do happen without your permission.  They come at exactly the right time.  It is wise to accept their arrival.

Transition is about growing, too.  This can be a seamless process, you can expand your capacity without it being painful.  Often, it is painful.  You are pushing yourself to capacity, and beyond – which hurts.  There is always the beyond.  There is always something extra where you expect to be empty.  You just have to find the courage to go there.  You become what you are meant to be through transition.  Each transition, a success.  No matter how you respond to the transition that is sent to change you, change you will.  So that is success.

Death is one of life’s transitions.  Viva la vista.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

22 Nov 2013 · 07:50

Home – Blog No. 90

sexyappleThe drive to go home is a strong pull.  Every one of us has a sense of ‘home’.  We will spend our entire lives travelling there.  It is the wild in you that will direct you to your beginnings.  That is why it is important to acknowledge your wild.  You will take its direction.  It is worth realising that ‘home’ for you is not necessarily ‘home’ for your partner, or others in your immediate family.  You can all be travelling, simultaneously, to different places.  Home is a resting place.  You will feel this, it is a knowing.  You know when you get there, when you leave.  The place in which you live is not necessarily your ‘home’.  It depends on how fully you inhabit it.

Home is where your heart is.  Your heart is where your truth is.  Where you send your head is where you end up.  Every time.  Home is a sanctuary.  Establish early where your ‘home’ is and map the maze that life builds for you around it.  Home will be at core.  Source.  Like a salmon can find its way miles back upstream to its beginnings, you can find your way back home should you need to.  Time and again.  For some, ‘home’ is that safe place they have in their heads – where there are sunny beaches, rainbows, fluffy bunnies.  For others, ‘home’ is their union with another person.  It is quite possible to have a relationship deep enough that it takes you both ‘home’.  I suppose in an ideal world that level of devotion would be evident in every relationship.

Home replenishes the soul.  The starving soul.  And at times every single person on this planet has a starving soul.  When you hunger for ‘home’, that is when you know.  It is visceral.  A calling.  And it grows larger the longer you ignore it.  In fact, your longing for ‘home’ is metastatic.  It starts in your heart, then it begins to overwhelm your reason for being and it conquers your conditioning, the will of the system.  You become acutely aware of its impatience gnawing at your insides – at the edges of your mind – and at some point, you must obey its call.  It is advisable to explain your call to ‘home’ when it comes, before you act on it.  Partners can feel abandoned if you should disappear for a time, on a mission to take yourself ‘home’.  Children will miss you whilst you are gone.  But partners will get over being left, and children will be happy to be reunited with you when you return, refreshed.  Going ‘home’ is cyclical.  Roll with it.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

26 Jul 2013 · 11:06

Disillusionment – Blog No. 58

old_people_illusionDisillusionment needs to be thrown out of the window.  Toss it out.  What is the point of being disillusioned?  Being disillusioned means admitting that you are a victim of life.  No one wants to be a victim of life.  Life plays hard with everybody, alike.  Do not imagine that your woes are worse than another’s – I can guarantee you they are not.  You are not here to count your woes, in any case.  You are here to count your blessings.  Your woes can keep count of themselves, believe me.  Let them.  In fact – let your woes, go.  Who says you cannot?  Where they go is not your business.  Good riddance.  Why can you not just cut them loose?  Because you count on your woes to keep you in your comfort zone.  What is more familiar – and cozy – than a place so tried and tested that we know exactly how it goes?  We all know how our heads go when we let ourselves dwell on our woes.  We must  watch woes with a cautious eye, they are often more illusory than they are, real.  Pull yourself free of your illusion – see the world for what it is without passing judgement and decide to have an impact on its destiny.

