How do you prevent yourself from morphing into that most heinous of beasts; the cause of boredom? That bore that comes of common complacency, and the bore that you become to yourself when you refuse to use your life for the purpose it was built? Your life was built for your self-expression. If you fail to express yourself – anywhichwayhow you can manage it – you fail at your core purpose. Self-expression and self-esteem are inextricably linked – do not forget that.
Boring is tiring. It is a decimator. Boring is adhering religiously – yes, religiously – to a certain set of circumspect rules that you allow to govern your life. You should stand up for yourself more. You should stand up to yourself more. We’re tyrants. Each one of us. That is perhaps no comforting thought, but it is fact. When you learn to meet and greet frequently your menace you will find yourself more able – and better-equipped – to face your demons. Demons are in fact not as terrifying as we make them out to be to ourselves. They all have their reasons, they all have a message to share. It is in watching their behaviour(s) that you will find resolution, if you choose to use their (very manageable) resources to your benefit. Again – that choice is up to you. Deny that you have demons and I will laugh.
Back to boring. Boredom. A low boredom threshold is not a sign or symbol of a maladjusted human being. It is the sign of someone who will not tolerate mediocrity in either their own lives, or those of the people they allow to influence their days. We all allow someone to influence our days. A friend, a dead someone, an abusive memory made by one of the ego-tamers in our lives. We all meet those – and believe me, we need them. Ego-tamers are like gifts from the gods. Learn to recognise them for who they are and celebrate their attention. Ensure that you do not confuse an ego-tamer with an abuser. They are very different creatures.









Say what you mean – Blog No. 26
Take control of what you tell people. Moderate your own comments before you make them. People do not need to know your every negative thought, know that. There are too many people talking noisily about nothing in this world. There are too many people following roads that go nowhere, giving a running commentary on their travelling experience. The true journey only begins when your feet find the right road. That is when you touch base with something sacred and your commentary becomes relevant. You will hear yourself clearly when your say-so is from your heart. Others will hear you clearly, too. Understand that until the moment – the psychological moment – that your commentary becomes relevant to you, you are confined to the corners of your life. Speaking from your own periphery is pointless. Speak directly to – and from – your core. Realise that sometimes you may surprise yourself with the things you say. Get used to being forthright, but practice not speaking your every thought. You are asking someone else to listen when you open your mouth. That is the way of humans. Make sure when you ask someone to listen to you, you have something to contribute to their day. That is the first thing. Out of respect, do not waste another’s time by whining in their ears. That makes two of you tired and contributes nothing to either of your lives. Speak to be understood. To do that – understand yourself. Observe yourself without judging your behaviours. That will bring you a new understanding and a new wisdom that you will find it relevant to share. Watch yourself change, evolve. Give yourself permission to grow. You will find that you do.
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