If you should deliberately disillusion children for a living, stop it.  Let them believe in the tooth fairy or the tooth mouse, Father Christmas, the Easter Bunny and superheroes, if they choose to.  Let them have imaginary friends.  It does not mean they are psychotic.  Their realities are as much a construct as yours are – make space in your reality for the reality of your child.  It will have developed independent of you and it needs space to grow.  As a parent, you must respect your child’s internal reality and you must know that what you choose to show your child of this life will tell in its understanding of its external reality.  As the guide – the role-model – you are in charge of demonstrating what life is, and what it does.  You are responsible for giving your child the beginnings of an imagination, too.  How you choose to do that is up to you.  If you are absent when it comes to your child building a world inside of its head – if you show your child nothing that it finds worthwhile – then you are not giving the child anything to use as a foundation for its build.  If you fail to provide a base for your child’s early belief systems then it can safely be said that as a parent you are being negligent.  Negligent parents are not what this world needs.

Should you subscribe to the theory that life is an illusion – or that we live our illusions – then you will understand that disillusionment is absolutely pointless.  How can you be disillusioned  when you have chosen your own path?  When you do not take the beaten track you can make no comparisons.  Nothing is as it was before.  What you see is what you get, and that is what you work with.  You run the risk of feeling at a loss now and again – that is natural in a greedy world filled with takers – but you should not allow that feeling to take hold.  It is an occupational hazard.  Disillusionment at the hands of an illusion saps strength.  The strength you need to live an illusion (because you will live your illusion in conjunction with your other realities) comes from knowing that you can.  You can manage your illusion with some precision.  Illusions are where we keep our best, because in an illusion your best is untouchable.  If you cannot conceive of having a ‘best’ then you are on the wrong path.  Get off it.  Look around.  Go where no one has gone before.  Go to the unknown.  It is a place in you.  It is most likely that you will find yourself best on this path, in that place.  Get busy interpreting and living your dreams  – share your inner reality, even if it is only with yourself.  If you want to find a way to make it real, you will.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

19 Jul 2013 · 11:17

Porn – Blog No. 56

porn-logic_o_175338Porn is a bigger problem than you perhaps realise.  Kids under 10 are looking at it – girls, as well as boys.  It is not just looking at it that is a problem.  Reading it can be a problem, too, if you read hardcore copy.  Porn bends heads.  It scares girls, wakes up Pandora.  Porn has extraordinary power and it needs to be kept away from children.  It damages them.  You will have to accept that we will not eradicate porn from this world, but it should be better regulated.  Adults who enjoy porn should look a little deeper into their sex.  They will probably find that on a level their sex is hectic, but empty.  How much transgression can you watch going on before you start to transgress as part of an everyday?  What you watch becomes your reality.  Choose carefully what thoughts you fill your head with.  There is a lot of depraved thinking going on in the minds of boys and men and there are enough loose women desperate enough to comply with their desires.  This needs dealing with.  I am not suggesting that it is only men, either.  Women these days have seriously questionable morals – they are as much into whoring as the men are.  A lot of women are predators.  A lot of men are corruptors of innocence, they get off on turning you into a bad girl for their entertainment.  Watch for them.  Porn has bred whoring.  Be watchful, too, for money-whores.  There are a great many of those in our world.  Porn is the difference between a ‘fuck’ and making love.  Love lets you know everything you need to know about making it.  A ‘fuck’ is nothing.  Know that a lot of men out there are fucking women for a living.  They tell the women what they need to hear – lies, usually, and they ply them with alcohol to loosen their inhibitions and get into their pants.  Women are not good at drinking too much and keeping their pants on.  A woman who needs love (and there are a lot of those in our world) wants to believe the random man whispering in her ear actually cares about her and she opens willingly to his approach.  Easy.  Know that he does not care.  He is taking from her her grace, her innocence.  Bit by bit.  As a woman, please do not be under the illusion – ever – that when you let a man into your pants after three minutes that it is love.  It never, ever is.  It is purely physical.  You are a sex toy.  Understand this when you want to make sense of your life.

We need to replace porn with erotica.  Erotica is hot, porn is not.  Erotica is different – lust is a reality for every single one of us.  Carnal lust.  The carnal lust that drives the animal in all of us will surprise us with its power time and again.  If you fail to recognise the animal in you, you are missing vital information from your understanding of life.  Know that love and lust do go hand in hand.  Both are instincts.  Love and lust are bed-fellows in good relationships.  If you do not feel lust, or cannot feel lust – then something is wrong with your sex.  You must investigate what is not right in your love life.  It is time to look at what you expect from sex, what you require from sex and what you are not getting.  If you are not getting love – just a few hours of physical intimacy with a stranger – then your sex life is pretty pointless, it has to be said.  You should perhaps change the way you go about doing what you do.

Sex should not become boring.  Boring is dangerous.  Comfortable is fine, but avoid boring because it leads to transgression.  Boring means you need to reconsider your relationship before you do something that is going to jeopardise it.  Kids must learn young what sex is about and what it is for.  Important – it is not only for procreation, for god’s sake.  It is there for pleasure.  If kids should hear the wrong thing about sex in the first place, this is an issue.  Teach them right.  Porn tells a wrong story and it should not be their introduction.

If you aspire to – or do – live like a porn star in your real life then understand that you are the kind of person that is destroying the equilibrium in this world, i.e. the peace.  Please stop it.  People who use others for sex are selfish.  You do not ever use somebody for sex.  And you do not ever take someone’s sex from them.  EVER.  You respect that sex is a demonstration of love – not simply a quick way to get your rocks off or boost your self-esteem.  Ironically, random sex will not boost your self-esteem.  It will eat away at your insides.  You throw your name away each time you do it.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

07 Jun 2013 · 10:35

Passion – Blog No. 45

live-with-passionIn this life it is vital to have a passion.  At least one.  It can be anything.  A person, a project, your life.  If your life is your passion then you will have spent a lot of time contemplating it.  It is through contemplation that we can come to conclusions.  We must always follow through to conclusion, there is no point half-doing something or leaving loose ends.  Loose ends are always going to drag on your consciousness – to save yourself the waste of energy carrying that excess weight make sure you are disciplined enough to finish what you start.  Passion is flow.  When you experience flow, you are immersed in your reality to the extent that you are operating at optimum levels and your mind and body are aligned, you are focussed.  People who have an attention deficit disorder – and I think a great many people have an attention deficit disorder – find it difficult to feel flow.  Flow is a feeling.  You know you are part of something far greater than the reality in which you are currently confined.  Each life-time is a life-sentence, think about it.  You cannot escape from the learning that this world will give you.  Even if you kill yourself,  you will still return to learning – it is simply that your life-sentence has been cut short.  There is no shortage of new ones.  In this world we are sure of that.

Trust your passion.  You will know when you have a passion.  It consumes you.  It is an emotional workout, having a passion.  A tsunami of feeling.  You find yourself sinking under, fighting to the surface only to sink again into its depths.  You find your secrets in the depths, it becomes a place you do not want to leave when you find it.  The thing to know is that you can breathe underwater.  It is something you discover when you are sinking.  Your mind is alive, creative and alert – the world around you is filled with possibility and wonder.  A passion makes you believe in yourself, in the framework of this universe.  A passion should feel good.  If it does not feel good then it is possibly an obsession rather than a passion.  Be aware of the difference between the two.  An obsession can be confusing.  A passion is not confusing – it makes every bit of sense when you understand what wonders it does for your being.  A lot of people with a passion for something can make a big difference in this world.  All you have to do is find what you feel strongly about.  Find the feelings that provoke you to thought and underneath those feelings you will find some of your beliefs.  Keep them in perspective, as you do with your convictions.  Both can brain-wash you.  Behind your beliefs you will find some lone convictions – which are hard to shake, but shake them up – and then you will be where you want to be:  in passion.  It is a state of being.  It is fuelled by hope – which lies deep inside Pandora’s Box, underneath her chaos and disorder.  We all have a Pandora’s Box.  Some of us are just more familiar with its darkness, its lessons that will get us to the light.  It takes courage to open your particular Pandora’s Box.  Once you open it, it is not easy to close again.  There is a fascination with what we store away in our secret places.  Dreams, hopes, fears.  We need to find the fears and address them.  Fears cannot be allowed to dominate you when it comes to analysing yourself.  Fears are a contaminant.  It is a good idea to look yourself square in the eye and see who it is that you truly are.  When you recognise your truth you will be clear what passion means in your life.   An addiction to passion is not much of a problem.  It is still an addiction – and the thing about addictions is that they demonstrate that something in you is out of balance.  So keep addictions where you can see them at all times, they are crafty manipulators.

I have a passion for learning.  I find life interesting and I have a passion for thinking.  I am determined to show a way to fix this world.  I know it can be done.  People need to get over their skin-colour first of all.  Realise that each person you deal with – each one – can contribute something to your life.  You just need to ask the right questions.  You have to see value in exchange, sharing.  How can you not see value in sharing?  People need to compromise.  The women who are trying to be men in a man’s world should not wear themselves out.  Their battle is pointless.  What are they doing comparing themselves to men in the first place?  Men are men.  That will never change.  We have babies – they don’t.  We are different creatures.  Why is that overlooked so often?  A man has a penis.  A woman does not.  It is clear to see who is who and what is what if you look in the right places.  Let men be men – they are good at it.  Fighting about not being treated like a man is not productive.  Fight for being an independent woman.  That kind of fighting energy is helpful.  Did you know that men are more highly evolved than women?  Sorry if that offends a few people – and it probably will – but it is true.  They are all female until 12 weeks  – and then they change into men.  Men are more specific than women are – they are woman first, then man.  How much of a difference this makes to their ability to understand the peculiar ways of women I don’t know, but I imagine even having been female for 12 weeks does not guarantee that a man will understand a woman.  It depends on what, exactly, comes together in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy.  I think that most women confound most men.  Women are a strange breed, it has to be said.  I think women can be magical creatures but they can be a nightmare.   The problem is that women trust less than men, there is an imbalance there.  It is a pity we must exist in a world where women feel they cannot trust men.  The men should be better behaved.  I am speaking to those who behave badly, and we have all behaved badly in our time.  We have all caused pain to another person, so do not put yourself anywhere near a pedestal no matter who you are.  Know that this world will recycle pain until the humans stop causing it – to themselves.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

20 May 2013 · 11:45

Will – Blog No. 40

i canIf you do not have it, you must cultivate the will to face all things.  That means facing your fears.  Fears are deceptive.  Realise that before you realise anything else.  They give the impression that they are material because they feel as real as any feeling you may have.  Fear – as a feeling – is a powerful motivator.  There is a lot of news about giving your feelings a miss, that they are not to be allowed to dominate your everyday.  I put it to you that you are a human being.  How can you not be dominated by your feelings?  Even serial killers are under the control of their feelings.  It is the rush of death that keeps them doing what they do.  That rush is within.  A feeling.  The same rush you or I might feel when we succeed at something that is important to us.  To complement will, you need courage.  Fortitude.  Courage comes in many shapes and sizes.  Feelings, too.

You cultivate will through pointing out to yourself the positives in any given situation.  The positives engender hope, and we all work well when we allow ourselves to hope.  We can find the will to strive towards something that is better than where we find ourselves now.  Hoping for the best outcome for yourself in whatever predicament you might find yourself is one of the simplest things you can do to change your patterns of thinking.  Instead of dreading an impending disaster (even if there is one coming), or imagining the worst possible scenario that could present itself – try imagining for once that things are going to work out the way you need them to.  I am talking about the big picture.  You need to practice focussing on the big(ger) picture.  The realities you are a part of are stepping stones across a wide, strong river.  You can choose to see this and use the stones to cross over or you can stay back on the riverbank for eternity.  I would suggest that you do not stay on the bank.  Take a step into the river and stand for a moment, feel the movement around you.  That is who you are in this world.

The unexpected can weaken our will.  When we are faced with surprises in life we tend towards a brief panic and then a desperate clinging to anything in the vicinity that is familiar.  We cling to our conditioning, to our behaviours, to our beliefs.  To other people.  We must learn not to cling to other people.  That is like a drowning man drowning his rescuer.  We need to learn that life surprises (of the startling variety) all contain learning.  Step back when they happen and see where your instincts take you.  We are forced to use our initiative when dealing with the new.  Initiative is valuable, nurture your nature.

Remember, too, that our will needs to get us through adversity.  It needs to take us through our worst, when it comes.  And it always comes.  The thing to remember is that it always goes.  That come and go, ebb and flow, is life living for you.  Appreciate its miracle.  Appreciate that your worst is only ever as bad as your good is good.  The higher your highs, the lower your lows.  That is equilibrium.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

03 May 2013 · 08:33

Love never fails – Blog No. 35

love is kindLove never fails.  That is what to take from the lesson on the left.  In an ideal world, love would guide everyone.  It doesn’t.  Also, it would be everywhere.  It isn’t.  This world is far from ideal.  However.  There are those who have it, and those who do not.  It is clear to see those who have it. They walk around like the Dalai Lama with a heart open, oozing pure love.  Feeding the environments – both physical and mental – with positivity, like prayer flags feeding the breeze.  To be able to do that takes a lot of practice, and it takes an extraordinary amount of personal work.  You don’t get to be the Dalai Lama by accident.  To him, love comes naturally.  Love is breathing.  Alive.

To understand that we are a reflection of this love is to achieve perfection with your life.  Unfortunately there are a great many obstacles between realising perfection and achieving it.   But obstacles are just that.  They are in the way, they are not insurmountable.  They are sent our way to challenge our complacent ideal, our idea of life.  We are all affected by our externals, those naturally-occurring factors that shape our realities.  Realise that reality is pretty reactionary.  It responds to you.  It is a pity we cannot control every one of our externals.  Nature has the element of surprise on her side.  She is never complacent.  She is in her same cycle of hot, cold, hot, cold.  At the moment she is heating up again.  Her path is prescribed.  She rolls around as does spring, summer, autumn, winter.  Each time, the same.  Nature knows what to do.  What she did not anticipate was the rush of humans on the face of her earth.  There are too many of us.  That fact is not worth panicking about, but it is a reality worth waking up to.  Who are you to have more than a handful of children?  A handful is enough in any culture.

Be aware, too, that you do not need to keep children as contingencies.  You do not need your genes out in the world over and over again.  These days be prudent.  A reasonable number of children should satisfy family needs.  How hard must some parents try to get it right?  Or is it that a breed of women just do not care that they are breeding creatures rather than people?  For that is what they are doing.  There is a breed of women with five children by five different men who are not around.  What does that say about society?  It says society is failing.  What can a teenager teach a child?  Life experience is what you share with a child.  I have seen these mothers swearing at their kids so many times it becomes unremarkable.  I do not believe that it is productive for a child to grow up being sworn at.  That is like being spoken at.  It is rude.  From the other side – would you want to be trapped as a dad (and keep in mind a dad is different to a father) as a teenager?  Not a chance.  These teenage mothers are a problem.  The solution?  Girls should keep their legs together when they drink or learn to use contraception.  They should stop the rush to motherhood.  It is not an escape.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , ,

15 Apr 2013 · 09:51

Letting go – Blog No. 32

let-goSo you let go.  That means what, exactly?  You tell yourself in your head that you have made a conscious choice to detach yourself from a thought, an idea, a dream.  (A point in hand – do not detach yourself from too many of your dreams.  They make your present liveable).  Then you stand objective and feel how it feels to be ‘without’ whatever it was.  A person, a situation, a memory.  In analysing that feeling – the emptiness – are you honest enough to admit to yourself that lurking on the sidelines of your thinking is the forgotten whatever it was?  It is always watching you try to forget it.  You are busy trying to forget how it feels to be with that thing.  How it is to carry its weight.  It’s just not possible.  The minute you turn your back you will find that your subconscious is busy soliciting the forbidden thinking.  It’s rebellious like that.  So how to really let go?  You have to make an arrangement with your heart to let go.  Heart holds on tight.  In fact, it is a bit like a child.  It holds tight to what keeps it happy.  Your mind can understand that you must separate yourself from something that is causing complications in your life.  Your heart can’t.  Heart accepts all and this makes for complications.  Complications are put where they are to keep us from getting too easy with being.  Life demands respect and should you fail to show due respect for its display it will send you reminders that you are merely human.  Each time a complexity unveils itself in your space – like an unexpected emotional outburst, or a twist in your life path that you were not expecting – it is a small test of your capacity.  If you freak out each time life hands you something you thought you did not require, think again.  You never get what you don’t need.  You have made sure of that.  Learn to accept what it is that has been put on your plate and work with it rather than against it – that is better for your development.  If you keep fighting the learning you are sent you will have to keep being taught.  That can be guaranteed.

We have all heard this:  If you love something, set it free.  If it comes back to you it is yours.  If it doesn’t, it never was.  How about this – you are making a mistake if you set what you love, free.  You have to think of both sides.  Who are you to free what it is that you love in the first place?  It was never yours to set free, or hold on to.  Love is a force.  It is true unto itself.  Love chooses what it wants because of what you need.  It is considerate that way.  Love is alive.  It is not something superficial, something to be trifled with, something you can cling to.  You cannot cling to love.  You cannot bend it to your will.  It dictates its flow, you just have to hold on tight and know that wherever it is going will be interesting.  It is surprisingly powerful, love.  It can make you do things you thought were impossible.  It can make you push yourself harder than anything else can push you.  It can make you feel things that you cannot explain and perhaps do not want to explain.  Love defies labelling.  It is nothing but itself.  It tickles.  It hurts.  It keeps you from feeling alone – that is why it is in you in the first place.  We are born alone?  We are only born alone in the sense that until we take our first independent breath we are empty of spirit.  We die alone?  I do not think we die alone.  I think we die safe in the arms of our deepest beliefs once consciousness is shut off.  That means death is nothing to fear.  It is just a part of life.  Where your head goes – now that is where you want to be concentrating your energies.  That is where you will end up for your eternity.

 

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , ,

29 Mar 2013 · 11:13

Life/Death – Blog No. 27

Mother_Nature_by_pincel3dConsider that when your energy moves from this incarnation into another one, your journey continues.  Your starting point is where you left off.  You do not escape your fate.  Each time we leave we take with us our learning and when we return to adopt a new embodiment we face upon our paths further trials that will teach us to respect the mistakes we have made during the cycle of our lifetimes.  Understand that should you be bound back to earth, or choose to return time and again, each time you come back to take human form you commit to a life of learning.  This is no small undertaking.  The only way to extract yourself from this natural cycle is to kill yourself, and the flow of life does not look favourably on those who patently refuse to learn.  Life is not precious about who it teaches, what.  It has plenty to show us, so much to share with us.  You need to connect with your life, open to it, in order to receive its gifts.  If you are closed, you receive nothing.  You receive nothing because you are giving nothing.  Life is an energy, a living force, a history in motion.  We are the sum of our histories, the picture of our pasts.  You are not a snapshot, happening.  You are in continuum.  It is important to remember that life happens for us, not to us.  We should appreciate its show.  Also, know that life is not personal and therefore it should not be taken personally.  Death is not personal, either.  It just is.  When your due day is approaching, you may know about it, you may not.  You should not know exactly your last moment.  That is not for you to know.  Think – if you know about it you are taking big risks.  You are throwing down a gauntlet.  When you take your own life you are stealing breath from Nature’s lungs.  Nature does not like thieves.  She does not understand how a human being cannot honour living by showing trust – no matter how drastic a depression or challenging one’s circumstance.  Hers is the life-force and it does not know how to stop striving to keep us all alive.  Should you cut short her transfusion to you, you will suffer the outcome of that severence.  That outcome is a lonely place to be.  Nature moves on with her business.  She does not loiter in the shadows, begging for alms, pleading her case or yours.  She takes stock and she moves on towards equilibrium.  We should realise that we are all on her path to equilibrium.  Each of us.  We should sit back and happen, watch ourselves act, trust in her guidance, because it is what will get us to the other side.  The other side is where we exist, at perfection.  Each of us.  That place perfection is real.  There are those who have achieved perfection with their lives.  Not many, but there are those.   Utopia does exist.  Living and dying are equally likely to find you a place there.  It just depends how you live, and how you die.  You must be sure when you die that you have all your ducks in a row.  You cannot die with business unfinished.  When you take your life you are taking yourself out of the equation and leaving unfinished business.  Nature does not like unfinished business.  She will insist that you return to pick up your own mess.  No one is in charge of your life, but you.  Nature was in charge of your birth.  She  is in charge of your death. Trust that she knows best your moment to go.  Take that privilege from her and you will find yourself lost on the other side without a ready guide.  That is Nature’s way.   Should you wish to take her on, you will see that she will simply transform you.  She transforms herself, all the time.  To transform us is her job.  She doesn’t take lightly to having her job dictated by humans.  She will collect you when she is ready, not before.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , , , , ,

15 Mar 2013 · 12:03

Inspiration/Expiration – Blog No. 23

inspiration_signInspiration is powerful.  It motivates you to act.  Feeling inspired does not mean sitting dreaming about possibilities.  It means sitting and dreaming, of course, but it means more than that.  It means doing something with the energy generated by your ideas.  Good ideas create good vibes.  Bad ideas do not.  Bad ideas sometimes supercede good ideas.  It happens.  That is because a bad idea is usually disguised as a good idea in the head of the thinker.   It is astounding what you can convince yourself of if you are determined.  Use your inspiration to inspire others.  What greater gift can you give the world?  Inspire your colleagues by being the positive guy.  Inspire your family by being real.  Watching somebody be real is a privilege.  It is a pity we do not do it more often.  It is a good way to show respect for ourselves and regard for another person.

46234_expired_timeExpiration is equally powerful.  It is the opposite of inspiration but it does not feel like it is.  It does not feel like demotivation and it does not feel too much like breathing, either.  To me, it feels like death.  We expire, eventually.  When we have done what we were sent to do on this planet, we die.  Try not to be sentimental about death.  It happens all the time.  There is no point in fearing it.  It is a freedom.  It is a state we should learn to understand better, not dread.  We have become a little too precious about death in the 21st century, despite our being bombarded with terminal facts and figures that defy reason and belief.  Death is in our faces every day.  What we learn is that we are alive, then we are not.  Death is life.  We should not hang on too tightly to the departed – as hard as that can be – we must let them move on without us because our possessiveness hinders their ability to leave this material plane.  Do not cause your loved ones to have to wait forever for you to be over them, because they will wait for as long as you need them.  Let them go forwards.  They have a path that needs travelling, they have their own footprints to find.  They have their own karmas to meet.  Remember that when you are dead you do not feel sad for the living.  You do not feel.  Those of us left behind, feel.  That is life.  If we can realise that being dead is not a punishment, we can evolve.  Dead is simply where you end up after being alive.  How you die is what is important.  We should all aspire to dying in our sleep – that is a treasure unlike any other.

We keep a spirit alive by letting it breathe through us.  Do not be selfish with your breathing.  When you speak of the dead, try to speak of them with love.  It is a good thing for you and it is a good thing for them.  The dead are best pleased to hear words of love.  They are no different to the living.

Leave a comment

Filed under blogs

Tagged as , , , , ,